How could one have an affair with somebody who's married, and not notice the person was married?

Question

Not really judging here; just curious. It seems like it'd be hard not to notice.

Or -- if it wasn't noticeable, the adulterer in question would be so absent and behaving so differently that I imagine it'd be obvious on the other side, and would, er, lead to the person ending up single anyway...

Answer 1

They probably do know but they choose to ignore it.

Answer 2

Don't go out with strangers...You should have info on their background before getting with them. Get their home phone number and call at any time of the day.
The cheater is usually smooth and gracious, sexy and a bit aggresive. They are well aware of the game plan. cause this isn't the first time they have done it. They have all the bases covered.
Someone who goes with a person like this and knows the game, doesn't want a relationsohip at first, they just want attention and sex and it doesn't matter from whom
Unfortunately they know the married ones, they can spot them and know there will be no attachments. Just a good time, that sometimes turns into just a sexual realtionship and then they fall for them and are left out in the cold.
it is a vicious circle and most people who do this start this thinking they are in control and by the end are devasted by the
outcomes.
Yes, you can spot them a mile away.

Answer 3

Men lie........Men Cheat. He could start out the relationship by saying he travels a lot. That would give him the excuse to be away from you. A man can offer so many excuses that you would believe them. They have the craft down to a second nature. Not all, but most. If there is "no" wedding band, or anything outwardly to say he is married, there is no way to know that a person is married. You just have to trust that person or do a background check on him.

Answer 4

i agree with your seems like it would be hard not to notice, i have found that people love to be tricked, the ol if it seems to good to be true applys here most of the time, but for some odd reason, people fall for a false fairy tale everytime, without ever questioning or thinking twice that this scum bag of a lieing sack of shiit cheater is performing an illusion and pulling the wool over their eyes to the point of blindness, with lines like she doesnt understand me, or she wont have sex with me, or weve grown apart, were staying together for the kids what a crock of bull shiit, these guys will continue wrecking womens lifes untill someone calls them on it and ends it, not to mention when the wife finds out, and then you get the questions should i wait for him we are so in love and he is such a nice guy, if i had a dime for every woman i have seen type that here on the net, my answer to them is the same, wake the faulk up it was just a trick, just a lie to get you in the sack, avoid the wreck, and stop buying that load of crap, ok off my soap box, but yes it would seem that that would be like a red flag road block donot enter danger ahead when dealing with a cheater, but they never want to see the signs or pay attention to them, sad so sad.....

HAND have a nice day!!!

Answer 5

It is a world out there why even I have to smarten up. Why the lady across the hall who I met at two different other places on where she stayed & of knowing her sister previouly but now I've lost contact and I still don't know as to when her husband ole return cause he hasn't seen her in four years and when three yrs ago I got her boy Email so she could talk to him and in con. contact! Till she quit our contact etc. because there is more as when she came an wole me an I stayed to bed! Bfn

Answer 6

You'd be amazed. If they don't wear a ring, they're not "marked." In this day of cell phones, heavy travel for business, workaholics and commuting/telecommuting it's not hard to explain away anything.

It often makes cheating just as easy to hide from the spouse as it is easy to hide marriage from the lover :(

Of course... my personal feeling is that the person in question doesn't deserve the spouse OR the lover....

Answer 7

It happened to a colleague of mine. She was dating a guy for 4 months, I met him while he was with her at the county fair. Later I was at walmart and saw him pushing a shopping cart for his wife with todler in the cart. I told my colleague about it. She tailed him discretely and managed to meet his wife privately. Both women were hurt badly by this and agreed to confront him together and did. Ironically the two women have been close friends ever since the divorce!

Answer 8

Have you ever known a sociopath? I've got one in my family. A sociopath can lie, and because they don't care about who they hurt, they can lie and lie and lie, and seem so sincere....because they have no conscience, nothing making them cringe, or evade when they lie. If you ever meet a really good liar, or a sociopath, you will understand how people can date people who are married and not know it.

Answer 9

Speaking from experience, it can happen!!! My children's father was my boss at work. When he approached me at work and asked me for a date, he did say he was divorced and had 2 kids. Why wouldn't I believe him? It wasn't until I called his home a couple of dates later, that his wife answered the phone. I was stunned, but needless to say, she wasn't.

Answer 10

Many don't wear a ring and are busy business people so that explains long absences.

Answer 11

Sometimes people that don't want to stay married/or faithful.Work at looking/being single so they can ruin other people's lives too,for their fun! Please be careful!