its time for all muslim women to wake up?

Question

and leave this madness known as islam that has kept them as slaves for 1400 years.

for how long more do you muslim women want to remain as slaves?

Answer 1

Slavery no Islam has set me free. My first marriage was to an abusive womanizer and a Christian. When I left him I reverted to Islam and found the most wonderful man in the world. My ex would not allow for me to be more educated than him so college was out of the question. Now I have 2 BAs and working toward a masters and PhD. My ex would not allow for me to do anything unless he approved of it first. Now I am free to do what I want when I want.

In husband must treat his wife with respect

1. The first and worthiest condition of marriage to be fulfilled by the husband is to "keep the promise or promises he made to the wife at the time he married her." This is an order of the Prophet [salla Allahu `alayhi wa alihi wa sallam, abbr. (s)] according to the hadith: "ahaqqu al-shuruti an tufu bihi ma astahlaltum bihi min al-furuj"

2. He cannot order her to do anything that is against religion. The Prophet (s) said: "No obedience is due to creatures in disobedience of the Creator" (la ta`atan li makhluqin fi ma`siyat al-khaliq).

3. He must exercise patience and be prepared to listen to her advice in every situation. The Prophet (s) listened to the advice of his wives in matters ranging from the smallest to the greatest.

4. If she invites him to wake up and perform the late night prayer, it is praiseworthy for him to do so and vice-versa. The Prophet (s) prayed for such people: "May Allah grant mercy to a man who gets up at night and prays, and wakes up his wife, and if she refuses, he sprinkles water in her face; may Allah grant mercy to a woman who gets up at night and prays, and wakes up her husband, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face."

5. He must respect her and pay attention to her needs so that she will respect him and pay attention to his.

6. He must control his passions and act in a moderate manner especially in the context of sexual intercourse. Remember that Allah has placed between you and her "friendship and mercy" (mawadda wa rahma), not the gratification of your every lust; and that the Prophet (s) advised young men to marry "because it casts down the gaze and walls up the genitals," not in order to stimulate sexual passions. The husband should habitually seek refuge in Allah before approaching his wife and say: "O Allah, ward off the satan from us and ward him off from what you have bestowed upon us in the way of children" (allahumma jannibna al-shaytana wa jannibhu ma razaqtana). Allah has called each spouse a garment for the other (2:187), and the purpose of garments is decency. The Prophet (s) further said that he who marries for the sake of decency and modesty (`afaf), Allah has enjoined upon Himself to help him.

7. He must never ever divulge the secrets of the household and those of the married couple.

8. He must strive with sincerity to acquire her trust, and seek her welfare in all the actions that pertain to her.

9. He must treat her generously at all times. The Prophet (s) said that the best gift or charity (sadaqa) is that spent on one's wife.

10. If she works outside the house, it is praiseworthy for the husband to hire house help to relieve her from too heavy a burden. The wife's duties do not require her to feed her child, nor even to nurse it, nor to clean nor cook. It is the husband's duty to provide a nursemaid, food for older children, and servants to clean and cook. However, if the wife does those things out of mercy and love, it is a gift to the husband on her part.

11. He must avoid excessive jealousy and remember that Allah is also jealous that he himself not commit. The Prophet (s) said: "Do not be excessively jealous of your wife lest evil be hurled at her on your account" (la tukthir al-gheerata `ala ahlika fa turama bi al-su'i min ajlik) and he said: "Allah is jealous and the believer is jealous; and Allah's jealousy is that the believer should not go to that which Allah has forbidden for him" (inna Allaha yagharu wa al- mu'minu yagharu wa gheerat Allahi in ya'tiya al-mu'minu ma harrama `alayhi).

12. He must protect her honor and not place her in situations where it is compromised or belittled. The Prophet (s) said that Allah will not ever let him enter Paradise who cares little who shares his wife's privacy. This includes the husband's brother, uncle, and nephew, let alone non-related friends, neighbors, and complete strangers.

13. He must exercise patience and forgiveness in the case of disagreement or dispute, and not rush to divorce. The declaration of divorce is a grave matter indeed, and the Prophet (s) said: "Of permitted matters the most loathesome before Allah is divorce" (abgh`ad al-halal `ind Allah al-talaq). In another hadith he said that divorce is so grave that because of it Allah's throne is made to shake. He said: "The best intercession [i.e. intervention of a third party] is that which brings back together the husband and the wife." Womanizing -- divorce for the purpose of marrying another woman out of sexual attraction incurs Allah's curse according to the hadith: "Allah's curse is on the womanizing, divorcing man" (la`ana Allahu kulla dhawwaaqin mutallaaq). Finally, even in the midst of and after divorce, Allah has prescribed kindness upon the man: "(After pronouncing divorce) she must be retained in honor or released in kindness" (2:228).

For the above-mentioned reason (i.e. to prevent the quickness of divorce), in his time, Ibn Taymiyya gave the ijtihad (juridical opinion) by saying that three talaqs in one sitting constituted only one. He did this to interdict the prevalent custom of suddenly giving three talaqs, which in his time was on everyone's lips, (i.e. had become so commonplace as to be a habit). However the other four schools of fiqh had the opposite opinion in this matter.

14. He must not dwell on what he dislikes in his wife, but on what he likes.

15. The husband is not to stay away from his wife or keep his wife in a state of suspense, whether at home or abroad, for a protracted period of time except with her consent. Allah said: "Turn not away (from your wife) altogether, so as to leave her hanging. If you come to a friendly understanding and practice self-restraint, then Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Merciful" (4:129). Protracted separation (6 months or more in the Shafi`i school) without prior or subsequent arrangement with the wife, whether the husband is away willingly or unwillingly (for example due to war, imprisonment, or illness) is sufficient grounds for her to obtain divorce from the judge.

16. The Prophet (s) said: "Do not beat your wife." He also said: "Do not strike your wife in the face." The expiation for striking one's slave in the face is to set him or her free on the spot, but what expiation is there for striking one's wife? The Prophet (s) condemned the man who beats his wife in the day and then approaches her at night. And to beat her to the extent of inflicting serious injury is enough grounds for her to obtain divorce from the judge.

17. Caring for one's wife's sexual fulfillment is an obligation of religion. The Prophet (s) warned against rushing to gratify one's pleasure and forgetting that of one's wife. He also disliked that the husband should quickly withdraw from his wife afterwards, as it is a strain upon the wife. If she asks for intercourse, he should not refuse.

Conclusion
These are only some of the basic duties of the husband in Islam. The state of marriage is part of one's adherence to the Sunna and an exalted state of life indeed. In the words of the Prophet (s), it permits one to meet Allah "pure and cleansed" (tahiran mutahharan). One's behavior towards one's wife is the measure of the perfection of one's belief as the Prophet (s) said: "The most complete of the believers in his belief is he who perfects his manners, and the best of you in manners are those who act best towards their wives." Marriage must be approached with utmost seriousness, entered with the purest intent, and cultivated religiously as it does not come cheaply and it carries immense reward. The Prophet (s) called it "his way" (al-nikahu sunnati) and "half of religion" and he also said: "Two rak`at (prayer-cycles) of the married person are better than seventy rak`at of the unmarried." He also warned that among the greatest of responsibilities that had been placed upon men is that pertaining to the treatment of their wives.

And may Allah's blessings and peace be upon Muhammad,
his Family and all his Companions,
and praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

(source: http://sunnah.org)



According to "The Almanac Book of Facts", the population increased 137% within the past decade, Christianity increased 46%, while Islam increased 235%.

In a recent poll in the (US), 100,000 people per year in America alone, are converting to Islam. For every 1 male convert to Islam, 4 females convert to Islam, Why?

It is Clear why Christians are converting.

1. Christian Scientists are declaring the Koran is from God. Visit Here for Christian and atheist Scientists who convert to Islam and why: http://wings.buffalo.edu/sa/muslim/library/jesus-say/ch13.html

2. The Christian Bishops and Priests are admitting the Bible has tensions. http://wings.buffalo.edu/sa/muslim/library/jesus-say/ch2.1.html

3. Jesus is a Muslim: http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Agora/4229/jam.html

The question still remains, why are more women converting than men to Islam ?
Perhaps they realize their Soul is worth the Factual Research.

1. The Bible Convicts Women as the original
Sinners, (ie. Eve picking from the forbidden
tree){Genesis 2:4-3:24}. The Koran Clarifies it
was Adam Not Eve {Qur'an 7:19-25}

2. The Bible says "The Birth of a Daughter is a
loss" {Ecclesiasticus 22:3}. The Qur'an says both
are an Equal Blessing { Qur'an 42:49}

3. The Bible Forbids Women from Speaking in
church {I Corinthians 14:34-35}. The Qur'an says
Women Can argue with the Prophet {58:1}

4. In the Bible, divorced Women are Labeled as
an Adulteress, while men are not {Matthew 5:31-32}. The
Koran does Not have Biblical double standards
{ Qur'an 30:21}

5. In The Bible, Widows and Sisters do Not
Inherit Any Property or Wealth, Only men
do{Numbers 27:1-11}The Koran Abolished this
male greediness { Qur'an 4:22} and God Protects
All.


6. The Bible Allows Multiple Wives{I Kings 11:3}
In The Koran, God limits the number to 4 only
under certain situations (with the Wife's
permission)and Prefers you Marry Only One
Wife{ Qur'an 4:3} The Koran gives the Woman
the Right to Choose who to Marry.


7. "If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not
pledged to be married and rapes her and they are
discovered, he shall pay the girl's father fifty
shekels of silver. He must marry the girl, for he
has violated her. He can never divorce her as long
as he lives" {Deuteronomy 22:28-30}


One must ask a simple question here, who is
really punished, the man who raped the woman or
the woman who was raped? According to the
Bible, you have to spend the Rest of Your Life
with the man who Raped You.


The Prophet Muhammad Says {Volume 9, Book
86, Number 101} Narrated by Aisha:" It is
essential to have the consent of a virgin (for the
marriage)".


Would the Christian men Reading this prefer the
Women they know to Be Christian or Muslim?


8. The Bible also asks Women to wear veils as in
Islam {I Corinthians 11:3-10}, this lowers the
chance of rape, (God Forbid), see statistic link
below.


9. Women were given rights to Vote less than a
100 years ago in the (US), while the Quran (42:38) gave
Women Voting rights almost 1,500 years ago.

10. Islam has unconfined Women and has given them
the human right to reach for the sky. There have been
Muslim Women Presidents through out the centuries,
but to this date, the oppressive mentality of the
men in the Western U.S.A. has stopped any Women from becoming
Presidents in predominately Christian countries,
while the Muslim countries have voted for and
elected Female Presidents.


Here is a list of previous Female Muslim leaders:


Khadija bint Khuwaylid
Aishah bint Abu Bakr
Fatimah bint Muhammad
Barakah
Ramlah bint Abu Sufyan
Rumaysa bint Milhan
Umm Salamah
Asma bint Abu Bakr
Zaynab al-Ghazali
Maryum Jameelah



The comparison goes on and on, to hear from some of these Converts, including Nuns, and Many Famous People, visit here; http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/newmuslims/

For more information and Statistics, visit here; http://www.jannah.org/sisters/

This is Dedicated to Past, Present, and Future Muslim Sisters, Family and Friends, to the Devil who prefers slander and hype over facts. Peace and Blessings upon All.

Answer 2

For your info, muslim women are not kept as slaves, if they are then that would mean all women are slaves. Islam is not madness, it's a pure religion, that's why alot of people are converting to islam everyday. People are not converting to Hinduism, Christianity, Bhuddaism much. It's not time for muslim women to wake up and it will never will be because they are already woken up since they are muslim. IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO WAKE UP AND GROW UP!!!!!

Answer 3

there is not something incorrect in Love between A Non-Muslim guy and Muslim female, yet a Non-Muslim guy will in no way marry a Muslim female. He might want to apply them yet even as it is composed of marriage they received't be waiting. Muslim women are literally not have self assurance worth.

Answer 4

I'm so tired of people like you posting questions on Yahoo! answers just to make people that you have personally decided to hate angry. If you think that the Koran is the only holy book against the rights of women consider that the Bible says, "Woman, obey your husband." Where as the husband need only "cherish his wife". Times change, people change, and religions evolve hopefully toward truth. Ignorant people always move toward lies.

And it's true that I don't know any Muslim women that are treated badly. It is not inherently part of the religion, just a part of the lives of a few extremists.

Answer 5

Huh? Slaves? Burj Dubai tower?

Answer 6

I do not know any Muslim women personally who feel that they are slaves. They are happy with their lives, treated well by their husbands and enjoy raising their children.

Answer 7

Islam is not 1400 years old its much older.Fix your facts.Your wake up call is as stupid as you.As you don't even know the meaning of muslimah.

Answer 8

This is not true. they are not kept as slaves and you should know this since you according to your name were a muslim.

if they were kept as slaves then they would have left.

I hope allah will forgive you.

Answer 9

BUDDY IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO WAKE UP AND REALIZE THAT MUSLIM WOMEN ARE NOT SLAVES
WOW you're proud you're an ex muslim?
funny man your just whack

Answer 10

Darling, darling, darling sister.... You've absolutely NO idea what Islam is all about. Look up "Women in Islam" on ANY search engine to understand that Muslim women are extreeeeeeemely satisfied with their lives as Muslim WOMEN! You've probably heard of those few Muslim women who're not treated well, but, honey, that's only CULTURAL!! Culture and man-made rules! And it has absolutely NOTHING to do with Islam.....Get your facts right, ma'am.
What do you mean it's time for Muslim women to wake up? See, it's time for the NON-MUSLIM women to wake up and realize that their Holy Books give them absolutely NO RIGHTS!!!!! The rights they have today, they got them hardly a couple of enturies ago!! Their religions deny them these rights, sweet honey! Not to sound disrespectful especially since I've tons of non-Muslim female friends and have lots of respect for them all.
I wrote this answer (same one!!!) for one of your other silly questions..... Cause I just can't help your same ignorant questions, that's why.
But I pity YOU instead.... Know why? Because Islam gives me, as a Muslim woman, the MOST respect that any religion could ever give its female followers.... Prove to me where ANY other religious/Holy Books have given the same rights to their females that I am given as a Muslim woman, friend.... My guardians are obligated to educate me... Are yours? I'm given a certain type of dress code to protect me from being molested by hungry males; are you? I get to inherit property (half because I'm not obligated to bear the financial responsibilities of my family!! WOHOO!!); do you? I get to have any kind of job I want; do you? Yeah, it's painfully sad to think that the western women had to go through lots of hardships to get the rights that they have today, but imagine when we Muslim women got our rights: OVER 1400 years ago!!!! Ahhhh...Don't fool yourself into thinking that your current religion gives you rights because it DOES NOT unless it's Islam. Proof? Read the Bible (Christian) or the Torah (Jewish) or the Vidas (Hindu) or any other Holy Book and search for women's rights in there.... Search for women's positions and roles and rewards in there.... Ahh.... you obviously never were a true Muslim, educated in the TRUTH of Islam, or else you'd know that non-Muslim women are constantly accepting Islam as their number one choice of religion BECAUSE Islam has the MOST respect for women.... Yeah, it's the truth, buddy! Not everyone can handle the truth.
Sorry to admit to you that you won't have much luck with trying to convert a Muslim woman to your religion (if you even have one)... ;) Muslim women cry to God with happiness because God has given us all these rights that a non-Muslim woman had to fight for to get those same rights hardly a few decades or a couple of centuries ago....
You're soooooooo indulged in how the media portrays a Muslim woman, aren't you? You're judging the Muslim women mainly based on how some uneducated, heartless Muslim men treat their women, aren't you?... Ahhh... May God help you open your eyes and your heart!!! I recently asked a question here on Y/A that went like: "Females, do you know your (religious) rights?" Here's the link.http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
Take a few mins of your time to LEARN the RIGHTS of Muslim women in Islam... The Muslim females who answered explained their rights in perfect details.... I know you won't read them because you're running away from the Truth, but oh well..!!!
May God bless you and guide you to His Path, inshaAllah!

Answer 11

Let's see, mmmm, at least as long as Christian women have been.