I love my cat but she is not very affectionate what can I do to make her more affectionate?

Question

got her 6months ago from neighbour who moved shes 5

Answer 1

I've had cats and dogs all my life and appreciate the displays of affection and loyalty that I get from my dogs daily (no - hourly!) which I take almost for granted.

Any small tokens of affection from my cats are gratefully received.

All I can suggest is that you give the cat the best of everything - food, toys, warmest nooks and crannies, your unconditional love.

In return she might occasionally raise her tail in greeting when you come home or allow you to reduce your blood pressure by stroking her now and again.

If she does you will feel enormously privileged!

Answer 2

Cat's are sooooooooo individual and some are EXTREMELY affectionate and some just have their moments. It is often their nature to be one or the other BUT, if the cat is young enough it can learn to feel safe and trust who they are with and when they do they will be more affectionate. Again not all cat sand there a re so many variables involved such as type of cat, the cat''s surroundings, how much time is spent with cat, if the cat is aggravated by kids or dogs or a mean person ...several factors... I disagree with some of the other comments about affectionate cats. I have several cats and I have personnel testimony. Patience and time and kindness and a few treats here and there!!. Some cats love to be brushed . Let the cat have its way and never force it. It will trust you more it you let it come to you.

Answer 3

Well, she may just need to warm up to you and her new surrounds a bit.

I got my cat 5 or 6 years ago and she was not very affectionate at all and I got her as a kitten. She started being a bit more affectionate in her second or third year. She still won't sit on my lap, but she does like to sit in the chair with me when I'm on the computer or lay next to me and sometimes on me in bed.

I was just patient with her. I actually couldn't pet her with my hand for a long time and had to use my foot for the first year or so. She came around in her own time.

Answer 4

Well the cat is used to her previous owners, and even though its been 6 months, she may still be confused as to where her other owners are, and may even be a little depressed after spending so long with one owner, and then one day be "shoved" off to someone else. But they don't understand things like moving and no pets, all they know is that their owner isn't there, and they aren't too happy about this new person they're with and prefers their old owner..... give it time honey, your kitty will warm up eventually, just don't force your company on her too much or you may make her permanently timid or antisocial. When you feed her, put food in her bowl when she is in the same room with it, keep doing that, and it may take a month or so but eventually she'll come right by you. (I feed strays, and i found this has worked with them, and we all know how strays are) i hope this helps you!

Answer 5

cats like to go to you when they want to u can not make a cat affectionate i used to have a cat a few years ago he would only ever be affectionate on the morning when he wanted food and very rarely would he come just for a fuss and when he did he bit you when he got board but we still new he liked us the biggest honour a cat can give you is to stay with you if a cat don t like you it will leave she probably misses her old family still

Answer 6

My friend has cats.
I watch cats when she is out of town.
I am fond of cats.
I am on the verge of carrying around cat treats crazy cat person.
my friend had two cats...one orange tabby one all white
tabby very effectionate and social.
white cat less so .
i called her the imperial dowager.
but she picked time and place
like when you place open book on table and she jumps up and table and lies down on book.
other times she stares into space ...

another cat
torty
sweet cat(ritual tour of the house cat)

sammy the cat....grouchy

the little grey polydactyl......ritual chase cat.
she will put up with petting.
but where ever you are there she is.
so you know cat is connected

black cat kinda low key

all were rescued cats.

cats are good to hang out with.
dogs are cool too but you gotta have more energy for dog.
and they get that separation anxiety going.
and when owner is gone they howl...
AAAAoooooo!
AAAHHHHHOOOOO!

but dogs don't climb up drapes

cats are calmer.

cat pics on blog
http://www.antmanbee.blogspot.com

Oh yeah....how could I have forgotten toys.
try different toys.
try low key play
some cats enjoy catnip.
some don't
my friend has catnip growing in yard.
sammy the grouchy cat....basically just crashes and grabs a bite to eat and then growls to get out. Only a few people dare touch him ....sister wary of ....niece frightened of.
if you watch him you will spot that he is not right in the head.
he showed up 8 years or so ago and has been around since.
he bites
and he is big cat

Answer 7

Cats are a bit like people, some are just more sociable than others. It will also take time to develop a relationship. Carry on feeding and playing with her, show light effection, and eventually she'll start to come around.

Answer 8

she is a live animal not a 'thing' to be programmed into behaving how you want her to behave. SOme cats simply don't like a lot of fuss. Out of my 10 cats, there is one who just won't stand for any cuddles from me. I accept it and love her anyway. I just don't cuddle her. She will accept strokes from me until she gets bored and moves away. That's just the way she is and I respect her character.

Answer 9

Maybe she is still trying to gain your trust and adjust to her surroundings. Be patient and keep spending time with her.
Also, a lot of it may have to do with how she was handled in her previous home and how soon she was socialized as a kitten. In this case, I've had some skittish kittens who have come a long way over time[some times years]. I can now pet them with ease and even pick them up. Just time , patience and dedication. Good luck with kitty! It was sweet of you to take her in!

Answer 10

The main socialization period for cats is between 3-7 weeks old. If she was not well socialized with people at this time, there is little you can do. Sorry.