Is she hitting on me?

Question

Is my female colleague hitting on me?
Ok maybe I am looking too much into this, but maybe not. She is quite macho attitutde-wise but quite a petite Asian girl. I don;t know if she is gay or not but word on the street is that she is. Thing is, I am such a girly girl I would have thought it was obvious I am straight (apologies if my generalisations are showing through here. i am just being honest). lately she has taken to popping in to my office, hugging me a lot, offering a shoulder to cry on, telling me I am beautiful and will wow my new boss when I told her I was worried, and e-mailing me. She looks at me in *that* kind of way- or maybe I am just being paranoid. Thing is, girls that aren't one's friends don;t do this kind of thing. It is men that are flirting with one that do this!!!

I don;t really mind either way, I am just intruiged.

Answer 1

i think she is yes

Answer 2

I think it may be a Asian thing, because I have got a friend who has a Thai chick and she looks at me with those f**k me eyes. Apparently she is just being friendly, and feels the need to hug me and such because I have not found a partner yet. I have heard that eastern women are very helpfull people maybe over helpfull and caring even with people they don't know. While this is well understood in the east, the western culture does not embrace or understand an overly empathetic caring stranger huging and fondling there genetailia. All the best with the Asian chick - my bet is she is playing mother and has the opinion that she can help you through what she has experienced herself in her life. You could always say - 'While I like your hugs and stuff, I'm not a very touchy huggy person, and what you have said to me has given me lots of confidence, thankyou'. then walk off. You know what is probly happening here is that she is worried that she is going to get the axe and she wants to be very good friends with you so you will not tell the new boss that she is a total ***** and needs to go. Your not paranoid I'm sure that it's just female intuition working, and that Asian chick is squezing your lemmons and looking for some juice to come out. What ever she wants it's sure enough she is after something, so keep an eye out, watch for the signals. Then when you see her going for the hug thing, say your busting to go and see if she follows you to the toilet, if she does she probly wants sugar - so be ready. Well hope you have fun with all that, and if you don't mind either way - you might have a very good time!! :)

Answer 3

Yes it sounds like it.

Or she may be starved of close female company!
She may live in a male house hold and just be desperate for a friend and going over the top!

So don't jump to conclusions - do a bit of research.
Then if its just a friend she is after, you can react accordingly.

She does sound like she could be a very loyal friend.

Answer 4

i think she may well just be trying to find out how far she can go with u relationship wise . obviously u find it uncomfortable but untill she actually makes a pass at you u cant really say anything because if u did say something and it just turns out that she was just trying to be over friendly im sure u would feel like an *** i no i would. just see how it goes make it clear in a conversation that your not interested in women of course if it gets out of hand then something will have to be done good luck

Answer 5

She might be. If she is then she is the best friend you could possible have, provided you never let her think you are available or have one of those weird moments where she tries to kiss you. Guys that are attracted to a woman, that is not interested, will be loyal to the end provided the afore mentioned circumstances never occur.

Answer 6

Tell her to back off and quit touching you. Talk about how great your bf is in bed talk about guys a lot. Ask her how her bf and her are getting along. If she doesn't have one tell her you'll hook her up with one. Hang up a calendar in your office that has good looking guys on it.

Answer 7

well the best way to solve this would be for you to either make a pass at her to find out or to tell her that you have a bad crush for a guy friend :) :) :)

Answer 8

I think she likes you , and is trying to find out if you like her !!! Talk a lot about boys , let her know you like ,men .

Answer 9

she is hitting on you. If you don't mind go for It. If you do then tell her,she just hopes she will get lucky.

Answer 10

sounds like she could be hitting on you. It might not be obvoius to her your straight.

Maybe your more paranoid about it beacuse you are aware she might be gay?

Answer 11

shes hitting on you, which is sexual misconduct in the workplace. report her to the appropiate authority.