I'm overweight and i was wondering if that's the reason i've never been on a date EVER... wut do u think?
2007-01-06 04:38:18 · 23 answers · asked by pinkyfritz20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men are attracted to a woman who has self-confidence and self-esteem above all.
Even if you have a few extra pounds you can still take care of yourself physically by exercising and eating healthy food the majority of the time, as well as doing the little things like having neat, stylish hair, nice nails, getting a pedicure, getting a tan, wearing some makeup, wearing nice neat stylish clothing and not looking messy or like you just don't care enough about yourself to bother. If you don't care about yourself why should anyone else?
And you don't just get self-esteem from what you look like on the outside, but by what's on the inside, namely, your brain and your heart and your spirituality.
Get a good education, study hard, know what's going on in the world around you by keeping up-to-date on current events, especially sports if you really want to impress a guy. Specialize in a field of study and then get a job in it and become an expert in your field. Doesn't matter what it is. Take pride in your job and in your home. Men like a woman who is independant and intelligent.
Focus on the inner you as well. What do you believe in? Do you have a sense of a higher self or higher being? Do you have religious or spiritual beliefs? Study the many different religious and philosophical viewpoints out there. Go inward and meditate and discover what's really important to you. Know yourself. Love yourself.
Once I was on the path to discovering all of this, I've never lacked for having men in my life. Sometimes more men than I could handle! Good, quality men who treat me like a queen, even if I do have a few extra pounds on me.
There is SO much more in life than just getting any old guy to like you. That's when you end up with some of the pigs above. You have to like yourself first and foremost. Then you will find the right kind of man!
Good luck!
2007-01-06 05:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost, being overweight causes all sorts of health problems. you should trim down to live a healthier life. once you do that, you will be SO PROUD of yourself and your self esteem will go through the roof. interest from men will be a nice bonus but that isn't the reason you should drop the weight. America is a fat place. $1 cheeseburgers on every corner, drive through everything, and everyone's answer to a social gathering is food food food. It takes strenght and determination to live a healthy lifestyle but you can do it. don't worry about the men and don't accept an overweight life ahead of you. YOU CAN CHANGE IF YOU WANT TO!
2007-01-06 04:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't always the fact that they are fat that men don't like, but sometimes it is the fact that they do not take care of themselves and make healthy choices. However, some women are overweight even though they eat healthy food and excercise. They are just genetically pre-determined to be that way. Don't feel down, I am overweight, and I am married to a very handsome man who treats me like a queen and is the kind that all the girls want. So just remember, if they are going to judge you for your looks, that will soon fade anyway, they aren't worth being with anyway. You need a man who is looking for a GOOD WOMAN, not one who is looking for a barbie doll to flaunt. So be happy with yourself, and try to excercise and be healthly and the rest will fall into place. ;)
2007-01-06 04:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are guys out there that like girls that aren't stick thin. I was always taller than guys I went to school with so I didn't go on a date until I was in college. If you expand your circle of friends you might just find the right guy.
2007-01-06 04:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by The tall girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not true! There are guys out there who like bigger girls. There are guys out there who think skinny model types are gross. It just depends on the guy. If your still young, the young guys may not approach because of peer pressure, but may secretly think your gorgeous.
Remember these words "Big Beautiful Women"
There are guys who have the TOTAL HOTS for them.
Your turn will come. The right guys will show.
2007-01-06 04:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by donna_nova 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone put u down just cuz ur overweight!! some guys r just pervs that want skinny girls to get in there pants theres alot of guys out there that dont like skinny girlz!! Like on the movie phat girlz try watching that movie but if u watched it already please take my advice and the movies! I hope i helped and please don't worry the write guy will come soon!! good luck and i hope i helped!! :)
2007-01-06 04:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Latina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes that is the reason why have fat when you can have toned and in good shape i mean think of it like this whould you want to go out with a 300 or 400 pound man probably not people who are in shape just look better sorry to tell you
2007-01-06 04:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by nawizzel14 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys are like that. There are a lot of guys out there that like girls with extra weight on them. There are a lot of girls out there that are overweight and have boyfriends. Just give it time and you'll find someone.
Don't consider yourself "fat". Consider yourself a girl with extra meat on her bones. Not all guys like pencil thin chics like Nicole Ritchie.
2007-01-06 04:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats not true and dont let these jack a*s*s*e*s tell u other wise, all guys like different things, if anything i've heard guys dont like pencil thin girls, why would u be an unhappy pencil when u could be a happy magic marker, dont worry, god has someone for u and he will come soon enough, dont look for love, let it come to you!!!!! oh for whats its worth my brother digs "fat girls"
2007-01-06 05:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont like fat girls because theyd rather have the hott girl with the nice body and good personality.
2007-01-06 05:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Smartest Man Alive 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋