My sister in law hates me and I need advice on how to deal with her. I dont see her that much either. It seems like shes jealous and always has to compete with me. I have a 4yr and a 2 yrold, she has a 4yr and 6 month old. She competes with our kids. If I talk with a family member she walks up, interupts says how her child can do *whatever* way better than my kid and walks off. And she never uses my kids names, at christmas time she kept saying *your kid* instead of their actual name. My daughter has a learning disability and has a hard time learning things like numbers and letter but my sis in law will say Why cant your KID count? or something rude like that. I recently had my tubes tied, and my husbands family was totally against it, they believe in LARGE familys so everytime I see the sis in law She says Are you going to have more kids..oh wait you cant. She does much more How do I deal with her? I usually ignore her or snap at her then I look like the *BAD ONE*
2007-01-05
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Whenever she say aomething wrong to u say........... ''GOD is seeing everything''''''
2007-01-05 22:31:22
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answered by Anonymous
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This is your husbands sister...what does he say or do about this??? Maybe he should be the one to speak with her......if he doesn't do it for you then at least he should for the kids!
She sounds like a real biatch! I can imagine, I'd want to slap her too!! BUT be the bigger person and keep your cool. Your 110% RIGHT, she's jealous! She's JEALOUS and VERY INSECURE. When she says or does something just smirk, make a remark (without snapping) and walk away! She probably makes more remarks because she sees its getting you pissed off. Better yet.... IGNORE HER....pretend she's not there (that would get me). and thank God you don't see her much!
Good luck!
2007-01-05 22:46:27
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answered by pamomof4 5
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calmly and one on one, ask the "lady" what the problem is and what "she" can do to help the situation because you have NO intention of stooping to the level of insensitivity that she promotes and thank her very kindly to either be civil to all persons in the family or put an end to it yourself.
your immediate family should NOT be subjected to someone like that. visit at a different time when she is NOT there or invite guests to your home and make it clear she is NOT to come over until she can be respectful.
talk to your hubby and try to explain this issue and what it is doing to your relationship with the family not to mention that your children or you should not be treated like this by family.
2007-01-05 22:39:39
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answered by blueJean 6
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I've been in a similiar situation. what i did was ignore, don't stoop to there level and go on having fun w/the rest of the family. and remember you didn't do anything to deserve this. it sounds like she needs to be center of attention. and your husband needs to be involved with this because after all his sister is bashing his own children. So leave it in your husbands hands and let him know that he needs to address her. its not fair to the kids or you.
2007-01-05 23:07:15
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answered by Anonymous
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Ignore her. Someday her "perfect" kids will do things that will leave her face beet red from embarrassment and humiliation. For all she knows, her kids will be referred to as a number. Prisons are real funny about that.
2007-01-06 00:15:25
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to get your hubby involved and have him talk to her! He needs to defend you and your children...his family!!! Plus, I would tell you not to put yourself in that situation anymore!!! Tell your husband that you can't deal with the sister drama and that you prefer not to put yourself or the kids in that environment!!! Just because they are family does not mean that you should put up with their crap...It's a shame that they can't behave since they are family!!! Good Luck...I feel your pain!!
2007-01-05 22:38:42
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answered by September Sweetie 5
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Sorry, can't help. But if you know a good psychiatrist, I would ask it what he / she means wherethat comes from? Perhaps your sister in law has a very low selfesteam, or is for any reason jelouis of you?
2007-01-05 22:36:46
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answered by Anonymous
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I would ignore her and stay as far away from her as possible. If you snap at her you are just lowering yourself to her level. She sounds like she has low self esteem and needs to make you feel bad to make herself feel good.
2007-01-05 22:58:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I WOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER AND MY KIDS WOULD NOT BE ALLOWED AROUND HER TO BE TALKED DOWN TO, IF THE FAMILY DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THEN TOO BAD. YOU'RE KIDS ARE YOUR TOP PRIORITY. I'M SURE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE FAMILY SEES IT, WHY DOESN'T ANYONE CONFRONT HER ABOUT HER TERRIBLE BEHAVIOR?
2007-01-06 10:46:15
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answered by inluvwithb 3
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Ignore her. She's jealous for some reason. Since you don't see her that often, just go with the flow.
2007-01-05 22:32:26
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answered by Sharyn 5
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Kill her with kindness. Don't say a mean word or retalitate when she attacks you. Other family members will see what she is doing and eventually it will stop when she sees she's not getting a reaction from you.
2007-01-05 22:32:40
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answered by judirose2001 5
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