My daughter and son n law have our 4 year old granddaughter stand in a corner with her nose on the wall.This breaks my heart I feel it is so humiliating and degrading.What should I say when she tells me how this hurts her feelings?
2007-01-06 04:37:51 · 14 answers · asked by 50+ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You should tell her that her mother and dad love her and are trying to teach her how to properly behave by punishing bad behavior. If you interject yourself into a situation that is none of your business, you will make it worse.
2007-01-06 04:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by united9198 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Agreeing with the others. I think that they are doing what they feel is right. They are trying to teach your granddaughter boundaries, and what is right and wrong. There is nothing humiliating and degrading about that, although I agree she may feel hurt. Just explain to her that her mom and dad love her and that they don't mean to hurt her feelings. Then explain to her that when she does bad things that moms and dads can feel hurt as well. Ask her to think about this. Children are a lot smarter than many think. =)
Speaking to the child is fantastic, and it's great that you're such an involved grandparent. However (and this is from personal experience) when a grandparent steps in and goes beyond a certain point the parent doesn't look at it as helpful, but instead, rude and intrusive.
2007-01-06 13:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by unique2477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look at it this way. if she learns it now through this, then when she's older and is in school and everything she will not be sent out of the class room for bad behavior and be laughed at by the entire class.
When she tells you it hurts her feelings have her sit on your lap and tell her that mommy and daddy are only doing that so she's a good girl when she's older.
Whatever you do, do NOT interfere with your daughters and sons parenting methods, you don't want to turn into Marie from "everybody loves Raymond"!
2007-01-06 12:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by A Reading Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the child had a reason for being in the corner it had to be some disciplinary act so shes not going to like it you shouldn't pat her up about that or every time she goes in the corner she will come to you crying and that's going to be a big mess
2007-01-06 22:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to mind her Mommy and Daddy and then she wont have to stand in the corner. Sorry Grandma its your job to back up the parents you would not have liked it if your Mother and Father had told your children different than you wanted. It's not like they are abusing her just teaching her to mind which many children do not do these days.
2007-01-06 15:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many parents use time outs, be they in a corner or a chair, myself included. They 'hurt a child's feelings' less than a spanking. Discipline is heartbreaking (for parents as well) but it is a necessary part of good parenting.
2007-01-06 13:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Amy d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she is placed in the corner for a reason. Probably for punishment? Tell her to obey and she will not have to go to the corner. You should support your daughter and son-in-law.
2007-01-06 12:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by mel 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, now..Sounds like they are trying to be a better parent and not beating the child. You should be greatful that they have found a way to make her mind wtihout hitting her. It is suppose to make them feel bad and rethink any bad behavior. Crying to grandma ..Sounds like a spoiled child and should be put back in the cornor one more time. Sorry Gram...Im a gram too and would not let my grand kids do anything I would not let my kids get away with. And that includes punishment.
2007-01-06 12:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn M 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What should they do to punish or correct her when she has done wrong? Give her a new toy? Making her stand in a corner is not gonna hurt her any!
2007-01-06 13:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, your daughter and her husband are parenting THIER child, they are disciplining her obviously. You have nothing to say on the subject except that when your grand daughter complains telling her that that is the job of a parent to discipline their children, and end the conversation as well as BUTT OUT
2007-01-06 23:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋