d a while back. Thing is i have fallen for this bloke. I did cheat right at the beginning of the relationship, but it took me doing it to realise what I really wanted. I'm a major **** up. I know its my fault. Dont reckon there is anything i can say to make it better. I'm petrified now. Has anyone been in the same situation?? can anyone advise me on what to do??
AND yes i do deserve all the insults i am gonna get, i know!!!!
2007-01-06 01:10:27 · 40 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it on the chin, and explain what happened and how silly you were. We all make major mistakes, but very few own up to them. There is no one in these rooms that are whiter than white and can slag anyone off. WELL DONE for realising how silly you had been.
2007-01-06 01:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well possibly you need to be more discrete about your posts on Yahoo Answers if your boyfriend was lucky enough to find your question.
Your young and there are lots of fish in the sea. Learn from your mistake and move on. Most anyone who has been cheated on feels insulted at being duped by someone who they care about. Realize that he probably doesn't trust you and for good reason.
It could have been much worse, you could have ended up on the TV show Cheaters.
2007-01-06 01:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you really respect your boyfriend, cuz you don't seem all shook up about the fact that he's going to leave you. My advice would have to be: don't do it again. We all deserve to mess up a little bit in life; we're only human. But the OTHER part of that is that we should learn from our mistakes. I'd advise against having another boyfriend until you KNOW you want him to be your boyfriend. Committed relationships are nothing to take lightly. If it doesn't deeply affect one of you, chances are it DOES deeply affect the other participant.
2007-01-06 01:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god. The exact same thing happened to me. My ex and I were going through a point where our relationship was on the rocks and I slept with this guy and I asked a question about it here on Y/A and my ex read it!!! He moved out, and I was so devastated. (He cheated on me thats why we were in a seperation in the first place) Anyway I am so much happier now that he's gone. Talk to your boyfriend. Maybe he's not the one for you if you're looking elsewhere for attention. Good luck.
2007-01-06 01:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you can face the truth, sort of. If you cheated and didn't say anything about it, I wouldn't expect any mercy from him. And the trust ya'll may have is probably gone or on it's way out the front door, so why are both of you sticking around? You must mean a lot to each other....
2007-01-06 01:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you were just doing what your heart felt was right. for some people some things seem right at some times. thats human nature, its nothing to be ashamed of or . even when you have cheated or lied or betrayed , if you feel what yeh have done was worth doing it fine.......but i just wish that things were better with you and you should have been a little bit more franker about what ever your saying, with your boyfriend . but i think with all the stuffs you have writtern it shows that you care for your current relationship.
*try to talk to him , if not possible console yourself
*try to explain
*go forth rightly accepting your mistakes
*analyze why things happened
*then calm your self
thats it
2007-01-06 01:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by angel gione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you need to do to get your life straightened around and you don't ***up anymore. And, BTW, you don't deserve all the insults you're going to get. No one deserves them (well, maybe just a little). BUT feeling that you deserve insults isn't a good sign to me of how you think about yourself. You can do better.
2007-01-06 01:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have bin in a very similar situation im not going to insult u cos im sure u already no what u did was wrong , maybe u should talk to your boyfriend find out how hes feeling about your relationship together then u should find out where u stand good luck
2007-01-06 01:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i'm not gonna insult u but if u felt the need to fool around,maybe somethin wasn't rtie that u felt this guy completed u.maybe u need something more or u ahfta realize that u really love him and want o b faithful bu t ithink u shuld tell him the truth,u shuld never start a relationship wit lies,good luck
2007-01-06 01:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by 321 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one's perfect, and everyone makes mistakes they regret, he found out and at least it's out in the open (sort of) tell him what you've just told us. Tell him you know you messed up, tell him it was a long time ago, tell him it's him that you want to be with and try to get past it because it will only get harder the longer it goes with nothing said.
2007-01-06 01:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋