well just yesterday i found out a shocking truth about my boyfriend...he told me that in his past he has slept with two girls..and he's done drugs..and he smokes..and drinks sometimes..but he says he stopped doing all that b/c he changed for me..i mean if he hasnt changed then why would he tell me this anywayz..so should i believe him or not??should i break up with him b/c im still not over him sleeping wit the two girls thing..i mean im only 15..and he's only 16..so idk about that..and wat if he's only trying to get me in bed too...can u please help me???im very confused...and if i should break up with him...then how should i do it??cause i dont wanna tell him i broke up with you b/c u have slept with two girls b/c he told me the truth and if i do that then he'll probably never tell the truth again..and also he used to lie a lot..but he says he's changed..however should i believe him or not?? VERY CONFUSED!!!!
2007-01-06 03:11:08 · 13 answers · asked by lilcrzygurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I give your bf credit for wanting to be open and honest with you. Now you have a decision to make. . I do not think the fact that he has slept with other girls should bother you as much as the drug,alcohol, and tobacco use. It may be he just wanted to experiment, but thats something worth talking more about if your thinking of continuing with this guy.. Obviously you have high standards and morals and you should not comprimise them for anyone. You are too young to start a relationship with serious issues such as these. Go have some fun with friends. Tell this guy that you are not interested in having a serious relationship with anyone. Don't be afraid of what he thinks, this is your life and you have to manage it and protect it. He will be just fine believe me, and you will be free to choose a better match for your self. You are very wise to take notice of the RED FLAGS he is flying. Good for you.! : )
2007-01-06 03:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all try to find out if you realy love him, and try not to let him to get you in bed :-s----->his is boys ultimate purpose . you are only 15... try to live your life, you are young.... you should study for school.. don't worry, it will come the age when you are able to take the right decizion in a relationship. For now... be careful, and do not pay much attention to him...because a lier remaines a lier...andd you must be a smart girl and break up with hip...------> you can try to ignore him for a while, when he will see that you are ignoring him... he will break up with you
2007-01-06 11:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by alina_valy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel lucky and honored he is being honest with you. It is hard to find honest people, especially at a young age. I woul let the freindship bloom out of this honesty and avoid sex until marriage. Otherwise you get hooked on the sex and then you don't really get to know the person well.
2007-01-06 11:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by foodguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't judge him for his past. Everyone has done things in their past that they wouldn't do now, it's a part of the growing up process. We learn by our mistakes. If you want to be sure, don't go to bed with him until you want to. If he's changed, he won't have a problem with waiting.
His past is done and over and there's nothing you can do to change it. Don't dwell on the past but make a future for yourself and him.
2007-01-06 11:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you asks about someone's past. He's changed for you. Be glad and accept him for the person you've known during your relationship. If you keep focussing on his past, you're going to lose him.
2007-01-06 11:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him! You are to young for that kind of drama. And hes only 16. Girl give him a few years and Ill beat he has cheated on someone by then. DUMP THAT LOOSER!!!!
2007-01-06 11:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by rosebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that since you're confused, you should listen to your gut and let him go. His values obviously don't mesh with yours, and that is fundamental to a good relationship. Find someone whose values are a better match with yours.
2007-01-06 11:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by dallas_darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think he is only saying tis all to get you in bed, then trust me, don't go to bed with him or you will regret for the rest of your ( maybe like my freaking life. ) life, don't say i didn't warn you , most mens are born bad, will stay bad, even if you cut your throat for them, they will remain so, ( fat hope for turning good for you .) if me, i will kiv him( keep in view) observe him, girl, and run away while you cam, (that is if you spot something amiss.) Or you will be like me, ( i regret for the rest of my freaking life.).... that i gave to a guy,... claim that he's got a incurable disease.... yeah... like hell , he's living happier then me now,,,,,
2007-01-06 11:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by jade s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's young and not in a position to say anything that might be remotely considered permanent. Let him go.
2007-01-06 11:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey at least hes told you now if you really like him give him one last chance
2007-01-06 11:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋