How do you ask a girl's dad for permission to marry her?

Question

my gf said i had to ask her dad for permission to marry her and im probably going to have to do it this weekend (and i know neither him or me are looking forward to the conversation; we get along but i dont like doing stuff like this and hes not all that emotional either). how do you go about broaching the subject? do you just kinda say "so, how would you feel about me marrying your daughter?" or do you have to have a big long speech? if any guys are in this category what did you do?

i dont think there will be tough questions. were both pretty unemotional, i think we'll both be glad to get it over with i just didnt know exactly what i was supposed to do

Answer 1

Less is more. You both want to get to the point and get it over with. No speeches. Just say, you know I love your daughter and would do anything to make her happy. We want to get mnarried if you have no objections so I am asking if it is alright with you.

Answer 2

Just don't come off like a sniveling little weasel asking for more porridge. Man up, go to him and say you are in love with his daughter, and want to marry her. Flat out. Tell him how much she means to you, and that you'll spend your life making her happy. Convince him you have the resources to give her a comfortable life, and will never hurt her. I'll bet he is expecting you to do this any time, and will be glad at your forthright approach. If the two of you have been together for some time, He's got to have a suspicion that this is coming. He'll probably be glad to get it over with.

Answer 3

These days, you're not so much asking for permission (because hopefully she is of legal age), but for his and the mom's blessing/approval of the marriage. Come straight out with it and keep it simple: You know, sir, that I've been dating your daughter for three years, and we love each other very much. I would like to make a serious commitment with her, and ask her to be my wife. I know I can make her happy, give her a good life, and take care of her. I am wondering how you, and your wife, feel about this.
- Get ready for backslapping and an offer of a beer at that point-
Don't worry, the questions won't get too heavy.
It's too bad that your gf had to prod you into doing that, it would have been nicer if you could have done this as a surprise, and then asked her to marry you later.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Wear a suit or at least dress slacks and a shirt with a collar. If you can afford it take the parents to dinner along with your girlfriend. Don't use your first line.
Tell the parents that as a measure of respect for them and their daughter you would like to ask their permission to marry her.

Be prepared for some tough questions. Like, how are you going to support my daughter, is she pregnant, and the question every dad will ask is, why do you love my daughter. Have some answers and be honest and point blank. Good Luck!

Answer 5

What a respectful approach! Yes, you'll earn more respect from your future father-in-law if you ask permission for his daughter's hand in marriage. You don't have to do anything formal. Just pick up the phone, make small talk and then come out and say..."I really love your daughter and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. May I have your permission to marry her? I'll take great care of her." That is how my husband approached my father. My father was very happy about this old fashioned approach.

Answer 6

initially in the journey that your female says No then i am going to marry you! merely kidding! My recommend might want to be manage the evening along with your female, inspite of the indisputable fact that a similar afternoon ask the mothers and fathers. That way they don't need time to inform her. Organise the bonfire and characteristic one in each of her friends take her there, that way once you arrive that too will be a superb marvel for her. once you arrive the pal can merely merely slip away and go away you to be the romantic that you're. each of the very perfect and strong success.

Answer 7

First, it is a new day and age. If you are in your mid twenties or older, then I would sit down with both of her parents (collectively, or one at a time - depending on their own status).

Then, I wouldn't ask for their blessing or permission.... Sit them down and tell him how much their daughter means to you, how you want your future to be with her and how much you look forward to spending the rest of your life with her. Then tell them that it is important that you and his daughter have their support with this upcoming marriage.

And while no man likes to ask for support of the upcoming marriage, I'm sure that every girl's parents more than appreciate and respect the fact that they are asked prior. It scores BIG points!!

Answer 8

try spending time just casually bringing into the conversation every once in a while how much his daughter means to you and move on again. Then over dinner or something start off by again telling him how much you love her and want to make her happy. then just ask him straight out, try having your girlfriend there with you as well, if he is unhappy about it he isn't going to say so infront of her, unless you want to wait till you ask her privatly then just argue your case alone by again expliaing what she means to you.
All the luck, hope all goes well
Rosie

Answer 9

How about: I'd like to express my love for your daughter by my intention to marry her.
He will do the rest.

Answer 10

my ans is smilar and in support of steelypen and Isis above. less is better but in a humble way. don't practice much cos you' ll end up confusing yourself. just be calm and pop da Q!!!