Why do so many people see sex as something fun and not something special anymore?

Question

I am a 24 year old male virgin. And it really shocks me that most people see sex as something fun and not special. I am not a virgin for religious reason, I just believe in being sensible, but I am surprised to learn that no one else is these days. Its just I feel like giving up on finding love altogether because of the way society views sex as just something fun and not meant for just one person. Because chances are, if I ever do fall in love, the women I fall in love with would have most probably had sex over 100 times already. That’s why I feel like giving up on love because no one sees it as something special anymore.

Answer 1

- Remember, nothing without God makes sense, your life is gonna suck.

Answer 2

ok it's like this.. when your a virgin you don't know why people have sex for fun because you've never experienced it so your view point is limited to what you know and until you have sex you wont know.. sex is something very special but after being run over a million times you kinda just wanna have fun verses looking for that special someone.. you shouldn't give up on finding someone but do not think because you still have your virginity that if you meet a girl like that, that it makes her lower to you because it doesn't and sex is not just sex either.. If I was still a virgin I wouldn't know half the stuff I know now, it helps you see things about yourself and you learn allot of other things because of it :) :) :)

Answer 3

It seems a product of society more than anything else. These days, younger people tend to have larger number of casual friends and fwer deeper relationships. I think this is where friend with benefits came from. For me, sex without some form of committment is not something I do. I am what is called a serial monogamist. Some relationships have lasted quite a while, years even, and some only a 1st date, but sex was never casual for me. Fo me, every woman I have had sexual relationships was special and one of a kind, and I assume each of these ladies felt the same as I. And, to answer the unasked question, I have never had sex on a 1st date, likewise for all of the women I know.

Answer 4

Sex is special to a lot more people then you'd think. unfortunately you only get one first time, and too many people feel pressured into that at a rather young age, I guess they often figure that once you've done it, there no need to make it special anymore. Don't give up on love, but don't think love is sex,if you do find the right girl whose not a virgin that doesn't mean that she isn't special and doesn't think that sex with you isn't special. For people in love it's so special, irrelevant how many times its been for fun

Answer 5

You really have several different issues here. Whether or not someone sees sex as something you wait to do, depends on lots of factors. Not all of those reasons are morality.
Sex being fun is another issue. You need to see sex as fun. You will find out after you get married there are many aspects of sex. It isn't "special" after you have done it a million times and you've seen your spouse in the morning with bad breath and messy hair and when they are sick and smelly and other bad times. After a while, you at least try to make sure it is fun. "Making it special" is a HUGE amount of pressure on both people. Sometimes people realize they can't "make it special" every time and they get disillusioned and don't even want to try anymore.
The number of times someone has had sex before they met doesn't have anything to do with whether or not they love their partner. You make it sound like marriage is only about sex. There are other reasons to get married.

Answer 6

Are you quite sure about being the only person?
There are many people who have different opinions about sex, some are righteous, most are stupid, because sex is not something learned in schools or children don't ask for their parents opinion and that makes them foolish because the see sex as what they have seen on TV, or porno materials, or learn from rumors, etc.
Sex is something truly special for me, something that many good things to participants if done with care and it can get better.
I find sex as something spiritual as well, and I think the world should at least treat sex with more respect.

Answer 7

Because it IS fun. It's pleasurable and enjoyable, and there's no reason in the world that a person shouldn't enjoy that, providing they take all proper precautions.

Don't get me wrong. I am NOT saying to run out and sleep with whoever you want, just wear a condom. That's not the basis of my standpoint at all. But honestly ... the entire idea that sex has to be for 'making love' only .... it doesn't need to be anymore. It doesn't have to be 'something special'. It's also for fun and pleasure ... just a more enjoyable form of recreation.

Most people prefer to partake of that recreation with a steady partner ... but just because you're having sex with your partner does not mean it becomes "something special". There are times you make love ... and there are other times when you just flat out have sex .. a quickie on the way to work, whatever.

I admire you for keeping your virginity for as long as you have and wanting to save it for that special something, because it was important to you. To be able to stick to your ideals is admirable. And so is not judging others for choosing not to. :)

Answer 8

Its simple , because people dont value love anymore especially in our society. They are numb on the inside and need to make up for it by having mindless, meaningless sex. Most of society has become like empty vessels, with nothing special to offer from within. Im a virgin in my thirties and i dont care what this screwed up society tells me, i will wait this way till i meet the woman of my dreams. Premarital sex can never truely be special because its like everything else in this screwed up society, fleeting and momentary pleasure.

Answer 9

sex in today society is nothin , u cannot evaluate some for unfaithful because he/she had sex 100 times b4, if u really love her then love her , no experience was never an issue, may b for some 1 it is but the fact it is not rite in this century.

if u r searching for love b brave and do it like there is no 2morow , u can only think of one thing if u don this some 1 will take it from u so b4 that guy tak it u will make the first move to take this chance this love, show her u care n u want to share.

Answer 10

people who see sex as simply fun and pleasant to do and feel there's nothing special in it feel this way because they relate sex to physical pleasure only. that way of thinking is a great way to protect yourself from getting involved with someone emotionally and risking to get hurt, but it only works for a while and at a certain age. once people reach emotional maturity their needs change, they start looking for someone they can become intimate with in more than just one way... but the problem seems to be that the tendency nowadays is for people to start their sexual life earlier than in previous times (often due to the sexual pressure and tension of the media), and the earlier they start it, the later they reach emotional maturity. now, in that which concerns your fear that a woman you fall in love "most probably had sex over 100 times already", I have to say you are way exaggerating. women do have sex before marriage, but in most cases they do it with men who mean a lot to them, and they still see it as something special. so try to leave behind such prejudices that any woman who's not a virgin must have had sex hundreds of time and try to know women from other points of view. you'll see there are great women out there who can make every moment of your life special as long as you give them the chance to do that.

Answer 11

Probably because sex is a lot of fun - if I'd have waited for the right one, I'd be a virgin at 32.