i had asked a similar question to this awhile ago. i have this guy. hes awesome, when we first started really talking, he told me that he "parties", has sex with other chicks. not all the time but maybe once a month. anyway, i was like that straight, im not looking for anything, i just got out of a 5 year relationship. but the more we talked we started copping real strong feelings. hes cut back on the whole girl thing alot, but i couldn't deal with it. so i broke it off with him on new years, but i couldn't do it. im in love with him. it has never been this hard for me to just drop a dude. is he worth waiting for? should i stand by him through thick and thin. and wait till its just me. i know these girls don't stand over me. im just confused. please give me advise, and no stupid people just trying to get points. im being serious, i need ADVISE. THANK YOU.
2007-01-06 03:14:03 · 7 answers · asked by kayla b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a great question! Here's the answer: You should "stand by your man" ONLY when he is committed to standing by you. Trust me, girl, it is unwise to invest your energy into a relationship where the guy is only half in it with you. He might not be ready to be in a committed, monogamous relationship right now, and that means that no matter how great/cute/fun he is, he will not be able to meet your needs.
You deserve better than that! You deserve to be with a guy who treasures you. Keep looking until you find him, and don't settle for less. I know you love him, and it might hurt to let him go, but in the end, you have to find someone who has earned your loyalty. Good luck!
2007-01-06 03:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by root24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by breaking it off with him. Whether or not you love him, he's not reciprocating. If you "stand by him through thick and thin" he will continue doing just what he's doing now and you will be setting yourself up for perhaps years (and years) worth of heartache. It's best to take a stand now. If he really wants to be with you, he will straighten his act up, but that part is totally up to him. Respect yourself to expect more for yourself. If you don't, he wont respect you either.
2007-01-06 11:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him...you are just attached to the first guy that you saw after a long realtionship...he probably seems different...but if he have a problem with being loyal...then you don't deserve him..just be patient...you will find who will appreciate you more.
good luck in finding your true happines.
2007-01-06 11:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by invisible1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would move on. He's been upfront and honest but I wouldn't want someone who chooses to behave in this way. The hurt will heal given time if you choose to end it.
2007-01-06 11:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has done it with other women I think he just wantss to do it with you. Don't let him do anything. Ignore him fo a while. See what he does. If he is hanging out with another woman, he is so not worth it.
2007-01-06 11:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting for good god you should never wait around as sometimes they just do not show up!!!
2007-01-06 11:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a bj and stop boring us!
2007-01-06 11:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋