ive been cutting down on my grades because teachers tell everyone my grades and bcuz some ppl r jerks.plz help

Question

ok im 13 and in the 8th grade. last year i was making straight A's and now ive been cutting back a little because the stupid teachers tell everyone my grades when i do good and so now a lot of ppl think im probally a stuck up jerk only because im pretty smart. There are a lot of ppl who are WAY smarter then me, too. This is my second year at this small school (about 85 ppl in the 8th grade, so everybody knows everybody) so i figured ppl would chill out about me. Im not a jerk at all, im just a little shy. Are ppl still going to be so immature in High School and college? I havnt really been making bad grades, but ive been missing questions on purpose and have been trying to keep a B in Math and Language. What do i do?

Answer 1

WHO CARES WHAT YOUR TEACHERS TELL OTHERS? AND WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK? It's better to be smart and get good grades and get into a good college. Then, you'll be making millions, and people who think you're a jerk will be working FOR you.

Answer 2

Hmmm....I had almost the same problem, except I've known these people my entire life, but we're still in a small school, high school actually where everyone knows everyone, except I'm not the new kid. Me and my friends aren't exactly the most popular kids at school, and this might not be the best advice, but here goes.

First off, you should go to your teachers and ask them, nicely, not to shout out your grades. They probably don't mean any harm in it, its just thier way of...I don't know, they most likely are trying to get you to be part of the big group or something. Anyways, you should try and ask that they don't tell everyone your grades.

Secondly, I'm sure not everyone thinks you're a jerk. Surely there must be someone who was nice to you. I know that in small towns everyone always gets really excited by the new kid and then it dies down, but chances are that you may have similar interests to some of the people there. If your middle school is really small you may not have a lot of variety in activities, but if there's something you like to do, join it and maybe you can meet some new people. I'm not entirely sure what to tell you about making some friends but I do know that having real friends does soften the blow of jerks.

Sad to say, people are still immature in high school. However, after awhile grades do become more important because college just looms closer and having good grades is a really good thing to have. Don't sabotage yourself! pretending to be someone your not isn't really going to help you make friends, in fact, it could end up backfiring and people will end up thinking you're a poser. don't do that. Besides that, good grades are good to have because there are many scholarships and other things that come with it. Don't worry, after awhile people won't think you're a jerk for having good grades.

So, this wasn't really advice, and probably wasn't helpful, but...i don't know, its kind of hard to say what to do in this kind of situation. I think the most you can do now is talk to your teacher, and try to keep in mind that not everyone is a jerk. There has to be someone out there who isn't horrible. Try to find people with common interests, because friends are really helpful, and just...yeah, don't sabotage yourself, it won't help you, that much I know.

Hopefully whatever you got out of that helps.

Answer 3

You have the right to confidentiality, so your teachers should not be sharing your grades with anyone except you and your parents. Talk to your teachers, or ask your parents to, and explain why you don't like it when they call your grades out loud, and ask them to stop.

Chances are they don't mean anything bad by it, and they probably don't even realize what they're doing to you.

You need to keep your grades up. There are programs and scholarships and opportunities open to students with high enough grades.

To meet people join some groups around school and extracurricular activities. Yes, these people will still be immature in high school, but having a couple of good friends will make it way easier. Things do get better in college, so keep your grades up so you can get there.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Either ask the teachers to please stop telling your grades (my first choice, as that would mean YOU are dealing with it), or ask your parents to do it for you. Make sure you tell them why you'd like them to stop. I think they probably think they are giving you encouragement and praise, but that isn't what is happening.

Purposely getting lower grades might affect your chances for higher education and/or scolarships in the future.

As for high school and college - yes, there are always immature people out there.

I just noticed that your post doesn't say that people are actually bugging you about your grades, but you are assuming people think you're a stuck up jerk because of the grades. Is it possible they think that just because of the shyness you are showing? I've had people think I'm stuck up, or a snob as well, and it is just because I haven't been comfortable talking to them. They have later told me that they always thought I was a snob until I started talking to them; perhaps you could try talking more to your classmates?

Answer 5

The worst thing you can do is harm yourself because of others bad judgments. I would suggest you talk to your teachers about what is bothering you. Regardless of their reaction - you need to stop harming yourself by getting lower grades. You have a whole life ahead of you and the 8th grade is only one small stepping stone. Don't make it trip you up - because in the long-run you will regret this more the whatever short-term problems these cause.

Good Luck!!!