I love this girl with all my heart but I don't know if she even likes me, I think she likes my cousin, who is the complete opposite of me. He's taller, more handsome than me I don't think so, but I guess height is everything now in days. He's very immature, and he lives a reckless life, he has changed a lot. I miss my old cousin because the old one never tried to act tough, my cousin was fun, but now he wants to be like those damn gangstas. I've tried to be like him to get the girl of my dreams because she lives around his block, but I've realized that "why am I so eager to change into a monster"? I don't have to be in the streets looking for trouble. At school I see her, but I love her so much that I can't look at her forward or speak to her, I could talk to other girls, but I guess the problem is that I'm afraid of rejection. Porn is my other problem, I want to quit it, but it's so hard, it feels natural but it isn't, it messes you up big time.
2007-01-06 06:49:19 · 13 answers · asked by Loving Life, Always, and Forever 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sex appeal is everywhere now in days, tv, game/music, and outside. I mean society is very cruel. Society has no more or has very little morals now in days. Maybe I'm seeing the bad side of life. My father hates me, damn I get so mad, that I don't care anymore. Seriously I feel that If I ever get into a fight I'll let loose all of my anger and I don''t know what will happen after that. I'm 5'4 and I guess that my life was screwed since I was born. I didn't ask to be a small person, I hate when pople say to me that I'm short, even my dad said it. Deep inside of me I know that height doesn't matter but what really matters is personality and smarts. What should I do, I mean I used to laugh at people who did things to get attention, but now I sort of want to do the same thing. Help me out guys, I need your help. I think I should go to church, If god only god could hear me out!
2007-01-06 06:49:47 · update #1
I don't wnat to kill myself because of a girl, but because I'm ignored.
2007-01-06 06:52:49 · update #2
What you want to do, kill yourself, that is a ery selfish act!
It's not only you you are affecting, despite your thinking that you are ignored, you are loved, so what if right now in your life things arent working out like you'd want them to and you might think that your life is a hell hole, but you have to remeber, you picked up that shovel and dug that hole your self, noody did it for you. Don't blame other people, even if it is your fault, it solves nothing. just hang on, to your life. Don't give up. bad things happen to every one, just learn how to deal with it. I promis you that sooner than later you will be happy again. and you'll be happy that you didnt kill yourself.
As for the porn thing, I can tell by just your words that its a hard thing to deal with, I've have friends who have gone through the same thing. they hate what they're doing but they cant stop it. is that whats It's like for you?
your just going to have to try, avoid the computer all together (if thats were you watch the porn) if its somewhere else then always have some one else with you when your around that thing. and think of all those girls you see as if they were your mother! okay ? hope i helped
Good luck and please don't kill yourself
2007-01-06 08:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by briacass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl,not a guy but trust me-been there,done that-dated a lot,fell madly in love and was rejected and thought of suicide so many times it was pitiful. I thought I could not bear another day of this life-that was 60 years ago. And I married a very short guy though I mainly dated tall ones-we've been married almost 62 years.
Don't use heigth as an excuse-good things come in small packages-Famous male movie stars, probably before your time, were so short they had to stand on boxes when doing scenes with women! And they didn't opt to quit life-they had a life in spite of the obstacles. If you think life is going to be peachy,forget it,you already know it can be a bummer but don't give up-that is the easy way out and in case you aren't aware, suicide is self-murder.
Do you hate all your family and friends so much you want to kill yourself just to hurt them! Without God in your life you will spend eternity in a place you would never ever want to be so you would be hurt more than anymore-but forever!
I have a friend who shot himself in the head as a young man and somehow lived and went on to have a great enjoyable life! You have no idea what is ahead-you are seeing only the dark side because you are in a lot of depression.You would not believe how many young people through the ages, have considered suicide-get involved, get busy,find an interest in something-besides girls-there is a whole wide world out there!
Do you have someone you can talk to about all this-especially a christian friend or some youth minister you or someone might know of if not personally-or school councelor-or do you deep down enjoy being miserable? Some people do actually but I trust you are not one of them, yet! Get help and God bless....h\He can and will if YOu let Him
By the way, the few guys I loved so madly and would have died over-haven't the foggiest idea of their names,faces, e;tc. now-or even a year or so afterwards! What does that tell you!.
2007-01-06 15:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath little brother it will get better and about your size 5'4 come on that's a good size to be . I'll tell you something it's not about how tall you are but Confidence and how you carry yourself like respecting yourself and how you carry yourself and demanding respect. Always look someone in the eye,don't lie and respect everyone that will get you a long way . First start by loving and respecting yourself as for girl's little brother that will come in time I always Thank God for not letting me get married or have kids with the girl's I thought I was in love with. Know I have a beautiful wife and have been with for a very long time . As for your Porno problem you have to take it in moderation like every thing else it will get better and as for your dad well hell just let him be stay in school and one day you'll move out have money and succeed in this thing we call life .. Good Luck to you and God Bless you and keep your head up..Hope this helped and I also have been there and done that it will get better promise all in time. It's a nice day go see a movie or take a walk if possible no more talk about taking your life ..
2007-01-06 15:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend you need help if you really feel like following up on the feelings of killing yourself. I feel though that you are looking for some attention that you are missing out on! This is not the way to go about it though. shoot you could be locked away for your thinking. Move on, if she is the problem let it go! You sound young and intelligent don't waste away when you have a full life ahead of you to do things that make you happy and meet people that make you happy! I know this sounds stupid and a lot like a lecture but most teenage guys go through this and you to will pass through this stage. Nothing' but a chicken wing my friend stay strong and be yourself and all will work out, never pretend to be someone that you are not for anybody because they won't be liking you for you but they will like a lie!
2007-01-06 15:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by William D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you've got to 19/20 and not had this happen before. Sure, sometimes in your life you can want someone so bad, you'd do anything for them. I had exactly the same problem for 2 years with a girl at my school. It stopped me having relationships with anyone else and people started to get sick of me whining about her in the end.
Once we all went our separate ways to University, i swear within 2 months I'd forgotten about her. If she really doesn't like you, don't change to be like someone else - she has to like you for you. Otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life acting like something you don't wanna be. That'll make you more miserable in the long run than not getting her.
And porn isn't a problem. If you didn't have porn, you'd still find yourself making up stuff in your head while you were...doing...that.
2007-01-06 15:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Adam L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you have heard this before...but suicide is NEVER the way out! Let me tell you something...Back in 1983...my then 24 year old cousin committed suicide...and devasted his whole family! Two of his sisters had to go to therapist to try and deal with the loss. There was no note...and to this day...around the date of his death...I still ask myself "why!". Do you love your family? I know that you do. If you did this...you would devaste your families whole world...believe me! The best thing for you to do...is turn to God for the answers...pray...and get yourself to church. If you think she likes your cousin...then she was not mean't for you...and God has someone better in store for you! Trust me on that...I dated a guy who was a COMPLETE loser!!! We broke up in 1994...and I prayed to God to somehow help me find someone...and in 1996...I met my husband on the internet. We will be married 10 years...and have three beautiful children! Prayer is a very powerful thing...and it has even changed the course of events in history!! Please give prayer a try...you will be VERY surprised at the results!
2007-01-06 15:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself is no solution to your problem. True you may be heart broken and even in deep depression, but stop and think....have you done everything you would like to do? Have you seen all the things to see? If you are young then you haven't! Just think of all the things you may miss if you were to kill yourself! Life is too short anyway.
Believe me...all of us have gone through break-ups that you think it may be the end of the earth but it isn't...there are many girls/women out there that you haven't even met yet! I am sure if you decide to stay around for awhile you might just find one of them. please email me if you would like to talk more. Now as a favor to me...stick around there's lots of life to live yet...I know I am 68 yrs old.
2007-01-06 15:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your height. Everyone comes in all sorts of different shapes and sizes, everyone's different. There's no right or wrong way to be.
Carry on being yourself. You will find the right person for you. I know it's really difficult when you fall for someone but, in time, you'll meet the right person for you. If this girl doesn't turn out to be the right one for you, be patient, and you'll find the right one in time.
2007-01-06 17:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how u feel but killing ur self wont get her in ur life the way u wont and if she is only into looks she isnt in to much because what counts is the inside the person not the out
2007-01-06 14:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by nursesassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** the girl,no women is worth killing yourself over.
Don't be a fake gangster if you arn't on,just go to sosuave.com for some help with attracting women,but don't beat yourself up about it.
2007-01-06 14:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by hoobzor 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋