we started out as sex partners but things escalated i have DEEP feelings for him and he says he cares about me but he doesn't want to be with me but his actions say differently we still have sex iam away at school but when i come home i only get to spend time with him and its not just sex anymore we can just be around each other all day and we act like a couple but i dont know what i should do because i cant continue to just sex him and not have a relationship because mt feelings are to deep should i leave him alone. He knows how i feel about him i have told him numerous times but i never get what i want PLEASE SOME ONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE
2007-01-05 22:23:42 · 16 answers · asked by nayya_moya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You screwed up when you started screwing him. All's not lost though. At least you're not married to this guy and have his kids and have now figured out he was wrong for you all along and divorce is now an option after having spent years building a life, finances and a family with him when much of that will now be flushed down the toilet because, from the very beginning, you started out on the wrong foot (or another body part to be more literal) with him.
When will women learn to say no? When will women have the spine to set rules and control their own life? When will women learn?
When a woman has sex with a guy outside of marriage it ruins the relationship. See where you are now? The man fails to respect her nearly as much as he would have had she had the conviction to just say no - until the wedding night. The sexual revolution did more to harm women than the women's liberation movement ever said it would.
It's a little more than sad and it's making for some very screwed up people in this world. You've already given in to what some people in this world wanted you to give in to from the very beginning. Will you change your ways? Will you grow up and grow into a truly meaningful relationship in the future?
That's for you to decide. I would like to know what your decision is but chances are we'll never meet and I'll never really know what became of you.
It's time to sit down and sit in silence. It's time to pray. I wonder what God thinks of us and what we have done, are doing and are about to do?
2007-01-05 22:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change things because he's getting what he wants already.
After you told him how you felt and he still haven't made any adjustments, I think you should leave him alone and not let him lead you on anymore.
If he really values what you give him and your time together, he will come around and give you what you want.
If he doesn't come around, then he never wanted more than the sex so it's good that you are rid of him.
Tell him that things have changed and this is what you want/need now since feelings are now involved. (Cuz if you don't you will continue to feel bad--and it's no longer beneficial to you if he's feeling good and you're feeling bad).
Hard to hear, but possibly very true. Don't take less than what your worth.
2007-01-06 06:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by donna_nova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, leave him alone. Sorry, but when women have sex with a guy, they tend to develop deep feelings and attraction to the guy. That doesn't necessarily happen to men. To men, sex and and affection are not necessarily linked like it is with women.
Also, arguably, in the back of a man's mind, about 90% of what a he says and does for and with a woman he is sexually attracted to is geared toward the ultimate goal of having sex with her. Once that goal has been achieved and it's happening on a regular basis, what's the point of giving up his freedom if he doesn't love you? That is, of course, unless the sex is just that damn good that he doesn't want to risk losing it for a while...
You've heard the expression. It's sounds crude, but it illustrates the point:
"Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?"
When it comes to having sex outside of marriage, it may be unfortunate, but generally women seem to have more to lose than men.
Be strong and good luck to you...!
2007-01-06 06:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like your 'relationship' got off to an agreement of 'platonic with sex' . He accepted it as being this way and is reluctant to change. If your feeling that your getting involved and it's not reciprocated, I would leave him now before your feelings got stronger. Good Luck!!
2007-01-06 06:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before he leaves you, you should leave him.
For sex do not continue using same person for Long, keep them changing.
To become boyfriend it needs a better qualification.
2007-01-06 06:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want an exclusive relationship, he doesn't. He doesn't want to give you what you want. So now you have deep feelings for someone who doesn't meet your needs. So leave him. It's as simple as that.
2007-01-06 06:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already stated how you feel, and he still is not committing, dump him. It is obvious he is using you for one thing only...sex. Don't let him waste another minute of your time. You deserve someone who wants to be with you.
2007-01-06 06:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes...tell him you can't continue to just have sex because you care too much.....see what he does...if he lets you leave then you should keep right on moving and find someone who will love you and care about you......who wants to just settle for being a booty call without any chance for anything more....good luck
2007-01-06 06:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try not to appear to desperate. Don`t give him any more power untill he commits to you. You need that 50/50 love thing. If its one sided your time is running out.
2007-01-06 06:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop telling him your feelings to him but keep being with him if you want to keep the relationship. stay cool and do more things together till one day he find out he cant live without you then he will bring out that issue--asking you to be his girlfriend. good luck
2007-01-06 06:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by lily 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋