Should I consider my relationship over....?

Question

My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 years now. Today i was supposed to see her but...i ended up standing her up. NOT ON PURPOSE....my job called me around 7:00 this morning and asked if i would be able to come in at 8:00 - 12:00. I said i would. I tried to call her to explain to her what was going on around...10:00 when things were slow...but she got VERY ANGRY WITH ME. She told me i was a jerk and how she waited over an hour for me. (I was picking her up for breakfast at 9:00) I told her i would make it up to her by taking her out tonight because she is working this afternoon and i am visiting my parents. She told me she doesn't trust me anymore. She lost complete trust in me and doesn't know what to belive anymore. I've never really EVER given her reason to not trust me. EVER....should i just consider this relationship over??

Answer 1

She's pissed off about something else, and this is a good excuse to blow up at you...granted, you should have called BEFORE your scheduled date, but hindsight is 20/20. I think you should sit her down and try to figure out what is really bothering her. Two years shouldn't end because of a missed breakfast date.

Answer 2

Hi there!!
Her reaction in my eyes was a little radical. If you have never given her any reason to not trust you in the past almost 2 years of relationship, I do not find it normal that she would blow up like this, considering you did call her at 10. You could have text messaged her though also.
You should have a heartfelt conversation with her, maybe she is going through a rough time in some other area, and unfortunatly she is lashing out with the one she loves and trusts ( which is what usually happens)
Never make any life changing desitions while in anger, let this anger pass, give her some space as well to get over the anger, I would send her a text message, short and sweet, letting her know you would love to talk to her.
Go to a quiet place, maybe a picnic, with some candlelight, some wine, cheese & crakers, some nice artisian bread, and just converse.
Let her know how you did not mean to hurt her, and that you did have to go to work, you did offer to take her out tonight to make up for it, so this should be taken into consideration.
Talk to her, ask her how she felt and why was she so upset, and then listen to her, really listen to her words, sometimes we can even hear things between the lines of conversation, through body language, and if you have been together for almost 2 years, I think you should know her pretty well. But then again, do not pre-judge anything, be open and positive.
All relationships go through growing pains, which in my opinion are healthy for the relationship and to our personnal growth.
How old are you guys ? If you are in your teens, remember that hormones are raging as well, and this could play a major role in her reaction to this situation. Keep your chin up kiddo, and have trust in yourself when you go talk to her.
I wish you the best of luck
love light and peace

Answer 3

An apology is in order, but it has to be a true, sincere, from the heart apology. There is a question of trust here, and she obviously feels that hers has been violated. This would be a good time to open a dialogue about trust issues, and why she feels that you can never be trusted. What I didn't read in your query is how much in love with her you are. The way you wrote this is rather shallow in feeling (or emotion) so I'm left wondering if an apology, or a reconciliation is too much trouble. Regardless, a card with a written apology is due, then take things from there.

Answer 4

If you would have called the moment you knew you had to go into work, everything would have been fine, but since you waited and let her wait, that is something that is hard to get over. Because to her you seem to be selfish and rude not for you to have called. Imagine how she felt and what was going through her mind when she waited over an hour for you to come, she probably thought something had happen to you! Apologize again, and do whatever you can to make it up, and do not let it happen again. Because trust doesn't only mean "cheating", but trust in being able to count on someone too.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say its over unless this is something you do a lot to her. I am sure she was very angry that you could not have called prior to 9 when you were suppose to be there so that was a big strike. If you havent ever given her a reason to not trust you then I dont know why she would say that so ask her to explain.

See her tonight and do some major sucking up..bring her something she likes flowers card candy ect

Answer 6

I wouldnt consider it over just yet. Give it a chance. Talking over the phone is much different than talking in person. Her emotions may change. If your relationship gets broken over this, it will be on her, not you. You did what most would do. You went to work, and DID call her, and you are even making an effort to go out to dinner. It is not like you just dumped her for someother girl. It was work. Give it a chance. Try to find a more mature girl next time though.

Answer 7

OK!! It's a litlle bit complicated uuuuh No, it's more than that!!
Anyway, I can tell you to surprise her instead of promising her something in which she can't believe in.
Surprise her, invite her at a geogeous restaurant, Bring her flowers ( only if she like it, of course!!)... Make her understand that she is important, that you want her happier!
If it's doesn't work, ask her what's going on, what's trhe matter. Her answer is capital: if she is honest, she'll tell you that she's suffering and that she want some time to think about YOU and your couple. If it's not that, you can consider tnat this relationship is over for all (Sorry!!)
So, try it and tell me if the situation improuves.
An advice from a French girl!!
Bye!§!

Answer 8

no. I have been in a relationship for two years too. if you guys love eachother then it should be fine. she will get over it. if its been two years you should know the type of girl she is does she want space right now or does she want you to be their to comfort her. which ever one it is do that. i would suggest buy her roses and choclate though they always help. I think that she will relize that she is being selfish by acting this way when since yo actually did try to get ahold of her and you had to go to work. but yeah i really really doubt yor relationship is over you have invested to much time for it to end on a petty matter like this. if you do break up it will take like 2 hours of yelling to do.(most likely situation)

Answer 9

If everything has really been going good for the two of you, like you say, then it's very strange. It could be that she's been unhappy for awhile and you've just been too thick to see it. It's a condition that we men seem to suffer with unendingly, according to my wife and previous girlfriends.

It could be that she's looking for an excuse to break up with YOU, because it sure sounds like she's making a mountain out of a molehill, but as a typical 'thick' man, I think women do that a lot.

Cave

Answer 10

Why didn't you call her as SOON as you found out you weren't going to see her? I don't get this about guys and then they wonder why us women get so upset sometimes. Being stood up shows no sign of respect for that person. But if you still want to be with her, give her time to cool off and then try talking to her again and explain. Sometimes we wonder if we should believe you or if it's just another excuse in the book guys always use.