How hard is it to be a military girlfriend?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, he is joining the navy to be a corpsman. Im pretty sad about it, we have been together almost every single day since we got together. We do have plans to get married in a few years (just to make sure long distance will work for us) How difficult is it to maintain a long distance relationship with someone in the military and what is the best way to let him know you support him in every way. If you have ever been in the military what was the best thing to hear or get from your sweetie back home? Thanks in advance!!

Answer 1

Its going to take a strong woman to be a military wife and I am sure you could handle it.Just remember:

1.Your boyfriend needs 100% of your support.
a.He needs your letters
b.He needs to smell your perfume
c.He needs to feel you need him
d.He needs to know you love him unconditionally
2.You have to remember he is military owned.He eats,drinks,and pisses military and you have to understand that.
3.You must not be selfish,let him know what goes on at home but dont burden him with idle petty b.s that could upset him.
4.Trust him,he is not screwing anyone,if you dont hear from him for a while,it is his job not a girlfriend.

AND MOST OF ALL FROM ALL OF US,THANK YOU FOR SUPPORTING HIM AND THANK HIM FOR PROTECTING US.GOD BLESS YOU BOTH.

Answer 2

I am surprised that no one has attacked your question yet. I have been in the military for 21 years. What I can tell you is that this decision is a good one over all. If you are planning to get married, the military lifestyle provides great stability, the pay is not as good as one would get on the outside, money wise, but the Medical benefits are excellent. the money gets better as time goes on.

Military spouses are the glue that hold the military together. They have to go thru long periods of being with out their loved ones, but as the old saying goes, they keep the home fires burning. Its not an easy life being a military spouse, but its a good one. As for the long distance, If the relations ship is strong, the it will survive. I have been away for a year at a time, we are able to communicate on a regular basis, plus there is great support systems in the service. Wives get together and support them selves and there is good websites that you can utilize as well. It will work, but you both have to make it work.. You will be fine if you have faith and good friends.

Answer 3

I dated someone who was in the military. We both met right before he had to go into basic training. It was hard cuz he really couldn't call or talk much and was hard on both of us.

Really, long distance relationships aren't for everyone. They are tough to work at and you and your boyfriend wont get to see each other that often. He will get leave after basic training but not for that long. It does take work on both of you and a lot of things will change. He will change and so will you. If you both want the relationship to work, you both have to put some effort in it.

Unfortunately, with me, when I dated someone who was in the service, we ended up losing contact somehow and I guess going our own ways. We have no hard feelings towards each other and sometimes I think what life may be like now if we were still together.

Answer 4

Well if you want me to tell you what you WANT to hear...

Everything is going to be great and he will write you and call you every chance that he gets....

But, if you want me to be honest....

He is going to change A LOT. Everyone does. He will start seeing things and going places that he has never been before. He is going to meet a lot of new people and have a completely different life.

Being in the military changes your entire way of thinking. I am not saying that it is NOT going to work...I just know from experience that the deck is stacked against you.

If you get married fairly quickly once he gets out of bootcamp....maybe...but a couple years?? That's a long time.

Answer 5

i am currently in the military with my girlfriend of a little over 4 years living in another state that is not nearby. IF WE can stay together this long without seeing each other make it through 3 deployments. I honestly think if the 2 of you really want to be with one another it will work

Answer 6

It's not hard if you're adaptable and loyal and can trust your partner. Likewise, if you are those things, especially the loyal and trusting part, those are some of the best ways to show your support for your service-member. When they know you're okay, even if they're gone, and they know that you're not screwing around, they can focus more on their jobs and doing their best. Showing support takes a lot more than sticking a ribbon magnet to your car.
If you're used to him being around constantly, you're bound to have some adjustment issues, but if you (both) care enough, you'll get through it.
My husband and I just had our 6th anniversary in August and he'll hit his 7 year mark in the Army in March. It hasn't exactly been a pleasure cruise, that's for sure, but you learn to go with it and to change where needed.

Answer 7

It depends on you, are you comfortable with being away from him for long periods of time? do you trust him? and how do you feel about moving around alot? These are all things you should look at, weigh the pros and cons, you should decided which is more important and how much you love him. Would you go to the end of the universe and back? If so love can over come anything

Answer 8

Any long distance relationship is difficult but not impossible. It will take both of you to make it work.

Answer 9

it is hard,, because there alot of family separations involved and alot of moving a deploying.

thankfully the military have personnel that will help family members as much as they can go through deployments and family separations.

Answer 10

its hard very hard to be in love with a military man. you will still love him but soon, your needs are gonna come crying. you will need someone whos there for you, emotionally and physically. good luck.