the thing is that she got cancer and symptoms came out really late+there is nothing we can do. the past 2 weeks she got really sick.she's at the clinic+they are taking really good care of her but still--every time i see her i can't stop crying for days. i feel that she thinks i've abandoned her there. how will i get over her death?
2007-01-06 02:40:34 · 22 answers · asked by disco ball 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
think of her and the good times
then get a new dog soon
not like the other so there is no comparing
2007-01-06 02:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The death of a family pet has the same effect on us as a family member. You'll never fully heal and you'll always remember her and it will probably still make you cry, but try to think about a better time than her dying in the hospital. If the vet is giving her a very poor prognosis, you may want to consider easing her pain. As hard as it is to make that decision, you have to remember that euthanasia is a gift we can give our pets when there's nothing else. It will stop her pain and stop dragging out the inevitability of death. It's always hard to make a decision like this, but don't do it until you're ready to. I'm so sorry for your loss.
2007-01-06 10:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by lunarkry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is dying, you should really put her down so she does not suffer anymore. I know how hard it is but it is not fair to the poor thing to extend the suffering. (Especially if the dog is living it's last days at the vet). Put it down :(
And there is no easy way to get over it. When my cat died, I went to the shelter soon after to look at kittens. I ended up getting a stray dog that is the best dog I have EVER had. Sometimes things happen for a reason.. Nothing will replace your pet but you can go help another animal now.
2007-01-06 11:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by sherry001fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. They say that keeping animals is good for children as it teaches them about the cycle of life and death, but nothing can prepare you for how you feel when you know you are going to lose a treasured pet.
We lost our pet hamster Henry, and we were devastated for weeks afterwards. We thought we'd never get a pet hamster again because we knew how much it hurts when you care for them every day and they depend totally on you, then they get sick and there's nothing you can do about it and then they are gone.
However, eventually we got another hamster called Harriet, but she never replaced Henry and we always have him in our thoughts.
If you are going to get a new pet, make sure you are over the death of your dog, otherwise it will just be on the rebound and your feelings for the new pet will never be as strong as those for your first pet, and that's just not fair on the new one.
For the time being, make sure you spend as much time as you can at the clinic with your dog, being there for her. When she has gone, you will feel that you made her last few weeks more bearable.
2007-01-06 10:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by feeltherisingbuzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for her even though it will tear your heart out and have them put her to sleep because then you will end her suffering and that is the best way to say "I Love You and Thank You for Your Years of Faithful Companionship". All you are doing by keeping her at the vet clinic is draining your account when there is no hope. She will be much happier when she is no longer in pain. To help get over it, believe me it is very hard to think this way, just remember that she's not in pain and is in a much, much better place.
2007-01-06 11:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to "get over" a death of a pet. They are so special and sometimes they are as important to us as any other member of our family. You may find comfort in knowing that while your dog was with you, she was loved and cared for and lived a GOOD life. That she was treated kindly, and knows she was loved back. Sometimes it can help too, to realize that it is more merciful to end the pain than to continue to stay here, with us and suffer. I still miss all three of my dogs that have passed away throughout my life. Each was a special gift. Prayers to you and your family and your pup!
2007-01-06 11:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by curlycue2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a really hard thing to see your dog get a serious illness that will kill it. My last dog also got cancer, and I decided to make it easier for her by putting her down.
The only thing I can say if you choose to do the same is BE THERE. It will be painful as hell, but it will be easier to heal when you know for sure it has happened.
Good luck, and stay strong.
2007-01-06 10:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when my dearest freind of 14 years became sick and our vet said she wouldnt make it no matter what we did. we had the choice of leaving her there for treatment ,putting her to sleep or taking her home. we made her a bed on the living room floor and we(my children and i) lay with her and spoke with her letting her know we loved her and what a good freind she had been,we just talked and loved her untill she died.she passed in the evening and we were able to bury her.im glad it happend that way.if we had left her she would have died alone. so if you decide to put her down i would suggest taking her home for a day if possible.it will be comforting to you to know that she felt your love.how to get over it? you know, thats the hard part. I dont think we ever stop missing them, everytime i think of sarah, i say to god .thank you for the time i had with such a wonderful freind and where ever she is now let her know i love her.
Im sorry you are losing your freind.
2007-01-06 11:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by matowakan58 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry but i promise, you are not abandoning her there. your vet has trained staff that can make her comfortable at this time and she probably needs it. i am sure that she knows that you love her. it is a terrible thing because they cannot speak and tell us that its alright but i'm sure that if she could she would tell you just that. for some of us our pets are our family and just like if she was a human you are losing it will take you time to grieve and pretty soon you will remember nothing but good memories. for some getting a new pup helps but i truly believe that you should give yourself time to heal before you make a decision like that. terribly sorry for your loss, me
2007-01-06 10:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by catchick80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the dog cannot get better and is in pain, put her to sleep. i know it sounds cruel but its probably the best thing. visit her as much as you can and spend a lot of time with. talk to her as if she was human, dogs have feelings too. when she dies, never forget about and remeber to talk about her sometimes. and once again dont forget her, u might want to spend more time with friends when this happens
2007-01-06 11:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are, you wont. you will always remember her. just think of the good times you have had, think of her as she was and not the dog who was in pain at the vet. dont try to forget or get over it, you probably wont. just stay strong, and be brave for her. sometimes getting another dog or pet can help ease the pain in your heart.im so sorry for your loss, pets are so hard to loose.
2007-01-06 10:49:20 · answer #11 · answered by Rattiesrule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋