He arranges a lunch meeting with the father to get his son's bike. He then turns around and invites the sisters and his ex to lunch -supposedly to get them to reconcile.
1. If he is engaged to you, why should he be concerned with what is going between his ex wife and her family issues.
2. Should he be getting involved in that situation at all?
3. If he did, would you be offended?
4. Does it cross boundaries?
5. Later he gets an email from his ex saying 'thank you for still looking out for me'...how do you respond the email?
6. Where do boundaries begin and end with ex wives/husbands/girlfriends/boyfriends?
2007-01-06 04:57:30 · 6 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He and his ex and not "friends" per se. The communicate weekly because the son spends weekends with the mother. He has not spoken to the father in years.
2007-01-06 05:08:48 · update #1
Although I don't fully understand your question, he shouldn't be involved in issues with his ex's family issues.
2007-01-06 05:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a trust thing here, Do you trust him to stay with you and not go back to his ex?? Do they have children together? Has he officially told his ex and her family that he is engaged to somone else?
If they have children together, he will be a part of her life(ex's) until that child is an adult or he signs off his parental rights. Be glad they get along yet, they could be fighting like cat and dog and making your life a proverbial hell.
If I were you I would make it a point to become her friend tht way she will be comfortable around you and talking to him.
If you really love him then trust him that he won't break your heart... open the lines of communication and tell him if you have a problem with him spending time with her and her family and explain why. Do not let it become a fight or something to use in a fight. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 05:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, if he and his ex are friends, then this is okay. It is completely possible to remain friends with an ex without having any sexual attraction to them. However, since he was once a part of this family--and it sounds like he had and still has a good relationship with all of them--it is natural that their problems would be distressing to him. He's not doing this to hurt you. He is doing this to make things a bit better for a friend and, by default, himself.
The thank you note is just a thank you note. Unless it said, "I'm still madly in love with you," you have nothing to worry about. Even when there are friendships, it is rare for someone to stand up for his ex in such a strong way.
Boundaries begin and end with one's worry. It's actually similar to relationships between parents and children--if a child feels restricted too far, he/she is more likely to rebel. The more you nag and worry about this, the more he is going to want out of the relationship since you are restricting who he can be friends with and stick up for.
The only reason you could possibly have to distrust him, based on what you said, is if he has cheated on you in the past.
2007-01-06 05:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, with out have confidence there's no relationship. After examining with the aid of your different solutions right here however I ought to declare, i think of a few human beings have their responses somewhat backward. you're who you're, you have been "ultimate acquaintances" with your ex for a protracted whilst now. you have considering the fact that met yet another guy who has asked you to marry him. i'm sorry, yet as a guy if I felt strongly approximately my girlfriends friendship with an ex - I surely does no longer grow to be her fiancee. it somewhat isn't any longer healthful to throw away the single genuine friendship you have only considering the fact which you have become married, and a real guy does no longer assume you to. regardless of the undeniable fact that i think you should re-think of having your pal "provide you away" on the ceremony, I do have confidence that your fiancee has no genuine to impose his insecurities on you - distinctly if he loves you techniques you're. He ought to the two marry you precisely as you're (the place you could preserve your friendship with your ex) or he shouldn't marry you in any respect. attempting to alter somebody you supposedly love could no longer be love, it somewhat is referred to as emotional abuse.
2016-11-27 00:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by sherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is no longer your fiances problem--that is his ex's and her father's issue.
2007-01-06 05:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was trying to make life easier for his son.
How would I respond to the email....
his name & my name.....anytime.
best wishes
2007-01-06 05:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋