okay so my Bf n I broke up 2 months ago..we were going out for 9 months n before that he was my best friend.We broke up coz he cheated on me for another girl who would let him have sex with her. BTW( she had 6 abortions) Anyways yea On 1st Jan , she called me and told me tat they broke up ( her n I usually talk on fone) i was happy for me and her..b'coz he is not a rite guy for ANY1but today i checked her website where she posted more pics of him n her..So they r back together again..This all makes me feel hurt, i tell myself that i dunt love him.. but deep inside i still have feelings for him and i love himI know what he did wid me was wrong.. but i just cant forget all the memories, things etc..I Really Loved/Love Him a Lot... i dont know wut to do.. its killing mei mite seem happy from outside but inside i m dying of pain...!!please make me understand something!!i freaking cry every nite for him for no reason.. & he was my first bf!!please.....!
2007-01-06 06:12:11 · 14 answers · asked by meee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's two things here, you're missing your boyfriend and this girl is really putting it in your face that she is with him and that you're not. Yes it hurts but - believe me - the pain does pass. It takes a little time and a lot of good friends to remind you how clever and beautiful and fantastic you are, and to take you out and show you a good time without your boyfriend. That's what mates are for. Generally, you should reckon that the pain lasts for about two months for every year you are together but, as you are still in contact in a way witih your ex and his new girl, you haven't really disconnected from them and so the pain comes back each time.
Let him go. She's welcome to him, he wants her more than you and therefore leave them to it. Find a good guy who won't cheat on you and who thinks that you're the best thing that ever happened to you. when you find a guy like that, then you will look back on this experience as just another bit of your history, and it won't hurt ever again.
Good luck.
2007-01-06 06:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat and pretty soon this other girl will find out the hard way.You can do better then this guy and you deserve better the him.In time all the hurt,anger and other feelings that you have will fade,just take it a day at a time.Try going out with your friends and start afresh.This is your first boyfriend so don`t worry not all blokes are like that you just need to find somebody who you can trust and who respects you....good luck.
2007-01-06 06:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur not ova him yet even though u mite 'hate' him and wanna through things off him deep inside like u said u want him 2 turn 2 u and say he's sorry and that u nd him should get back together but if he would rather be with a girl who puts out to anythin and any1 then he dosn't deserve sum1 like u. the pain will go but it will take a long time obviously once u and him were really close and ur mournin ova losing not only a bf but ur best friend as well and plus he was ur first love and first love's are hard to forget but in time sum1 betta and who will treat u rite and u'll look back and think why was i cryin ova him.
hope u feel betta soon and remeber he didn't go off with this girl because she's betta lookin or wateva he went wif her for a s**g and thats all.
bye xxx
2007-01-06 06:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by amyjaney 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know the feeling going threw simular thing at the moment....you smile you tell everyone i am better then them...I dont care...But when your at home in bed you cry yourself to sleep...When you go somewhere you always seem hear the songs that remind you of them or special times you have had.....No other mans company is the same or good enough....you pine for there touch...
and you will always get skettles like this girl he with who will love to push it and rub it in your face....You want to show him your better then her...Bit of advise he dont care enough about you so dont try fight for him...if you have some savings go on a weekend holiday make sure your always around friends....dont sit in and cry it makes it worse....
This is coming from someone who is also hurt....and like i said its easy to say everything ok and you going do this and do that....
but I cant manage do none of the above and I still ring and ring etc
So my truthful advise is CRY SOME MORE BUY SOME CHOCOLATE watch some sad CHICK flicks and hope the feeling goes away as it been one month for me and I feel dead inside...I dont thing anyone can advise you as its a matter of the heart and head
2007-01-06 06:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by MissTee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry it is normal all you have to tell yourself is that (it is just a phase i will get over him and it is human to feel bad i must cry and feel pain it will make stronger for the things that's still gonna come my way in future) The reason way it hurts you so, is he disappointed you more than hurt you really you thought much of him and look what he lowered to- you are still very innocent don't let that bring you done! :-) hug....hug...hug...
PS: don't worry i 'm 25 not that old so please take my advice!!!
2007-01-06 06:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by nleitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself someone else. The guy isn't worth it if he is cheating on you. Do not check the website again since it hurts so much to see those pictures of the two of them. You can do better than a cheater and maybe they deserve each other. If he cheated on you then he will most likely cheat on the other woman too.
2007-01-06 06:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way you will get over him is to either meet someone else or more importantly time will heal. I know this sounds silly but its true. The more you let him know you still like him the more the new girlfriend will gloat
2007-01-06 06:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HATED ONE - didn't your mother have birth control when you were younger?? - hey, nasty comments need nasty replies........
I understand how you feel - I really do. Your ex was your first and that is the reason why it does hurt so much.........it takes time to heal unfortunately. When you've healed, you won't forget but you will have learnt by it. It sounds useless now for me to tell you this but it's the truth. You wait till for 6 months to come and go....then another.then another..........you'll be having a laugh with your friends about 'that guy'...........take care
2007-01-06 06:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey, it's okay. i know how you feel. i had this guy, we had something good. great chemistry. but then i went on vacation and he started going out with another girl. it broke my heart, and i still see him everyday. it's hard, but i had to tell myself that if he cheated on me, then i deserve better, and that even though i still have feelings for him, he doesn't deserve me. you're better than he is. you'll get over this soon...and know that you aren't alone.
try to find some sort of outlet. go shopping with your friends, write poetry, anything that makes you feel better, because you're a great person who is strong and beautiful. i hope you feel better soon!
2007-01-06 06:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyed_brunette 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it hurts so much because you still like him...I know my boyfriend and i are like right behind you we have been going out for alomost 8 months..like yeah lst night he and I went skating together and I had to leave early and he told me when i alked to him on the phone when he got home..he said he skated with another girl who I know he thinks is pretty well in his words hott but anyway t hurt me like crazy even though nothing happened..they are just friends.my point is that yeah it's going to hurt you're just not compleetly over him...and you may never be.
2007-01-06 06:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by PerfectlyinLove 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋