I discovered my fiance was seeing another girl and buying her gifts. I broke off our engagement. He begged me back, insist he loves me and only me and wants us to get married and have children. I told him I was prepared to move on and we could be be friends. But he insist he loves me and only me. Can he ever be trust? Does he deserve another chance? My heart is broken in a million pieces.
2007-01-06 03:00:59 · 26 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no - he'll do it again trust me i know - he will change someday but he has to be hurt badly and find out what its like first - you taking him back wont change him - he will always cheat on you - cept now he has to step up his game so he doesnt leave any traces (ie get caught)
find another fella hun at all costs!!!!! this one is done!!!!!
2007-01-06 03:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by loco_purple_haze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another change, but break off your engagement. Take a good look at your relationship and soul search, if you really want to be married to a guy, that was cheating on you, while he was engaged. Are you able to forget about the whole thing? He was not only seeing another girl, he was also buying her gifts. Ask him, why he bought the gifts, besides seeing her. What was the purpose of that. Did he buy her affection?
2007-01-06 03:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can change. But they have to be willing to change and actually do it.
If he does change and is sincere about it and does it. He can be trusted again, but it will take time to rebuild that trust, and he's going to have to work VERY hard to earn your trust again. If he does that, then yes he deserves another chance. And I can understand why your heartbroken.
I did that to my wife, I had an affair, we seperated for a month, and she took the kids and left me alone for a month. What a wake up call. It worked. After we got back together, we started going to marriage counceling together. And it's made a world of dfference in our marriage.
My suggestion is if you do take him back, seek pre-marriage counceling, because I think it will help you both and could lay the building blocks to rebuild that trust.
I wish you the best.
Take care and God Bless
2007-01-06 03:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of effort on the part of the cheater if they are really motivated to change their behaviour. He should work very hard for as long as you need to earn your trust again. If he truly loves only you, it would appear he has committment problems. Personally I would move on, there are millions of people out there without the 'issues' he has.
2007-01-06 03:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! The only way that this man will change is if he has accepted Christ into hi heart and has given up his old ways. Being a born again Christian will change a man. Want him to prove that he has changed? Get involved in church. If he becomes saved and lives according to God's word, then chances are, he is truely a changed man and you can then begin building a lasting relationship with God as your foundation!
Best wishes!
2007-01-06 03:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but not very likely that he's changed... Though you leaving him could have been a reality-check and might have jolted him into a realization that he ****** up majorly. Take your time before making any decisions about this.. If he really does love you and want only you he'll be patient and won't mind waiting for you..
2007-01-06 03:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jessi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might change but you can never trust him 100% ever again. You would be always curiouc and suspecting him all the time. What kind of relationship would that be without trust?
2007-01-06 03:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Fatima 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one deserves a secound chance we all make mistakes but you have to ask your self why did he cheat on you if he only loves you. your heart is broken now how would it be if he done this to you again. think hard first put love a side and think why he did this to you. then can you forgive him only you can no that all the best.
2007-01-06 03:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is most unlikely that he will quit for a lifetime . Depends on what kind of a future you want to build for yourself . It'll take a lot of forgiveness and constant checking up on a cheater .Is it worth it ? Only you can answer that .
And don't be friends with him either it will only prolong the agony .
2007-01-06 03:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe but I would count my blessing that you found out before you got married. If there are problems before the wedding trust me there will be more to follow the wedding.
2007-01-06 03:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋