My parents have never really punished me. They spanked me only about 3-4 times in my whole life by hand only and when i was fully dressed, abot 3 taps(until 6 years and than once at 12). But exept from this, they have never prohibited doing my favourite things and i was never grounded. All they did was talking to me, explaining everything. Im 19 now and i dont have any problems, such as alcohol, drugs or smoking. Im quite a good student too. Ive got 2 other friends that were raised the same way and they are great people. So is punishment really necessary?
2007-01-06 00:55:49 · 9 answers · asked by eldridan 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
tell them to do something and if they dont do it make them eat kfc food
2007-01-06 00:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that each child is different... While i personally dont agree with harsh punishments i do believe that a child needs to be disciplined/punished to effectively learn the consequences of right and wrong. I think that it is every good parents wish to go through their childs life without having to hit them or be too severe with the punishments, but in todays society that dream is rarely a reality. I believe that people that discipline(not abuse) their child/ren truelly are looking out for the best interests of their child/ren, they just want to raise children that know the difference between right and wrong and choose to do the right thing... Your parents were obviously lucky with getting a good child(you), and they obviously done a great job raising you if you have managed to do the right things in your life and to make them proud... Just Keep Your head screwed on right...
2007-01-06 01:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for sharing! I think it necessary for parents, in some way, to teach their children that negative behavior gives negative consequences, cause children need to develop the understanding of right and wrong and gain a healthy respect and fear for doing things that can hurt themselves or others. The undisciplined child easily gets in trouble with other kids and adults with inappropriate and insensitive behavior, and this can cause lots of pain for them. They will feel rejected, hurt and confused.
BUT, I do not think punishment needs to be physical, meaning kids get spanked and similar. There are many ways to discipline a child; talking to them, taking away advantages, etc.
If physical punishment is to be used, it must be done in a very controlled way and not as a result of "a grown up loosing control"! Uncontrolled physical punishment goes in the category of abuse and only give kids anxiety and resentment.
It is very important that parents give lots of positive attention and makes very sure that kids know they love them and care for them , even if they have to be strict sometime in one way or the other!
2007-01-06 01:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by therealtr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetly it works good without punishment, but most of time punishment is for parents releif not for child education. Yet with all versatile personalities of parents and children, punishment in a way or another seems resonable in child raising. You will feel it at 39 or if you have to teach school children.
2007-01-06 02:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by samsam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The type of discipline depends largely on the person being punished. People respond differently. Some just need to be spoken to for change to occur others need privilges taken away. Different things work for different people.
2007-01-06 01:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by big_csf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple idea of punishment is a stronger deterrent than punishment itself. For example if you show another child getting punished(discretely I hope) to your child(whom you've never punished before), he will be curious and resort to you for knowledge. Let them know that that is how wrong shall be answered and applies to any child. This will create a stronger psychological basis for avoiding messes than punishment itself can ever create.
2007-01-06 01:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by yasiru89 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i take advantage of a mix of reward and punishement. in the experience that your way works on your loved ones, then it incredibly is super. It looks like an incredible parenting style, if the newborn is obediant sufficient. notwithstanding, it appears like it would be very complicated to discern a youngster employing that style, for the reason which you may not exacly supervise them 24/7. All young toddlers are distinctive. as an occasion, this parenting style might in no way artwork for my daughter. If it works, shop on.
2016-10-30 03:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents did a good job. I think it probably depends on the kid. Time out never hurt anyone. My kids were more "hurt" if a took their favorite toy away for awhile, as opposed to spanking them, but that didn't always work.
2007-01-06 01:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Raising children w/out punishment is sinful.
2007-01-06 01:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋