I'm 18 years old, almost 19. I've never had a serious boyfriend (just one, I was 14 and we lasted like 4 days), and I'm still a virgin. All my friends have a BF and have lost their virginity, what should I do?. Most of my friends are uglier than me, and I mean it.
I really like this guy, but he's an ***. He's crazy and he's like 5'4'' and he belives that he's Brad Pitt, of course, he doesn't pay attention to me. Should I go to extreme makeover or what?
2007-01-06 02:37:26 · 19 answers · asked by Shimmer_treasure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a sophomore.
2007-01-06 02:41:41 · update #1
Absolutely not. You are NOT a complete loser. You have something most people cannot TRULY say about themselves. You are still sexually innocent, and I don't say that to be dirty or perverted. I say that to tell you that your values are higher than that of most people.
I myself am NOT a virgin, and my girlfriend is not the one I lost my virginity to. I have to live with that for the rest of my life. That's a pain that I sometimes can't stand.
You don't have that problem, and hopefully you won't ever have it.
Don't see your single lifestyle as a failure; see it as an accomplishment!
As far as the guy you like -- I'd advise against him. He sounds like a very self-centered individual. Just be patient and let love come to you. It often comes when you're off-guard, and you're not looking for it. It's not about your looks; it's about your personality. Just continue to be yourself and eventually Mr. Right will spot you in the crowd. Hope that helps.
2007-01-06 02:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go getting a makeover just to please other people. Everyone is going to have an opinion about you so just listen to the positive ones. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age either. I still am and i'm 19. You should wait for a nice guy who likes you for who you are. You shouldn't feel like you should lose your virginity just because your friends have. Be happy that you still have it and didn't waste it on someone in highschool you may never see again afterwards. And that guy you mentioned sounds like a real loser thinking he's so good looking. Arrogance is never a good thing. You'll find a great guy when you least expect it.
2007-01-06 10:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Neon Ballroom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....that's not a bad idea. Seriously, I think you are on the right track! I suspect you either lack confidence, or...are unconsciously sending a signal of being unapproachable. Let's guess that you don't feel as good about yourself as you could. A makeover could really change your appearance and just give you an shot in the arm, emotionally speaking. Next, do you need new or better friends. Are they helping or hurting? If you are more attractive than they, you are probably not getting the dating and social support you need from them. If you get your act together, you could be a threat to them.
All that being said, I'll bet you are a flower waiting to blossom and just have to figure out how to bloom. Remember...."If we only do, what we've already done, we'll only get what we've already got!". Try something different, the life you save may be your own. Good Luck.
2007-01-06 11:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jim N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "uglier" friends are getting 'boyfriend's' the wrong way. Stay the way you are. Getting a good education is the most important thing right now. Oh....and stay away from "the playa , Brad Pitt look-alike"...he sounds like an @ss.
2007-01-06 10:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing things right to me. Keep up the good "moral" work. However, maybe you should spice up your social life so as to meet more eligible guys:
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents and your teachers
7. Get involved in a worthy school function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Invite your friends to Church
12.Take group dance lessons
Good Luck
2007-01-06 10:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel that is the same way I am right now. I'm 16 still a virgin and all my friends have girl friends. But I am not sure if they have lost their virginity. But you should stay as you are and if the people don't like you than their loss.
2007-01-06 10:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it up to this *** who believes he's Brad Pitt. You will regret it. I didn't lose my virginity until I was nearly 21. Don't worry about your "uglier" friends. They are probably not very selective. Wait it out.
2007-01-06 10:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good idea to judge yourself against others. Might make you do something that you later regret. Just hang in there, someone will come along. And chances are you should stay away from mini brad pitt.
2007-01-06 10:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I don't know who puts these negative self worth thoughts in your head, but they are totally unfounded. The truth is it is rare to find a male at the age of 19 who can have a meaningful relationship. Best steer clear of these dudes who will frustrate you and be content with yourself and grow until some men come around with some maturity.
2007-01-06 10:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bernstein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly some girls will date and have sex with almost anyone Those girls are the ones to be pitied. You, on the other hand have it all ahead of you. You can wait until you find the right man and the right time for you. Don't waste yourself on some inexperienced inept, unappreciative, std carrying kid, that has no self control or respect for a girl.
2007-01-06 10:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋