im 17 years old, and i know that sounds so "young" and i have "my life ahead" of me....but i LOVE him, he was my best friend and i knew i could always count on him to be there for me....i know breaking up with him was the right thing because i wasnt being respected, but what do i do now? i dont want anyone new, and im depressed not to have him with me when i need a friend to lean on....help..
2007-01-06 03:28:22 · 18 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand what you're talking about. I just got out of a long relationship. The guy and I had plans to get married, but I guess in the end it just wasn't meant to be. It's hard to not be able to talk to him about my problems. One thing that has helped me was to create closer ties with my girl friends. I've been spending more and more time with the girls in my college dorm, and it's helped a lot. I would suggest spending time with your friends and trying to have fun. Even when you're feeling down, get out there and do something fun. You may not want another guy for some time, but that's ok.
2007-01-06 03:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by laura michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wasn't respecting you then that tells me he didn't feel the same way about you. Time will heal hun trust me. I felt the same way you did over losing my first love and it took a very long time to get over. The one thing you don't want to do like I did is get involved in relationships trying to overcome your feelings. Doing that only hurts others. Also don't take him back out of desperation. If he doesn't respect you now he won't later. I say hang with alot of your friends that will help. I do recommend going out with other guys to help but just don't get serious and let them know what your going through.
2007-01-06 11:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it really hurts at first. But there's gotta be other guys out there for you. I know you get depressed and you want him right there to make you feel better but you have to move on. Stop thinking about him and when you start to, think of something else that makes you happy. Trust me, you will get over him just like I'm getting over mine. Find someone who you are really close to and talk to them, tell them what you're feeling and that really helps, cry if you want to but not for long. Set a five-minute crying time and then stop. And if he didn't respect you, it sounds cliche but trust me, there is someone out there who will! Go out with friends, listen to happy music or whatever but don't dwell on it too much or else you're going to be feeling even worse. I know it's easier said than done but it will pass. You don't want to hear this right now, right? You want to hear something like "he'll be back, it's okay, he will change" but no! You need to talk to someone if you're feeling lonely or depressed. Hope this was something useful for you and good luck with everything.
2007-01-06 12:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by naca101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all gone through a breakup. We think our lives will come to an end, but it doesn't. It will take some time but you'll get through it. If he was your best friend, he would have respected you. Go out with your friends, DO NOT sit at home and think about it. Enjoy it, you might find you did the right thing.
2007-01-06 11:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've recently gone through the same thing. if he doesn't try to care for you, then you gotta move on, as difficult as that may be. you cant rely on just your wants to fix a relationship, because some guys are just one-minded and it only leads yourself into further heartbreak. Try your hardest to get over him, not talking to him as much if thats what he wants. Give him the space he wants and if he decides he still doesn't want to respect you as a friend, then find someone better who will. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 11:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this but no one ever really gets over there first love, they are remembered in there hearts, songs and places...but just think of what you said its for the best, he wasn't respecting you. I'm sorry to hear that you have no one to lean on but you really don't need no one keep yourself busy...it always helps! Good luck...I'll with you!!!
2007-01-06 11:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it really hurts. I mean you broke up with him for a good reason. your going to have to keep your self occupied. The best thing to do is hang with your friends, family, do something just to keep your mind off of him. you'll be just fine. it may take a week or maybe 2. and stay away from him while your trying to get over him. if you stay around him or his crew, your are not going to get over him easily.
2007-01-06 11:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by am_jean21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you ever will. Most people still have memories of their first love. All the wonders and what if's. Your hurt will ease up when you fall in love again and with any luck the next one will be the right one.
2007-01-06 11:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahaahhaha...tht was exactly what i felt when i was 17teen when my 1st love dumped me...u wanna know how i get over it..so simple.
1st..go out with ur gfs!!
2nd u still hot n young...go n have fun
3rd don listen to slow-mo music..
4th dancin can help u alot
5th mix around with guys and treat them as a friends...
so thts so simple...and if u feel to cry..just go ahead and do so! coz after tht u will feel better..
good luck
"17th teen was the best time for me =)"
so enjoy urs;.
2007-01-06 11:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by young wifey~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how this feels.....it takes time and for some reason you never forget them. there is no advice really anyone can give you all i can say it that is takes time.....what i did is found new people to chill with and tried my best to have a good time....i feel for ya....hope you have a good day and for your own personal reasons you deserve respect....you made the right choice!
2007-01-06 11:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋