I'm 32 and dating a 30 year old. We've been dating for a year and we live together. We talk about marriage all the time and he keeps saying he wants to get engaged. Now all of his friends are getting engaged and I'm noticing a lot of people in their 20s getting engaged. He's always telling me he's going to marry me. So why is it so hard to get to the next point. Is it because I'm 30 plus and have a lesser chance of getting engaged? It's so hard to want something so bad (I love him with all my heart and I want to marry him, ring or no ring), and then see people so young get engaged and married. I feel like I lost my chance.
2007-01-06 03:40:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, you need to change your way of thinking. You are by no means over the hill or soooo old that marriage has passed you by. I'm sure that I can speak for many of those who married in their 20's. Most are not ready for it and it ends in divorce. There is just so much growing that comes with age.
You have only been with this guy for a year now. If you really feel that you have a good relationship, hang in there. It sounds like you really love him. If it is meant to be, it will happen when you are both ready. But, I would really try not to push the "marriage because I'm over the hill" thing. It could make you appear desperate and that might run him off. Just try to grow in your relationship and have fun while doing it. Put marriage out of your mind for a bit and it may happen when you least expect it. Good luck.
2007-01-06 04:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell a lot of people do not get married until you are 35, have a career So you will not have to depend on a man( in case he leaves you)
I made a few mistakes in life.....I was 2nd married at 34 or 35
*I was told date a person for 3 yrs for you go through a lot of changes.* this came from a resource center a few yrs back. In end if there are issues you cannot deal with any longer or you can live with what you saw then to make a choice.....My 3 years are way up in the realtionship I am now in and I want out........
2007-01-06 12:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbirdrubythroat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. There are plenty of people holding off on marriage and parenthood until their 30's and 40's nowadays. Lots of people are trying to get settled into their careers before making the commitment to marriage. I am 51 years young and getting married in May so it is very doable. If you want to marry that badly then talk with this man and ask him to marry you as this is very acceptable today. Best of luck and believe in yourself also.
2007-01-06 11:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you have anything to worry about regarding your age. Thirty is a good age. I would make sure this is what you truly want before you do it out of desperation. There are many who are unmarried at 30 and many who are married at 30 that wish they had waited. Just think it through carefully. Is this the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you can answer that then you can make that decision. Until then I would not put pressure on him. Good luck.
2007-01-06 11:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has NOTHING to do with your age! It boils down to......Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free" thinking? He gets everything you have to offer, without commitment, or obligation. If he wanted to, he could up and leave today.....just like that. He loves the idea of that...no strings attached lifestyle. If you want to get married, tell him so, and if he is not willing or ready, move on! He is wasting your time otherwise.
2007-01-06 11:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has little to do with it. Maybe your desperation is making him reluctant to make that final committment. If you love him and live with him already maybe you could relax a little on the needing to be married? Are you sure it's him you love, or are you in love with the idea of being married?
2007-01-06 11:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about age. You can get married whenever you want. In fact, who says you even have to get married? You can still be together, and you don't need a piece of paper to confirm that. But if you're so worried about it, why don't you propose to him? Nobody says he has to do it.
2007-01-06 11:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not true..
It may be true with the guy you are with now...
You need to make or break your current relationship..
Don't invest a bunch of time with this guy and find yourself
asking the same question 2 yrs. from now..
2007-01-06 11:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can marry at any age ! and u dont have to feel odd coz u r not only the one ! you must have ur own dignity ! so all the best !
2007-01-06 11:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by only me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just a myth. My hubby was 35 when we married.
2007-01-06 11:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋