I have just returned from a week spent at my boyfriend's place. He has just moved into a new flat, which is tiny. We spent the New Year at his parents place and we celebrated with his friends. We have been in a long-distance relationship for a couple of years, together for 3 years. I told him that I would like to go to his city to learn his language for a couple of months and possibly live with him. I did not realise that his flat was so tiny though. He got scared of the idea though and told me that he is not ready to live together. He pulled away and now I am not sure what to do?
2007-01-05 22:54:40 · 6 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take it slow and see what happens...good luck
2007-01-05 22:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-06 07:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the tiny flat was the problem?
2007-01-06 06:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIs place is small ,with you moving in it would be even smaller.Keep things the way they are for now.wait until he moves to a bigger place then ask again.
2007-01-06 06:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he got scared of something else. talk to him frankly.
2007-01-06 07:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the flick find someone else
2007-01-06 07:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋