To all believers: Do you think it is ok to smack a child?

Question

There's lots of love and peace messages in this forum. I want to know if you extend that to your children or you think that to discipline your child, it is ok to smack?

I personaly think that hitting a child is wrong!

Smacking, spanking... words...the result is the same, the child gets hit!!!!

I talk to my child. I don't spank....and she is a wonderful human being, full of joy and respect.

Mememe: please read under the question!!!!

Why do people think that it's okay to use violence to get a point across?

Vercetti: i'm not a believer and I am firmly against any form of abuse against children...including smacking or spanking.

So people keep having children, and repeat the same stupid behaviour they were brought up with!!!!
You wouldn't want to do anything better? Or even eduacte yourself a bit?

Kittikat: if you were educated, you would know my mistake wasn't a spello but a typo!!!!

and I am educated and that is why I don't and have never smacked or spanked my child. When she was born I didn't assume that I would automatically know how best to bring her up!!! I've taught myself to be a good parent.

Well, now 64 answers! I must say, I am disappointed. For all the love christians, muslims and the others pretend to have....you still think it's ok to hit a child! I suspected as much.
Thank you for the others who have given fantastic answers and would have seen the light of reason!

Answer 1

the fact thats smacking and spanking are the exact same thing says a lot about christians - we dont smack our kids but we do spank them.

Hypocritical christians. Makes me sick.

Any hitting, spanking or smacking is wrong, wrong, wrong wrong

why do I sound like a broken record? Oh yeah, I just answered another question like this one 2 minutes ago.

Answer 2

My views are that when done correctly and not out of anger it can be effective for many kids. Spanking is just one of the many disciplinary tools out there when choosing how to discipline your children. I say do what works for your child and let others do what works for theirs. If deciding not to spank works well, then that's wonderful. If a little swat on the behind works when necessary then that's wonderful. My girl mostly has time outs, redirection/warnings and losing a favorite toy for the most part and she's 2 years old. On a rare occasion we have given a little swat on the behind and she has never tried to hit us or has been aggressive. We never give any consequence without talking to her about why what she did was wrong and telling him what would be acceptable in place of the misbehavior. Teaching and correction go hand in hand and both are necessary to discipline your children. My idea of discipline for our home is being open minded to other forms of correction and using them along with the occasional corrective spanking when it's absolutely necessary. Spanking is always a heated debate. There will be everything from the extreme anti-spanking to the extreme pro-spanking answering this. I don't believe spanking or not spanking alone is what makes the child a well behaved child or the parent a good parent; it's all in how the child is brought up and raising and the over all job of discipline and consistency. Me personally? I support spanking, but I know it's not for every family or every child. :)

Answer 3

The Bible says'that if a son is not corrected they are not loved.It also says that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child but the rod of corrrection will drive it from him.Also spare the rod and spoil the child is an apt sayin.However although it is important to use the rod if a child refuses 2 obey or show respect-usin the hand to smack is not advised for moms,as it is an instument meant 2 provide nuture and comfort and if associated wit pain & punishment...it will create confusion and fear in a young child.Use a belt or ruler for spankin & tell d child WHY they wer spanked.Dont do it wen angry and not 2 many times:2 firm lashes on the bum/butt is enuff.Then wait 5 mins & hug dem and tell dem u luvem but needed 2 do dat 4 dem 2 grow well & nicely.

Answer 4

I'm not married, so I don't have any children yet, but I don't think it is right to smack a child in the face. A swat on the bottom should be permissible (but not a beating. Beatings are BAD!). My parents were nonbelievers, and I got a spanking (again, not a beating) numerous times (I was always doing something). It was never abuse, and I'm not messed up over it. It's when parents go overboard that it becomes dangerous.

Answer 5

I don't believe it's okay most of the time because the child will gradually believe that it's okay to hit others. Maybe a light smack on the bottom is okay when a parent really needs to get a point across, but it should be the last resort.

Answer 6

Smacking a child as a last result with the palm of the hand ONCE on the buttocks, then yes.
Repeated smacking, on like the torso, head legs, then NO.
Using any object other than the hand, NO.

Children are not yours to own, they are still Human beings, and they have rights. Would you allow somebody to punch you in the face, and expect them to get away with it. No, so why would you do the same to a child.

Answer 7

There's a saying, and it says that if you spare the rod, you will spoil the child. I can only say this: when I was raised, there were times that I got swatted on the behind, for doing wrong. I was not beaten, I was merely swatted. I became a better person for it, and I thank my mother and father for correcting me, when I needed corrected. While I think the parent has a right to swat, or give a smacking to a child, the parent should have no reason to beat or abuse the children.

Answer 8

Usually it is not okay to smack your child. Most children learn love and respect by how we treat them. Also, slapping anyone in the face or head can cause damage. It can also damage very tender feelings. Sometimes dangerous activities like purposely running out into the street etc. might be a reason for a smack on the behind.

Answer 9

No, sure maybe they learn their lesson (MAYBE) but you'll be marking them for the rest of their lives. They develop hatred towards you, and you'll damage them in ways you have no idea, (you'll be to blame if they hurt themselfs or others). Keep in mind that all this is a thing of the subcounsious. I suggest instead of smacking them talk to them (is somewhat hard) just dont loose control and verbaly let thaem know what they are doing is wrong (I repeat do this calmly and dont yell).

Answer 10

Believer or not, it is NEVER acceptable to hit a child! Hitting defenseless children to solve behavior problems is teaching that violence is the ONLY solution when you don't get your way! Gee, could that be why there are so many more VIOLENT KIDS these days???! Get a freaking clue! It's the 21st Century and this "discipline" style is from in the Middle Ages.

Since you CLAIM to be a "believer" (in "god?), check out this site:

http://www.religioustolerance.org/spankin4.htm

Keep hitting your kids and you WILL live to regret it! They'll either turn out as violent, youthful offenders, constantly in trouble, who may end up hitting YOU when they're old enough (ever notice how people ONLY hit LITTLE kids?! SICK!), OR your kids' spirits will be crushed and they'll be doormats who never stand up for themselves in the world and marry abusive creeps!

If you don't believe ME, check out the studies at the links below.