I broke up with my BF of a yr a week ago.He was always out with his friends & didnt give me a the attention,but i love him dearly.My friends said i shud end it to wake up.But it back fired,& i regret it.2 days after we broke up,i went to his house to say sorry & i didnt mean 2 hurt him.He said we shud hav a fresh start.The nxt day i tried to call him,no answer,he said hed call back but didnt.So i took the hint,&accepted he didnt want 2 B with me.The nxt day he txt me bluntly.The day after he rang 2 C Y i hadnt replied.So i said i got the hint.He put the phone down.&said i hurt him,n he wudnt of cried his eyes out on friday.We agreed to meet 2 talk.That day he cudnt *** bcos his car broke down.said he wants 2 work things out one way or another bcos he loves me but doesnt want to get hurt again.I spoke to him on the phone,asked him where we stood,he said weve broke up bcos i split with him,then said 'but doesnt mean u can find sum1 else thou'.We R supposed 2 b meeting 2day.Wat shud i do?
2007-01-05 21:30:30 · 18 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I saw him today. He was constantly crying...He declared his undying love for me..but said he couldn't get back with me because he couldn't be hurt again. I must admit i never asked him back because i realised why he hurt me in the first place (promising marriage, house and not following through)...then what he said this week, getting upset if i said we knew where we stood...and him telling me that i couldn't find someone else...then he cries endlessley to my face but can't be with me because he can't be hurt again because it would finish him off. He also said if i loved him i wouldnt finish him, etc... I just dont get him because he says one thing and mean another! But...got to move on now, i'm hurt but...
2007-01-06 06:30:08 · update #1
You broke up with him for a reason-it sounded like a good reason.
He sounds like he's just upset because you broke up and he is playing around with your feelings.
Tell him out right how you feel and why you broke up with him. If he really wants to get back together he will make some changes.
Remember that guys really do need some time with their friends--no guy wants to seem whipped.
2007-01-05 21:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you willl stop feeling confused when you meet him.
You know the reasons why you broke up with your boyfriend, but does he? Do you both have different ideas of how this relationship should work? Can you reach a compromise that will enable the relationship to work so that you are both happy?
There also seems to of been a communication breakdown. With some (negative) assumptions being made by both of you.
I have always said the key to any successful relationship is communication. If you have good communication, then in most cases the relationship is healthy & strong.
If you can resolve this hopefully you will be able to get back to together, & move forward.
2007-01-05 22:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all be honest with yourself: Were you expecting an unreasonable amount of attention or was he actually neglecting you? If he's spent more time with his friends than he should considering he's in a relationship (you may talk to your friends/mother to get an idea of what's realistic) then don't go running after him just because you miss him! i made this mistake myself for a while, hoping i'd either get used to his behaviour or him changing it, but right's right and wrong's wrong, so be clear with him about what you want from a relationship. my bf suddenly got quite humble when i broke up with him after i got sick of my wishes being ignored. now that i'm in the stronger position he's ready to do what it takes to patch things up. however, if your bf isn't prepared to make any changes you'll know he doesn't care enough and good riddance. of course you'll miss him and it may be hard for you, but remember your self-respect and stand by your decision - denying yourself won't make you happy.
2007-01-05 21:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by new-in-town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is playing games. Tell him you want a break for two months and fix a date to meet to discuss things then. then get out and about and keep yourself busy, you might find you don't need him so much. It always hurts most just after a break up but you do come through it.
2007-01-05 23:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kay u wont like reading this but in my opinion if he didn`t give u any attention before then the liklihood is he`ll give u attention if u get back together then more than likely slip back into his old ways after a while. i don`t know maybe he can change and i hope he does but be careful ok
2007-01-05 21:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by groundhog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u said your b.f never care and understand that u came and said sorry and not your fault, so u must to leave him alone, because he just act and have crazy mind to tell u that he hurted but he never i am sure, i know man he act that he is hurted and shy person when i met him he was a big lie, i did so many things to him and he cheated me after that so move on and leave him u will be stronger..
2007-01-05 21:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a deep breath, relax and put a few years under your belt before you get serious about relationships. You both are behaving in ways that are immature and because of that you are both getting hurt.
2007-01-05 21:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with a positive mind .. I think he loves you a lot but circumstances are just worsening the things ... go talk one to one eye to eye and judge whats nexet
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Sameer
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2007-01-05 21:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with him to wake him up was a childish thing to do. You messed up. Apologize and stop playing games.
2007-01-05 21:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by nope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He`s acting like a girl. Thats what girls do. Don`t let it hurt you. be strong and don`t act to desperate. Put your foot down. No more games.
2007-01-05 21:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋