Im 22 next month and I have only had I boyfriend, quite a few 1 nighters since. In some of them I hoped for a relationship, maybe goin bout things the wrong way but would love some stabilty and love returned, any advice?
2007-01-06 01:19:27 · 30 answers · asked by zanzabarr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice would be..... don't look for love in nightclubs, or bars of any kind, they are entirely the wrong places. Also if your looking for love, you never, and I repeat never give anything away the first time you go on a date with them or the first time you meet them, so no sex on the first date, you must wait at least a week or two before letting a guy have sex, if he can wait a month before he gets any off you then you know that he wont walk out on you after the first time he gets some. The best thing you can do is to wait until a guy asks you out on a date or something, because that shows he is interested in you...., and also try not to appear desprate... as this will make guys think they can get a one nighter out of you and nothing more. Guys like to know that a girl will be faithful and loyal to them, so they need to know they she doesnt give herself away straight away... this is what I get told again and again by my friends who are guys and my boyfriend.... and this is what I've always practiced... never do anything too soon, a guy should always wait till you are ready and not push you into something.... I hope that is helpful and gives you some idea of what will lead to love and stability... good luck!
2007-01-06 01:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by wiccanfairiekitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i think most peoples answers on this question have been very unfair. Just because you have had one nigth stands does not make you a ****. The only problem is that you expecct more from them. If you just went with the flow and realised you are young free and single and can do anything you want you will feel a whole lot more confident and better and men will notice that. I cannot see why men can do it without such judging it is just not fair.
Enjoy being young, go out and do what you want and live life a bit!!!!
:-)
2007-01-06 02:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by sandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and learn from experience. I had my first boyfriend at 22 and it's nothing to be ashamed of (I actually like the fact) and it's better to do things on your own time. Don't look for things, they will come to you naturally.
Also, night stands are ok, if that's what you want, but you must know that they are just sex, and a relationship is never going to come out of there, because you slept with the guy, in the first night. (We all like a bit of a challenge) 99.9% of the time.
Relax and enjoy life.
2007-01-06 01:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sheldon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you know you've been going about it the wrong way as you say.
You say you want some love in return right? Well I would suggest thinking about this a bit more and making it clear to yourself what that should mean to you. Once you've done that you can then play harder to get to see if the men that come into your life can meet your emotional expectations.
Wish you luck, love and happiness.
2007-01-06 01:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screwing on the first date as opposed to the 5th date doesn't matter. If you are going the same places and meeting the same kinds of people, you will get the same results, try doing something new. Take a class at a local college or start a new hobby.
2007-01-06 01:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...apparently there's a man out there 4 us all, n yea u make mistakes n all that, but he'll find u!! (again..apparently) just...be careful not to get a reputation as a 'good night' cuz that could scare him off, chances are u already know him n just cnt c it.
good luck, n enjoy urself, ur still young n beautiful so dnt feel bad abt the fact u ain't met Mr Right yet
2007-01-06 01:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you stop the one nighters. Those guys are the kind of guys who are only after one thing and are not interested in commitment. Stick to going out with your mates right now cos love comes when you least expect it !
Good Luck xx
2007-01-06 01:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't look and mr right will turn up. you're only 22 thats so young, live your life before going into serious relationships and no 1 nighters!! when the time is right for you to settle down it will happen, till then get together with the girls, do what you want when you want!
2007-01-06 01:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should choose better men and im making making an observation that you are sleeping with the men on the first date! if so then dont! take a few dates and you'll meet the right man soon he might be in china or germany but you will meet him!it might take 2 months or 20 years but you should wait! be patient
2007-01-06 01:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kettle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever watched the reality show "Bachelor"? He will sleep with all the women who put out, but when it comes time to pick the girl whom he wants to potentially marry, he'll choose the one who refused to sleep with him. Hold out for a bit next time. The promise of sex, but never actually giving in, always keeps a man wanting more.
2007-01-06 02:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋