Do I talk about what happened or just leave it,move on and pretend nothing happened?

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People may want to read a previous question of mine for some additional background here: http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
Anyway a summary. This girl I really like was flirting with me for quite a while and communicating with me via txt. Then asked me to go to spend New Year's with me in another country. Before agreeing to go I asked if she was asking me as a friend or more? She said she has a boyfriend although she really likes me. So I didnt go. On New Yrs Eve and day we texted each other. I work with her so I seen her in work a few days later. When I seen her she caught me by surprise and I was very nervous and felt awkward. My heart was going like a train. Immediately she came to speak to me asking me loads of open questions. Being a guy I just closed up giving short direct answers. We had various assessments to do and she chose to do them with me. She decided to sit with me alot and spend lunch with me.

The whole week I acted like we had not even communicated over the holidays. I didnt ask her once how she got on on her trip. One reason for this was that I didnt want to act interested in her and that I was uncomfortable that she new I was crazy about her now. The other reason was I was unsure whether I could talk about the events around other colleagues as she is a very private person and colleagues wud love the gossip of a possible developing relationship. Part of this week I acted cool but at other times I acted like a fool. If I couldnt think of something decent to say I'd just say some stupid thing that popped into my head. Thats not me and she knows this. I need to act cooler. But what im asking is should I talk to her about what happened/my feelings or act like it hasnt happened? I dont really get an opportunity to talk to her privately at work at all. I know this is hard to believe but its true. I initially wanted to back off but dont want to brush this off either.

Answer 1

I think you did the right thing by not meeting her on new years eve.
Don't worry about work, to be fair I wouldnt bring it up now not unless she brings it up.
Just carry on as you were before, be cool, be yourself and be her friend but realise If she has a boyfriend it is best not to get involved because It will end up with someone getting hurt!
Good luck

Answer 2

You should try to talk with her privately. You need to k now what her intentions are, and it sounds like she may be playing a little game with you. If she is playing a game, you need to know that that is what it is. When you try to talk to her, you'll know by her reaction more than by her words whether she is a flake or not.
If she is a flake, you'll be less likely to continue an emotional attachment with her; you'll know what is in store, and that it's not worth it. It sounds like she's got a lot going on: a boyfriend, trips abroad, where do you fit in?

Answer 3

Talk to her. It sucks when someone (a guy) acts weird or leaves you hanging. Women wonder....drive themselves crazy. You don't have to have an "answer"...just acknowledge that u were acting weird and try to let her know what u were thinking. She'll appreciate it. If it's hard, write it down in a little card or something. But definitely yes

Answer 4

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Answer 5

if she still has boyfriend then leave it as this will hurt someone else if it came out. If not then talk to her, you have her phone number text her and ask when you could call her and she'd have time to talk . you may find it easier to talk through your feelings for her in this way, or you could arrange to go for a drink and tell her... it will eat you up if you don't make a clear cut decision, tell her or forget her for your own sanity

Answer 6

You should just act cool about it all. She knows how you feel, the ball is in her court. If something is going to happen it will.

Answer 7

I think you just misinterpeted her actions..it sounds like she just enjoys your company working beside you.....she told you she had a boyfriend..it's okay to like another male, platonic...office environment can become playful, flirtatious but that is all.....leave it alone and just enjoy the friendship..

Answer 8

i think she does like u. but its not fair putting u in that position when she has a boyfriend. text her and tell her how u feel. but that u can take it no futher as she has a boyfriend

Answer 9

You both like each other, that is obvious. Talk to her frankly,or express your feelings.She wants to get close to you.Good luck.

Answer 10

Talk to her and clear things up otherwise it will just keep rumbling on.