Girls help!?

Question

Tonight i went to have a drink. And this girl that has been looking at me for months is there! I really want so much to talk to her but she is too far from where i am sitting. When she went to the bathroom she came a bit closer and i gave a little smile, well grin she looked and turned away and i thought i saw her grin. I even thought of passing a note to a member of staff but im worried it might not get to her! After i waited outside the establishment in hoping i might get a chance to say hi, but she didnt come out,until i was at the set of lights and by chance she looked at me and my car. I dont want her to think that iam following her. I wish i could break the ice. Every time i see her my heart is pumping!
Do you think that she might actually be scared of me for some reason.
I would really like a girls opinion on this.
Thanks

She actually works at the restaurant so she is a bit far from the bar.
Thats why its so hard to say hi

Answer 1

For Heavens sake talk to the girl. Just walk over to her and say Hello, my name is... you could buy her a drink - maybe say something like I noticed that you come here allot, me too, it's a great place to hang out isn't it? Whatever just say something to get the conversation started. At this rate the two of you will die never knowing each others names and I think that would be a shame. One more thing if something goes wrong say she panics and runs away,do not be afraid to say Hi to her the next time you see her because she will not be taken by surprise then.

Answer 2

She's probably asking herself "Okay when is this dude going to get the nerve and stop gawking at me and come talk to me?" She may be a little shy or traditional, so she thinks that it would be better if you approach her. Also, she is probably thinking that if you don't have the guts to at least introduce yourself to her, you are probably not worth her time, she doesn't want a wimp. So, your best bet to finally kill the anticipation and fascination is to introduce yourself to her. You will earn her respect if you show the initiative and she wants you back. The worst that could happen is that she says "Ugg, I'm too good for you ugly duckling!" But, those are just negative words. At least you were a man about your business and you tried before you gave up. If she is any kind of decent girl she won't treat you this way and she will be polite if she doesn't like you. Therefore, there is nothing to worry about. Rejection is only for a brief moment. If you want to work yourself up to her, then ask a few girls that you would never date out or for their phone number, that way you can work up to her and get some courage. Then, do something different from what other men do, don't send her a drink, or your msg. or # through the staff, so unoriginal! Do something, like say, "Wow, you everytime I see you in this place you look so beautiful, what is your secret?" Start a conversation, be a gentleman, and don't be overbearing@!

Answer 3

Passing notes? Don't think I've seen that one used yet as a pick-up. I doubt it'll work even though it's pretty novel for someone of drinking-age. But you have given reason to scare her if you think about it. You notice where she sits and think something of it. It's a girl at a bar. Unless she left something at her seat, maybe she drank too much to remember. And you wait for her outside. Maybe that's why she doesn't approach you b/c you give off "creepy guy" vibes. Try "Hi, I noticed you sitting by yourself from the other end of the bar. Mind if I buy you a drink and join you?" It's not rocket science.

Answer 4

Well I'm not a girl but I'll answer anyway. The two of you have been looking at each other for months but you haven't said anything to her so she's probably thinking, "why does he keep looking at me? What's his problem? He's really starting to freak me out, is he a stalker or what?". She also might think you're to scared to ask her out and "what kind of a man is scared to ask a woman out?"

That could be what she's thinking by you not talking to her.So the longer you go without talking to her the more you risk freaking her out and loosing her. That's what I think anyway.

Answer 5

You need to approach her. There is nothing worst to a girl then having a man with no courage. Go to her and ask her out on a date. What youre doing right now is so HIGH SCHOOLISH! So step up to the plate and impress her. Do it now before its too late... Valentine's Day is around the corner!

Answer 6

Being old enough to go out for a drink and still passing notes is quite odd. Just say hi and see if anything develops from there. Don't be pushy.

Answer 7

just talk to her. Girls like being approached, she's probably being waiting for you to come talk to her. Be brave, stand up, walk over, say hi, the 4 steps to breaking the ice

Answer 8

She is obviously waiting on you making the first move..next time you see her say hi..if you are in a bar ask if you can buy her a drink.

Answer 9

well i am a girl and if i was her and i didnt know u and i liked u i wouldnt be scared but . when u see her just calm down and take it slowly and ask her out and if that doesnt work that means it might not work between u two so try to find another girl if it doesnt work (maybe me)hahaha please dont report abuse i was just playin but take my advise i was once at your stage and i took my advice but later we broke up.

Answer 10

Weel, why don't you at least wave and smile at her? Maybe even say Hi There? It doesn't take much to break the ice.