I'm a graduate student at Medical School. A very attractive librarian, who is also my age has signs of trouble in her life. I asked her on a date thinking that it would cheer both of us up.
I thought a new relationship would bring hope and joy into our lives.
She rudely shut me out. Fortunately I don't need to go to her office ever again, for now I guess.
I can't make of the situation. She is my first crush since undergraduate a few years ago.
2007-01-06 04:48:59 · 5 answers · asked by Phillip 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, sorry she turned you down. There's an old saying thought -- "Don't date someone who has more problems than you do." I hope you can find someone who's willing to deal with her issues and be friends. Try not to take it personally. Sometimes the problems we have are the things that bother us the most in others, and there are a lot of girls out there who would be thrilled to get to know you.
2007-01-06 05:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with myself being Bipolar, I may shut out a bipolar man as well. It's hard enough to deal with the trouble of bipolar on your own, and even "sane" people can't understand. If a bipolar man came into my life, it may (or may not) cause more problems. It really is hard enough trying to have a relationship with someone who isn't bipolar. My boyfriend isn't, and he's very supportive, but when I am having my down days, man it really shows and it does put strain on the relationship. Imagine if he were biploar as well. When I am all well and happy, he may not be, and we could totally clash! And vise versa!
2007-01-06 05:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by MentalCaseMaggot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to tell you how complex living with bi-polar can be. Perhaps the thought of having to deal with someone elses compexities on top of her own is too much.
Mind you that may not be the case at all.......you have said too little to be able to provide any real insight.
Good Luck
2007-01-06 05:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by looneybinexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know for me - when i'm dealing with personal issues and someone i don't know very well offeres to help...i might feel very volnerable if i know you seemed to care - maybe she doesn't want to face her illness (or circumsatances) and she'd rather hide with someone who doesn't see her "weakness"...not sure if it makes sense, but i think the decline of the invite (even if it was rude) might just be acomplimant to your caring personality...
2007-01-06 04:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Gugie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because even if you were showing that you care, she's still bipolar. When you asked her, she probably wasn't having one of her "manic" moments?
2007-01-06 04:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋