I already have a one year old with him he was'nt happy at first about her he said it was to soon then he get over it and every thing was good he's really good with her.But this one ended us I broke up with him and threw him out he told me to get rid of it and that I was trying to trap him he took all the joy out of it but the problem is that Istill love him it's going on 3 mouths since the bark up he comes to see the 1 year but acts really cold with me he does not ask how's my pregnancy going I'm lost ....PleaSE HELP BE NICE...
2007-01-06 03:35:19 · 23 answers · asked by michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Michelle hopefully after the birth of your child he will see in this child the love that it was conceived from. It will be unfair if he only wants to have contact with the oldest and not the youngest but if that happens then it will be his loss and not yours. Hopefully you have present some form of support group to help you through this pregnancy (ie: a close friend or relative) and that you will give birth to a healthy and happy child. If counseling would help you two then please go and take advantage of this service. If not then learn to live independently and be the best parent that you can be. Best of luck with this situation and life in general.
2007-01-06 03:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say that this subject is why it's called "family planning". I don't mean it as a put-down. I mean, sounds like you "accidently" got pregnant the first time, and now, again!
I think your Beau got scared before, is the problem, although he was able to bond with your Daughter, but, to some guys, it's a load of responsibility and I know you know that!
We're supposed to discuss these things before, and not assume the man wants a family and get yourself PG.
He's wrong, though---------- I don't see it at all that you are trapping him! He's getting paranoid.
Sit and talk to him. Sounds like the both of you don't have good communication!
He also made the wrong response about "getting RID of it". That is cruel and uncalled for! It's his flesh too!
You both reacted in the wrong way, you throwing him out and him "hitting below the belt".
Sounds like he doesn't want more responsibility, but, his coldness, I'm not sure what that's about! Maybe isn't ready emotionally for a family and that committment.
Please talk to him. If he loves you, he will be FRANK with you, I'm sure of it! Whatever you do, don't push him, ok?
You wouldn't get anywhere if you do that!
Ask your man right out, ok? You have the right!
2007-01-06 03:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you trapped him or took it upon yourself to have another child without consulting him. Men hate that. They feel they have been betrayed. He is probably hurt, feeling deceived, etc. He is probably going through a lot of emotions right now. Guys don't look at themselves in the situation at all. Like maybe he needed to use a condom. It was all your fault that you got pregnant and not his. That is how men think. First off, what is done is done, you can't go back and change anything. You have to live with the consequences of the actions that you took. You are pregnant. You knew the first time that he didn't want a child, but he forgave you for that, and then you turn around and do it again. How is he suppose to feel? Would you like that if someone did that to you? You made a big decision about his life and didn't inform him of it. You need to see where you stand with him. Have a talk with him. He may forgive you again and he may not. What I don't understand here is why you would throw him out if you love him?? If you love someone, you don't leave them. You work it out. Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him to find out where you stand. Then you need to accept that and get on with your life. You are going to have two children that need you and look up to you. You have a lot on your plate.......Good luck.......
2007-01-06 03:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an abortion!!! It's a horrible thing, and you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your husband(boyfriend?) might be scared about things like how he will be able to support the new baby (does he have a good job?).
And, I'm sorry if I'm being mean, but why would you have a second baby with a man who didn't want the first baby. You should have used protection. The person that will suffer most from YOUR bad decision is the baby.
2007-01-06 03:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by princess_kiki_84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where's the marriage ring- doesn't it come nbefore the child?
Sigh! Well, legally, if he is the biological father, he must have some contact with the child, even if it means paternal child-support.
Go to your local court and apply for a hearing for child-support. If you can't afford legal; services- I'm sure Family Services or Legal Aid will assist.
Contact your local government dept for relevant information.
If he's no good now, he's probably more useless in the future.
Get rid of him from your house.
He's a LOOSER- cut the love strings and move on.
Keep your legs crossed, carry condoms and be smarter next time.
2007-01-06 03:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of birth control? Getting pregnant and having children has to be a mutual agreement. You just don't get pregnant, because there is no reason for this. I don't know, why you are so surprised, because his reaction after your first pregnancy should have been an eye opener.You sound very immature and shouldn't have any kids. I would be pissed to! Wake up!
2007-01-06 03:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him you could try and talk to him about it. Call him up and say that you would really like to talk with him and could he come over. Then when he comes over tell him how you feel. Let him know that you are not trying to trap him, and even though his reaction to the new baby hurt you, you still love him and would like to work things out. After that its really his call. I hope you can work things out. Don't worry I'm sure whatever happens it will be for the best and you will be just fine.
2007-01-06 03:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all sweetie, you don't need no one in your life thats going to tell you to abort your child. If thats what you feel you wanna do, then go for it. I'm a mother of 2, both by different men. I to was told to abort my children by the fathers. My babies are 7 and 3 and they are just fine. Trust me baby, you can do it. We get a little discouraged sometimes and figure how in the hell are we gonna do this, but we're mothers and you will always find the strength from somewhere. You don't need him.
2007-01-06 03:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by miss info 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is alot of information that you are leaving out of the questioning. Did you all ever discuss having more children? If so, what was his response to those types of questions?
People don't like to feel like they are out of control of their own lives and that is what it sounds like to me. Bear in mind that you didn't give a full relationship history.
Take care of the baby that is inside you and try to plan to do this on your own. Deal with the situation as it is, not as you would like it to be.
2007-01-06 03:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to give the Children up for adoption? To a Christian Couple, so that they could be raised with a moral foundation? [No, I am not being Mean!]
You do not seem to have your life together enough to be properly raising Children?
HE does not care about the Children, ONLY THE SEX!
Thanks, RR
2007-01-06 03:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋