Does anyone feel the same?

Question

I know this sounds selfish and awkward, but sometimes i feel frustrated and angry that i wish i am the only child in the family.

1) When my younger brother and sister were born, i couldn't continue having piano lessons anymore because of financial difficulties.
2) I have to give up many of my precious time doing my own things to look after those 2 young devils.
3) I have to share a bedroom with my younger sister and that means i have no privacy anymore.
4) Last year, both of my younger siblings tried to pick the lock of my cabinet in which i kept my money.
5) If anything happens or go wrong, my parents would target me and confront me first. (As if EVERYTHING is my fault)

In the end, i cannot advance in my favourite hobby which is playing piano up to Level 8, have no privacy and can't concentrate in what i wanted to do. All these make me upset and angry that i really wish i am the only child. Anyone feel the same???

Answer 1

You should talk to your parents about needing a little private time and a space to call your own. One day you will be thankful for your siblings. Right now they are driving you crazy but later on in life they will be your closest confidantes.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. I also had that feeling when my mom was pregnant when I was 16 years old. Unfortunately she had a miscarriage but I couldn't help feeling glad about it. Your younger siblings may have indirectly taken away a lot of things you once had which probally includes love and attention as well. But you just have to understand that they are family as well and you can't blame them for coming into this world. Giving up piano lessons might be hard but you could consider saving money and budgeting and paying for them? One day in the future when you're older and so are your siblings, you'll all be at your family reunion and talk about the past and laugh about it. Also in decades to come you can help each other through difficult times such as a passing away of a family member. Just remember that there are more pros than cons, even if it doesn't seem like it now.

Answer 3

Hi,

God made humans in such a way that they donot want what they have and they only want what they can never have..!!

Let us assume for a while that you are alone and have no sibling 'devils' (in your view). You will have ample privacy, love and care from parents. There will be none to share your room with you even if you crib for. There will be none else for an option to target when something goes wrong at home. Finally life looks like a mess again..!!

So what I suggest you is to create privacy for yourself by giong to a different place whenever you feel your life is crowded and messed up.

If you say i have the same feeling all the time, none can help it..!!
Try to enjoy life in the given situations and dont try getting into illusions.!!

Cheers...!!
Venkat.M

Answer 4

I feel the same, but I try to make a better relatioship with my siblings. I have to share room with my sister, but I look on the bright side, someone there to share your inner feelings to. I would always be the middle person to stop any fight or arugment, but they don't appreciate anything I do, they just think that i always jump into their conversation, but it not my fault, I want a quiet place to do my own thing. So i always like to be by myself at home. So, look in the bright side, sooner or later,they will grow and give you yoru privacy. Given siblings is a gift gave from above. As they grow up, they will realize that you have been the person who have taken care of them and will look up to you. don't worried, couples of years will go by fast.

Answer 5

Yes, I know how you feel. Sometimes I wanna kill them... harhar, because I am also the oldest. But I think of it this way..

They grow up so fast, and so do you. Spend more time with them, cause the next thing you know, they're all grown up and all those years would have passed by so darn fast. As the oldest you have the privelege to give them advice and be a role model. Spending time with them could lead to more understanding. Years go by so fast... it's already 2007. wow.

Answer 6

sounds like you need some privacy. maybe you should talk to your mom about this. i have a younger brother and sister and yes they took away from what i had before but its also tons more fun because my parents are outnumbered.

Answer 7

many, many years ago, i might have felt something like that.

as i matured, though, i came to appreciate that with or without a sibling, my life at home was going to include a certain overabundance of misery.

hang in there: it'll be over before you know it.

Answer 8

I know what are you talking about.But I know something els.When your sisters/brothers become older you guys will be good friends.Believe me.My sister and I had the same problems,but now we are good friends!!Just be a little passions.

Answer 9

Right now, i am wishing that i had been nicer to all my other 6 siblings when we were younger!!!

Answer 10

i feel for you it doesn't get any better from here sorry that the life of a person with siblings