ok my bf is kinda controling .....but hes the guy im in love with ...tho lately hes been telling me every fight we've had i started when all i try to do is discuss a older fight or aruge and then theres no controling him ...he calls me the most worse things in this world ***** and stupid and when i ask something sooo easy as to stop screaming or cursing im wrong because i was the one who brought it up .....just hes having doubts and so am i but i know theres some way this could work on top of that cause of all the stress i stopped eatting and started taking uppers to stay away ....ive been up for 4 days and i have to go to work in 2 hrs plz tell me what i should do cause im soo lost right now i dont know myself from the mirror
2007-01-06 04:36:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend is the SAME way, and i love him more than anything i can think of, he is my best friend and someone i admire so much. everyone tells me "ashley look at the relationship you have" he is controlling and argumentative BUT i love him and on top of all the bad things lies the things i LOVE about him, he is sincere sweet and he loves me, i am in a huge fight with my boyfriend and i havent talked to him in a day (which to me is a while becuase i see him everyday)....its so hard to picture myself without him, try talking to them-it doesnt work. the truth is THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE so we need to change the situation. i am not giving in, and im not allowing my bf to treat me with disrespect anymore, i guess ethier stay and deal, or put your foot down. good luck sweetie, and remember youre not alone.
2007-01-06 04:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok I have been in these kind of relationships to know that sooner or later your relationship will be over. Something really bad will happen that you will not be able to forgive. He will end up hittting you or something worse and you will say I can't take it anymore and leave. I did the same thing with more than one boyfriend. And I let it go way to far both times. Take it for someone who knows get out of it before it gets worse. You don't want it to get anymore worse than it is right now.
2007-01-06 04:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you should do: LEAVE.
Just because you are in love with someone, does not mean they are the right person for you. Sad, but true.
And in this case, he is NOT the right person for you. The right person would not treat you like crap, would they?
Or do you have so little self esteem that you believe you deserve this or can do no better? I will tell you this, if you stay with him he will eventually emotionally, mentally and/or physically beat you down until you DO believe you do deserve his crap and have so little self esteem that you become incapable of leaving.
Listen to yourself. He calls you horrible names. He calls you stupid. You're not eating. You're taking uppers. You can not find your own self in the mirror.
Warning! Warning! Warning!
Would you advise a friend to stay with a guy like this? God, I hope not!
Get out now before he starts to beat you. Because it's coming and the next thing you know you'll be looking at a stranger in the mirror covered with bruises.
2007-01-06 04:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, why would you want to be in love with a guy who calls you all kinds of rotten names when he is mad? That my sweet girl is NOT LOVE. Love is kind and gentle, love does not say or do things to hurt others intentionally. Love is patient and understanding. Love is not controlling or manipulative. What you have is NOT a love relationship. You have an abusive relationship. Are you not worth more than that???
Love is not supposed to hurt or be hurtful. Love yourself and the wonderful girl that you are by getting out of this relationship. Take some time to heal after you get out and then try and open your heart to a guy who will truly love you. Rethink your thoughts on that you are in love with this young man. If you search your heart, you may find out that you are not truly in love with this guy.
2007-01-06 04:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself do you want to be in the relationship your in I think you should find someone else if your bf fights you besides I am sure you may meet that special guy who won't hurt you and curse you out you deserve better if the arguing gets out of hand just leave the house or maybe the two of you need to talk to a counselor
2007-01-06 04:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering the fact which you pronounced you're acquaintances you in all probability understand a thank you to make one yet another snort. Do something or say something which you think of could make one yet another snort then your interest wont be focused on the anger this is putting apart you. it ought to be awkward yet that ought to be better than punching her interior the face. You seem to appreciate her features, attempt to be sure the final thank you to alleviate the area with out turning out to be a worse scene. each and every so often my acquaintances are that way, time ought to be the final answer. desire to have helped in any way. good success with your pal. :)
2016-11-26 23:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by lucy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Advice is what we ask for when we know the answer but wish we didn't."
You know what you have to do. You know that this relationship is not working now, and it won't in the future. You know that despite loving him, he's verbally abusive, and wrong for you, and that you have to end your relationship with him.
This is harming you both physically, and emotionally. All the love in the world cannot make enough of an excuse for you to stay with him.
2007-01-06 04:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Aliza, Queen of the Night 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself...
don't bring up old sh*t either...makes it worse...
sometimes when arguments gt worse and worse, it's at the end of a relationship.
Don't depress yourself for his behavior...you can't control that...
get away...
2007-01-06 04:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Khandi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop bringing up old fights whats in the past is in the past
2007-01-06 04:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is verbually abusive and you need to get some help and tell him to stay away before it turns physical!!
2007-01-06 04:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Irie 123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋