I dont know what to do I have a big problem...................?

Question

I am 20 years old and I dont have a job and I am looking for a job to support myself. I dont have much skills that employers are looking for so its hard for me to get a office job. My other problem is that I may be pregnant and I can't even take care of my baby. My bf says he would take care of us but I want money of my own. i dont want to depend on him. Then the next problem is when my parents find out where would I go. I cant even get a place without a job or a place for my baby. I dont know where to start.

I took so many preg test which were neg but my period still havent come 2 months later and I am type scared. I dont know what to do. I definately want to be in my own place but Im afraid it isn't possible. Can you please help me what do you think I should do??? All I request are your positive opinion. thank you.

Answer 1

y can't you stay with your parents ???
How bad do you want this Baby i mean any plans to get rid of him ????
u said your BF is welling to suppourt U !!!! for how long is he welling and if it for the long run y not get married ???
i think that going alone with the baby will ruine u'r life so i belive you should start thinking in a diffrent way ??
from u'r nick name u seem arabic and i know that parents wont except such a thing no matter what
i think the best way in your condition is to start thinking in a totaly diffrent way what if there was no a baby ??? how will u'r life change and if there is a baby what will u'r life be like !!!

Answer 2

Right, settle down and breathe.

Sweetie, you need to get to the doctors and go for a real pregnancy test. Those you can get at the pharmacy, sometimes they're actually working but we don't know how to interpret the results. It is more concrete if you check with a doctor. Doctors are not allowed to tell on you ;) so you can just have a check. If it is a negative, then you should find out why you haven't had your period for two months; it could be more serious than just being pregnant.

If you are actually going to be a mother in 7 months' time then talk to your parents. You'd be surprised at how supportive parents are of their children despite what view they normally have on certain social issues. I mean that even though they may not like pre-marriage pregnancies, they may actually be more supportive of you than you'd expect.

Work out a plan with your boyfriend but always try to be independent whenever possible. You will definitely need help before, during and after the pregnancy and it is not a shame to ask for help. What's been done is done, right? It's good that you are working on a solution instead of dwelling in the problem. With proper planning and a supportive family ( I hope you will have both eventually), your child may be able to have a wonderful childhood.

Stay positive. Best of luck.

Answer 3

well keep pounding the pavement. if your tests came out neg. maybe your under alot of stress, which can stop a period.The next thing is to go down to planned parenthood to really find out. i understand what your saying about not relying on a man, but if the case is that you r preg. and ur parents would make you move out, then it is o.k. 4 a little while, until u get a job, 2 rely on your bf. u sound very determined to be independent and that is a positive thing. most young woman(at that age) don't care how they get there money. you could go back to school and get more office exp. there r grants out there u don't have to pay back. like pel grants. and get a part-time or a full-time job doing something else until you reach your goal. good luck 2 u.

Answer 4

Hello,

Well, it is not that uncommon for a woman's period not to come for up to three months. This can be caused by a change in Birth Control medicines ("the shot", pillls, "the patch"...etc.). Did you change your birth control between now and two months ago?

Perhaps it would be best to go to Planned Parenthood with your boyfriend and have them conduct the pregnancy test. They will check your urine and be able to tell you without a doubt if you are pregnant or not. Also, they will give you many resources to use for free in order to help you. I think you should start there.

Everyone is elgible for Financial Aid (Money) if they take classes at a Junior College (2-year). All persons are automatically admitted to Junior College as long as they prove they are a resident of that State and take a basic skills test (usually Math & English). Remember, you don't have to pass the test in order to be accepted at a Junior College. All you have to do is apply and do the paperwork.

I survived on my own in my early twenties by taking basic courses at college and living off the work study (job you are able to work at if you take classes) on campus and my financial aid package ( a lump sum of money distributed to you at the beginning and end of each semester) as a full-time student.

This is a great way to get on your feet whether you are a pregnant mother or not. I hope this helps you...

Answer 5

Hey, If your period is 2 months late...go to the drs or planned parent hood..*if you don't want to keep the baby, they can do abortions or you can arrange adoption*..your hormones might be to low to read a positive on a home pg test, but a blood test will detect it right away if you are. Or if you aren't there might be something wrong with you. It's normal to skip one period, but not normal if you skip 2. Also, if you are...and you want to keep the baby..Take up on your boyfriends offer, does he have his own place? For a job, find a waitressing job, find one that is popular so you make out big on tips. It doesn't take that much to waitress, after a few days of training..you will most likely be a pro at it. And that way you usually have cash on you. The weekly or biweekly check wont be that much...but the tips will be worth it. It is hard to find office jobs now..the expect you to have great computer skills and to know almost all of the programs for a computer. I too was in your shoes...I'm 19 and I have 2 kids. My first baby I had when I was 16, some people frown upon it..but I think highly of my self, she was born with cleft lip and palate so it mad it a little a bit harder, but I graduated high school, went to school to be a CNA While I was pregnant with my 2nd kid, my boyfriend then, now my husband, told me he will support me and our kids. So he works and I'm a stay at home mom. Sometimes it gets boring, but I do things like Ebay and crafts with my oldest child. I am happy most days..some days are iffy...but thats how it is usually with kids..When both kids are in school, I will be starting school for Radiology.
If you arent preggers, go to your local tech school and take some computer classes...get a part time job...and take out a student loan. Most classes you can take online...and maybe get on some birth control? Planned Parent Hood is a great place to go...even tho i've never gone there..I know many people who have..

Answer 6

First, you need to go to a clinic or your doctor to make sure that you are pregnant. There could be another reason why you have not had your period (stress, other medical conditions, etc). If you are pregnant, you will need to tell your parents....they will find out anyway and it is best for them to hear it from you directly. You may be surprised how supportive they will be of you after the initial shock wears off. I have had friends in your situation and it has worked out in the end.

As for your boyfriend, he will need to help out and you will need to have him sign a paternity paper when the child is born (usually signed at a hospital or child support office). This is a very important step because if he decided to not help you financially, that piece of paper will enable you to go to a child support office or court and have child support ordered. Otherwise, he could demand paternity testing and avoid being served with papers. I worked in child support for 10 years, trust me, having him sign the paternity form is VERY important.

If your parents and boyfriend do not help you, there are local resources for you in your area to provide housing and support for unwed mothers. Check with social services. They can even help you develop job skills and place you in a job. You may have to rely on others right now but you can emerge from this a stronger, more independent person and be a good role model for your baby.

Seriously though, get a pregnancy test and exam by your doctor or clinic. It will either put your fears of pregnacy to rest or confirm that you are pregnant so you can start taking action to take care of yourself and the baby now. I hope it all works out for you....stay strong.

Answer 7

There are many options for you depending on the state where you reside.There are free clinics that will give you a real pregnancy test to confirm or rule out the possibility.Try planned parent hood or family planning or catholic services,you don't have to be catholic to receive help.Next,if you're not pregnant this time then these same agencies will help you prevent pregnancy from happening.Next,there are many schools that will help you get the skills you need to get that office job you want and these schools have assistance that will pay for these lessons for you.This is America and believe me if you want to succeed here all you have to do is make the right choices and get out into the world and grab a hold of opportunity.Good Luck and use your phone book or web for your area and start the new year off making decisions that benefit you.

Answer 8

Every problem has a solution;
1.Make sure that you are pregnant by going to a doctor
2.If the results are positive, think seriously to tell your parents..
3.If you are pregnant, make an abortion..or if you don't want to, you have to have the patience and the strenght to deal with your desitions
4.Get a job...
5.move to your parent's house..
6.you r not the only person in the world with that problems...Millions of women have deal with greater problems than your...I hope sweety for you the best....xxxooo

Answer 9

1) go to doctor to have pregnancy test, to find out for definate ( stress can delay you period by the way)
2) go do a course to upgrade your skills in the workplace
3) with new skills learned find a job
4) get your own place
5) if pregnant you can still do all of the above, my wonderful sister went sat her final exams while 8 months pregnant.
6) if it turns out you are pregnant and if you dont want a baby you still have time to terminate it ( im not being cruel your young)

Please go do all of the above number 6 is up to you.

Good luck

Answer 10

at 20 everything seems irrelevant but to enjoy yourself but what happened has happened,try talking to your bf about the pregnancy(if it is there)then do not seek a high class job if your not adequately qualified.Something like shopkeeping can do besides it wont burden you when very heavy,lastly be direct to your parents and let the accommodate you until your able to sustain yourself