When a guy asks a girl out and she says "I'm busy at the moment buy maybe in a few weeks", does she mean:
1. "Ask me again in a few weeks"
or
2. No!
How many times should we ask?
2007-01-05 23:02:21 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hold up, hold up.................. this could be a genuinely busy girl here - trust me, I know how she feels!!
I'm bogged down with work, kids and have 3 assignments due in on Monday, If someone where to ask me out right now (and if I was single) then I would politely decline at this moment in time and suggest in a few weeks time (well, I would if I liked them, if it was someone I didn't like I would just tell them that 'I am too busy' and I wouldn't add 'maybe in a few weeks' unless I did like them!!)
However, I do have to admit that it is more then likely a 'brush off' - BUT........... give it a few weeks then maybe try again, but DONT act desperate, if she turns you down again, whether she is busy or not then get the hint and leave well alone........ I'm sure you can do better then her anyway!!!!!!
Good Luck
2007-01-05 23:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by niccilicci 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means she is busy, and could not be bothered saying no, she hopes you will get the hint and leave her alone thats why she said a few weeks. In a few weeks time she will - (she hopes) be with the guy of her dreams, then when you ask her again she can try out the sorry I've met someone line. Oh yer sorry I've got a boyfriend line, nice way to say f**k off. But it is hard to know, she may need time to get rid of the guy that she is with at the moment and does not know if she can do that quickly (she lacks backbone). So when you ask in a few weeks if she wants to hang out for dinner, a flick or the beach and she gives you the (weak backbone response) try one of your own come backs lines on her and see if it fits, because if you get a second knock back it's confirmed she is jack'n you around and made you wait a few weeks while she has had a big fat laugh at your expence. Tell her to harden up and save us all some time and say no when you mean NO B*7Ch. Then she can go back to her girlfriends and say what a bad boy you are. If you get all watery assed and say oh well sorry for bothering you again when she politely tells you shes busy - she will tell her friends your a complete loser.
2007-01-06 01:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means one of 3 things:
(a) I'm busy at the moment, ask me in 2 weeks;
or
(b) I'm not entirely sure if I want to date you so I'm gonna take a couple of weeks to decide so f**** off;
or
(c )f**** off.
Ask her again in two weeks. If she still says no or has an excuse, then its (c) mate, sorry. Hoewver, she may actually be busy. I am often really busy when guys ask and honestly don't have the time for even a date (or am not in the right frame of mind) so ask them to ask at a later stage. Most guys assume it's ye olde brush-off, but that is not always the case.
2007-01-05 23:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by AussieRockchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "maybe in a few weeks" suggests hope, but it certainly means you are not top on her list. If she really digs you, she would make time for you or suggest an alternative date. The vagueness of "maybe" and "in a few weeks" is slightly lame. It is at least better than, "sorry I'm busy".
So, she could be politely saying no.
I think maybe 3 times, and I think you'd be pretty clear by the 3rd go.
2007-01-05 23:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well while scumbag has a point... (not the nicest version though)
It's hard to tell. Has see in any way dropped hints she may like you?
I wouldn't ignore her, make a move when you feel it's right. Personaly she may just be busy. Maybe she is setting her eyes on another guy no one really knows.
My advise, show some maturity and ask her.
2007-01-05 23:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Chεεrs [uk] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to analyze that u need to think of two possibilities:
1-She isnt interested at all and she is being polite and doesnt want to hurt your feelings saying " No".
2- She is interested and likes you but she has her hands full of someone else , and she is still evaluating the 2 of you who should she go to.
So , since u know her well u would be the one who knows which of the two possibilities fits more. Good luck
2007-01-05 23:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! Sorry, dude...at least she's being nice about it...!
She's probably a sweet girl because she appears to be considerate of your feelings. She may be worth the effort of trying again later (not likely) or you may try to be platonic friends with her.
Girls make awesome friends when you are single, because they can offer really good insight about the female mindset.
2007-01-05 23:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several options:
!. She is playing hard to get. Be consistent and persistent. Keep asking.
2. You are not exactly what she wants. Still be persistent because if she does not get what she really wants she will want what she gets.
3. She is politely turning you down. Desist from asking to save your self respect.
2007-01-05 23:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by violeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask in a few weeks and if she says no again then yes she means no
2007-01-05 23:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i say im busy at the moment it generally means that i am busy i would ask again or if you ask and she replys with the same thing is reply back and say let me know when you are free and we can go out if you like surely she would have to be honest and say either yes ok or thanks but no thanks??
2007-01-05 23:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jo C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋