We did not have this problem until shortly after he wen ton break from pre-school. He was playing with his 11 year old brother a lot during that time. Before this he had a few occasions when he would talk back but now it has been almost every time you ask him to do something.
His teacher thinks he may be going through a phase where he is trying to assert himself and find out where he fits into the family as far as power and control goes. And that he is also trying to develop his character.
2007-01-06 02:09:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
DO NOT let him think he has power over you. Let him know that it's not a good thing to talk back to you and assert your authority calmly, but commandingly. Don't be over bearing, but establish a "time out" if he pushes past his limit. First threaten him with a time out, and if he doesn't listen, then SEND HIM TO TIME OUT. Don't feed him threats that you will not follow up on or he will learn that you aren't going to do anything to him if he talks back to you and will continue this behavior.
Remember, your child is in the "Autonomy vs. Shame" stage and this means that he is in fact, trying to become an individual and must be allowed some independence, but not too much!!
Hope this helps, best of luck!
2007-01-06 02:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pyrai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to went through this and heres what worked for us:
* We mad a bad word chart and everytime he said something mean we would take a star from him (he started with 4 stars cuz he was 4 at the time) and when he had 0 stars we either took a toy or somthing away or we gave him time out.
After a week or so it got a lot better we just stayed consistent and even now he has the chart and instead of us taking stars our son is earning stars
Good luck I hope that helps a little
2007-01-06 10:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is simple cause and effect. He mouths off and he gets a reaction from you. He is playing a game with you and your getting mad makes it fun. Three is a very smart age!! When he talks dis-respective to you just calmly tell him why what he is doing wrong and park him in a time out. If he sees that he can't get a reaction out of you the game won't be fun anymore. And he will realize the 30 second attention he gets when he is mouthy isn't as rewarding as the 20 minutes you spend reading a book or something special when he is good!
2007-01-06 10:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany Seymour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 3, and he just started that phase. Everytime I ask him to do somehting he wants to do the complete opposite. It is so nerve racking. But it is just a phase that they go through, they are trying to set there power and see where they fit it. They are trying to get control, i spoke to my doctor and he said it is normal not to worry and that everytime he does it to give him time out for 3 minutes and then explain to him why and tell him you are the parent and he needs to listen, but both parents have to take part or they will do it more to the one that doesn discpline
2007-01-06 11:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children this age learn from example. They like to imitate any adult or older children. It's clear that he has been playing with his older brother. Or hanging around him more. He is probably picking up behaviors from this older sibling which is pretty normal. This is where the parent guidance comes in. I had the same experience when when my 5 year old goes to play with his older cousins or spends the night. My son comes home with an attitude when asked to do something. which is unusual for him to use certain remarks and attitudes. Before I react, I ask him where did you learn that word? or who says that? He tells me his older cousin talks that way to his mom. Then I explain that that is not OK and that he needs to be himself. And that the way he is talking to me is disrespectful and that I don't like it. And if he continues to pick up on those behaviors that he wouldn't be able to go. He then say, "OK mommy."
Children want to feel like big kids so they say and do what older kids or adults do. It's part of growing up. And it's our job to be patient and guide them positively. We also have the responsibility to be good role models. And remember PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH !!
2007-01-06 12:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The teacher is right. Many times...3 is worse then 2!
2007-01-06 10:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the teacher is right, they do that. He is starting to establish himself as his own person. Don't crush him, but do make sure he know who is the boss.
2007-01-06 10:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase, but don't let it phase you!!
2007-01-06 10:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋