need help...depressed & upset with the b/f...ADVICE!?

Question

So yesterday my b/f called me telling me he was going out for a "guys night" TOTALLY FINE! BUT....he said he was going into the city for a car show, he WONT take me into the city because its "too crowded" and he never ever takes me there, so i yelled at him and he was mad at me, so he said he would take me to a movie instead because i was so upset, well later on i called him to see what he wanted to see for a movie and he told me that he was being "sarcastic" when he said he wanted to go with me and that he is going to go out with his friends to the car show, after i screamed at him he called me the usual "bad words" and hung up the phone. i havent talked to him since yesterday night. should i call him? should i wait for him to call me? IM IN LOVE and have been with him for 2 years....HELP!

Answer 1

Wait for him to call you. Give him hell when he does. But be open to maintaining the relationship you have.

Answer 2

Quite the conundrum.

On one hand, in my personal opinion, I think you overreacted. He never takes you into the city? That's not a reason to get upset and yell at your boyfriend. In fact, you should be grateful to an extent. The city can sometimes be a very dangerous place. I believe people should express their feelings and opinions about things they like or dislike, so you have the right to be mad at him for not taking you IF YOU WANT.... HOWEVER, choose your battles wisely. Screamin' at your boyfriend for not taking you into the slums? Long, hard road for you, I fear.

On the other hand, HE had no right to give you the sarcasm he gave you about the movie. Everyone knows that if you have a p*ssed-off girlfriend, that's your first priority. By turning you down to go hang out with his friends when you're upset...that's not very sensitive.

I don't think you're REALLY in love.... You might be really close, but I don't think you're there yet. Otherwise you would have let him go and party with his friends. You can see a movie any night of the week. The mature way to handle it would be to calmly talk to him about why you never go to the city together.... Don't just yell at the first sentence he says. That's why he's reciprocating the hostility. Just tone it down a little bit, and he will too.

If he still treats you poorly, then I'd recommend getting out of that relationship. NOTHING IN THE WORLD gives any man the right to yell at a lady.

Answer 3

definately dump the dude! Keep what little self respect you have left and tell him when he calls you that you are busy thinking about wheather you should put yourself through his abusive sh8t again. tell him to call back in a few weeks, then when he calls back tell him you found someone, the guy of your dreams! Go out every night you can with your girl friends in a near by city/town, if he calls - tell him it's a girls night out, it looks desperate if one of the guys come and the girls just can't be themselves. When he finds out that you were not truthfull about your dream guy tell him you were just lying when you said that, and you needed time to spend time with other guys and some new friends from work. You have got to Harden up and forget the sour fuit in your life girl, mister right is out there for you, but don't go rushing in, sample first and enjoy. If you like one maybe make him a regular, but make sure he treats you right. Just remember Harden up!

Answer 4

I know how you feel. Guys can come up with the stupidest excuses. Mine sometimes won't take me out, because there are "too many guys there". Sounds like crap to me. We've gotten into it, but in the end, it's just one day out with his boys, which won't hurt. No need to yell, this does ruin your relationship. Try to go out with your own friends for the night and enjoy it, instead of moping about how he didn't take you. As long as this doesn't happen all the time, you have nothing to worry about. Try to see if he calls you, if not, just call him, no need to play games.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with a guys night out. You shouldn't get mad if he wants to do that but he also has to have time for you. He may need a little space and if that's the case, give it to him. If he loves you he will call you. If I were you I would wait for his call. Find something to occupy your time while you wait. But dont sit by the phone waiting. Be patient...

Answer 6

Screaming and yelling at him sounds rather childish. Sounds like the relationship could use a good dose of maturity! Since you hung up on him, you should make the first call, but you might want to wait a few days, and give him a chance to cool off.

Answer 7

Why are you waiting for him to take you places? Are you that insecure? Don't let this guy rule your entire life. You're not in love, you're in a mess. Dump this guy and get yourself together...and don't even think of getting in another "relationship" until you're a whole person. You shouldn't need anyone else to complete you. If you're not a whole person, work on that first. If not, you'll be getting played by boys and men all your life.

Answer 8

let him call you...of course the city is crowded that's why it's called a city.....love is a two-way street......get together with some girlfriends and go see a movie in the city.....show some independence don't let him walk all over you...

Answer 9

honey you need to find someone else, sounds to me there is more going on than a car show.dont let him get you down men are not worth it. call up some of your girl friends and have a girls night out.

Answer 10

first of all he shouldnt be calling you bad words, and the reason he wouldnt take you is because he's worried about you getting hurt, he probably does love you you just have to go to him and explain what you were thinking, the whole movie thing was kinda mean in my opinion