Kids, are they worth it?

Question

I am 30 and my wife is 32. I know, where getting up there in age.
She is really looking forward to having kids this year.

But I'm not looking forward to the dirty diapers, crying, thowing up, ect.

Don't get me wrong I love kids, I just wish we could skip the baby phase.

Oh yeah, adopting is out- I already played that card.

Answer 1

Kids are very much worth it- for the right people that is. Yeah the diapers, crying and everything else may seem lie a bit much, but when you get that first school picture, when you first get announced as "daddy", when you first get to watch your creation grow up and become productive, it is always worth it.

Not every day will be peachy, but the rewards in the long run are worth it. Babies are just the way they start out, not the way they stay and in no time at all they will be out of that phase and into the cool stages- like when you can help build their first gocart- go fishing with them, talk about guy things, have a buddy that truly adores you.

I have a 2 year old. My fiance really didnt want any kids and wasnt thrilled when we got pg, but after the baby was born, he warmed up really quick and now he couldnt have his life without the baby. That is his world. (and its a boy BTW). He said he wasnt too happy with him when he was a baby but now since he is over that, he is enjoying him more and he gets to teach him things too. Now everytime my fiance comes in from work, the baby is there to greet him with hugs and a "hi daddy". words cant explain the smile on his face, even when he is having a bad day...

But i will return to my first statement though- kids are good for the right people. I say that because there are those who have kids who dont want them, and therefore end up mistreating them. Kids learn by love and example- it is a parents duty to give them that education. Trial and error....

Answer 2

Yes, they are totally worth it.

I think a lot of guys feel this way. I know my husband felt a little left out for those first few months after our daughter was born (she's now 12 months). It's all about the mommy for the baby those first few months (especially if your wife will breastfeed). I was 34 when we had her and my husband was 32. So you are not geriatrics yet!

I was never someone who felt my life destiny was to have kids. In fact if you would have asked me as a 20-something, I would have said I'll probably not have kids.

I think you'll be suprised how much you love the little lump very quickly. Watching your wife go through labor will have a profound affect on you.

I think all the complaining about the diaper/crying/throwing up phase is overrated. It's not that big of a deal. You get used to the drill.

I too thought I'd hate the baby phase and I loved it! It goes very fast (speaking as someone who just got done with it) so even if you do hate it, it lasts for such a short time. As soon as your kid starts to crawl (about 7 months) and walk (about 9-13 months) they don't seem like babies anymore.

I know everyone says "you'll change your mind when you see that kid for the first time" and it sounds so trite, but it really is true.

Answer 3

I think you feel this way because at the moment it is all unknown to you. No body realizes what a baby means until they actually have one of their own. You can't judge your reactions to someone Else's' baby. You will fall in love with your own baby and none of those things will matter. in fact the baby phase goes by so quickly you will wonder where it went. you need to get involved and help your wife. Don't stand by and let her do all the caring for the baby. My husband was so hands on for our last child and it was wonderful. He wasn't for the others because he worked away a lot and he was also much older when the 3rd one came along unexpectedly. Good luck!

Answer 4

You will not be thinking that when your little boy or girl looks up at you for the first time. It's all worth the mess it really is and changing a dirty diaper isnt that bad. You should at least have one baby and I wish you the best .

Answer 5

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Answer 6

What are you worrying about? the woman deals with the dirty nappies, crying and throwing up!

If you don't feel ready for children yet, I strongly suggest you say so because once it happens (she gets pregnant) you can't undo it.

I reckon once your little baby is in your arms you are going to forget about all the bad stuff. (until the baby throws up on you, ha ha ha) The good stuff outways it all anyway! Kids really are great! I hope one day you get to see that, and to experience what a lot of us already have! :)

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

When your wife would love to have kids and you actually also like it, then why are you doubting? I´m a mother of two, my old one is 15 years and the young one only 4 month and I gotta tell you I enjoyed every minute of being pregnant even though I often felt nauseous... And seeing the kid grow, showing them every aspect of life ect. is so lovely! I wouldn´t give a away a single minute I spend with them! To come back to your question, for me kids are definitely worth it but that´s actually a question only to pose to you and your wife so think about it well. But if you are sure you can give the kid a good chance for future ( money, education, and........LOVE......) I wouldn´t hesitate but like I said it´s your decision!
Good luck! :-)

Answer 8

You and ur wife need 2 sit down and discuss ur future in the kids department. Than come 2 some comprimise.

Answer 9

This is something you and your wife need to discuss. Because even though most people find it rewarding to have children, others disagree. This doesn't make them a bad person for not wanting children.

Answer 10

My children are the light in my life. I can't imagine my life without them.
Parenting is the hardest job in the world but the most rewarding.
I don't regret my decision to have children for one minute.

Mother of three.