i am engaged with my fiance for 3 years.
my fanilly is asking money on loan from him.
what do you think is it right?
they are angry at me because he doesnt agree with it.
please help me and tell me your opinion.
soory of my spelling mistakes.
thank you.
2007-01-06 06:49:56 · 11 answers · asked by mkgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your family has no right to ask much of him especially money. Money doesn't make for a good relationship. Marriage is about love and money shouldn't have anything to do with it.
He's right, don't let your family dictate your love life, it's yours not theirs.
2007-01-06 06:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is right. If it hasnt already it will cause a strain on your relationship with him and could result in you guys breaking up. I have a firm belief , never loan money to friends or family, because they are always the ones who take advantage of the situation,and never feel like they have to pay toy back. If he does loan the money make sure that he draws up a contract and, and repayment arrangements are made and make sure that it is signed by both parties, that way it's legal and if repayment is not made they he has a legal standing to get the money back. :) Good luck
2007-01-06 14:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girly a loan is a loan.. A loan u have to pay back.. When u ask for something u have to be considerate and say ok.. When family helps you out with money... u always have to be carefull on how they take it and as well on how u take it.. When they say loan or borrow.. u obviously have to give it back.. Now if they said that it was ok and they will help ur fiance... and gave it as a family donation then there is a problem.. but no matter what when u need help or ur fiance does.. i always recommend to pay it back.. because not only they helped u out .... u helped them out as well but giving them something they had and no longer have now...
2007-01-06 15:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by peepsqueak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, let me get this straight:
Your family is asking your fiance to loan them money? and they are mad at you, because he doesn't want to loan them the money?
I agree with you and your fiancee. Your fiancee should not loan your family money-Giving them money...that's one thing, but a loan means they are going to pay you back.
You must ask, what is the money for? How will they pay him back? Why doesn't your famliy have any money? did they used to have money? Are they homeless? are they too sick or old to work?
And why are you engaged for 3 years and not married yet?!
good luck...and never do business or loan great amounts of money to the married family.
2007-01-06 14:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your fiance, I don't think it's right they should ask for a loan from him. Can't they ask elsewhere? Having a loan from your fiance is not the best way for you both to start married life together when he feels he has his in laws round his neck from the start.
2007-01-06 14:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
why can't your parents get a loan from a bank?? whats the point of stooping so low in front of their future son-in-law??
In fact I feel that asking your fiancee for money is just going to jeopardize your relationship with him if your parents are unable to oay it back.
2007-01-06 14:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt right, he isnt obligated to give them money. You shouldnt feel put in the middle stand for what is right and stand by your fiance.
2007-01-06 14:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by JMan 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no , it's NOT right. they need to be told to back off. if he had OFFERED then maybe things would be different, but it sounds like they're are trying to take advantage of him, and your relationship with him, ergo , they are taking advantage of you.
2007-01-06 14:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt rite ! u should stand up to ur family n tell them its wrong !!
2007-01-06 14:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family apparently cant handle money , its not your boyfriends fault
2007-01-06 14:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋