I am on match.com need advice on this?

Question

I have been emailing to someone and last night talked to him for almost an hour. I told him that I wanted to just email and talk on the phone then we can meet. I want to wait 2 to 3 months before meeting.Is that being unreasonable?I have his email and he has mine and we both have each others phone number.He is no longer on Match.com and he told me he has gone out with some girls but nothing matched.I am taking the chance he might meet someone between now and then but if its meant to be then it will happen.He is 44 and I am 45.Any advice?I am also very busy and don't want to be stressed about this.I really wanted to meet the beginning of April because thats when my birthday is and am setting a goal for myself and want to keep some suspense.

I am comfortable with his emails and phone calls.

Answer 1

The first of April sounds reasonable to me. During the next few months, spend time talking and getting to know him, inside -out. I'm sure he is what he says he is, but you can never be too careful......by the way, by the same token, YOU might meet someone else also...keep your options open. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Finding someone is always a difficult task, especially when it comes to finding people online. Before you decide whether to meet him or not, you have to ask yourself whether he is the type of person you can see yourself with, on a long term basis. Look over his email, and ask yourself what is your first impression of him? I wouldn't try to dissect every single word of his, but just take a general look over all his email message, and see what my guts feelings telll me. If you find yourself pretty okay about the message, then go ahead and meet. If not, why spend the time to even wait for someone you don't have good feelings for. Finally, don't doubt your feelings. Making him wait, if you think he may has a possibility, is perfectly fine and acceptable. Don't doubt yourself. You really need to trust yourself here, especially now.

I hope this helps. I have used match.com before too, but still have not found anyone long term yet. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Would you wait 2-3 months to go on a date with someone had you not met them on the internet? If you like the guy then go out for coffee or drinks or something. If you do wait he will most likely find someone else, especially on Match. Trust me, I know. Slow is nice, but too slow sends a bad message and honestly if you wanted to move that slow you wouldn't be on Match.


I met my wife on Match.com. I liked that we were able to pick the criteria in a mate we were looking for. We both had a child from previous marriages and were both looking for someone with a child so we could gauge what type of parent they were. We were both looking for someone who didn't drink or smoke too, so it was very easy to weed people out. We just had our first baby together 5 months ago. My wife is the love of my live and I feel like the luckiest guy in the world to have found her. She is an excellent mother to my son who we have full-time and you would never know that my step-daughter and son weren't real siblings. My sister-in-law also found her true love over the internet too. I don't understand why people think you've less likely to be lied to in person than over the net. Just make sure you get a good picture of them and like them for who they are.

Answer 4

you might have to accept that he will see other women. But, your real problem...can you keep the mystery going becasue HE is really interested in you. At this time, you do not know if He is really looking for a "match" or is he a player. YOu decide ..what do you want a "match" and take the time to learn ...and accept the possibility HE is a player. He is really interested in you..he will take the time to learn about you and you will know because he will be a bit more patient. So, if he meets you a bit eariler than your time table...but, does the meeting take place within one week or one month. But, be real and realize ...he may be investigating other possible matches, while getting to know you. You don't know enough about him to make 3-4 month plans. Take one day at a time. He will show who he really is. Promise. Tell him you want the time to learn about him and if he asks about a time table. Tell him and then, step back and see. If he get mad. A player. If wants to reason...a possible match.

Answer 5

Most people who are on Match.com are relationship seekers. Who wants to wait that long before even meeting in person? It's not fair to him or anyone else.