So tonight I lost it.
Here's what happened:
I spend alot of time at his house. He falls asleep earlier than me often, and to pass the time I go online and check emails, participate in a couple message boards, go on yahoo answers, etc.
Well you know how when you are going back and forth from one site to another, instead of typing the web address each time, you can hit that little down arrow and see what websited were visited recently and just click on them to go back. Ok, well I often see that he has visited porn sites. I always try to shake it off, telling myself "a guy is a guy and its none of my business anyways". Tonight I went online after he fell asleep again and saw that the last thing he visited was ANOTHER porn site. I snapped. I woke him up and told him to take me home. He kept asking why and finally I told him. He said he loves me but it helps him get to sleep, ...anyways I left out of the car in a huff..It just hurts my feelings alot...advice??????
2007-01-05 20:33:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Porn is a very general term. Violent, pedophilia, or incestuous displays are a sign of a troubled mind and should be dealt with professionally. Since you are old enough to make the decision to do overnighters, of course you knew that guys beat off. Which part hurts your feelings? His having an orgasm without you being involved? Become involved. Watch him masturbate or offer to masturbate while he watches and/or does himself. Many different combinations can be imagined. Just start masturbating once while you're just relaxing and watch what pops up.
2007-01-05 21:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 09:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand on party it could make a common woman experience insecure seeing how the porn stars seem and all, yet however. surely sit down and consult with him, evenly, attempt. If he however gets an physique of concepts, maybe attempt putting out the internet for some weeks, then he won't be waiting to observe it. That way, with out the information on the workstation, he ought to experience better delicate speaking approximately it with out catching an physique of concepts. i do now no longer think of of you should bypass away your stay-in boyfriend of two and a a million/2 years over something like this. Now, if he starts off off mendacity approximately subjects that are worse, it is your queue to bypass away him.
2016-11-26 23:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you need to calm down, your making a huge deal out of something that is so normal. Every man looks at porn, gay, straight, square, green it doesnt matter every man looks at porn!! so unless you want to be alone for the rest of your life just get over it. Men are visual creatures they need to be stimulated in that way. It doesnt mean he doesnt like you it just means he is a man.
Think of it this way what if everytime you a sexy thought came into your head or everytime you thought of a fantasy your boyfriend started to scream at you!!! would be a little crazy wouldnt it.
honestly id be far more worried if he didnt look at porn, id be thinking 'what kind of a man are you?'
it doesnt mean he doesnt want to be with you or he wants to be with the girls on the porn sites it just means he's a man : )
2007-01-05 20:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and porn is like women and shopping. Women love to shop,men love porn...and beer...and burping the alphabet.It's a guy thing.Don't misconstrue this as a sign of him being "sick" or "perverted" or something like that,it's actually quite natural for guys to be "reeled" in by porn,and I believe it's rather healthy, in a sense it may take some pressure off of you when you're not in the mood and he is, tell him to hit the ole 'puter and feed his eyelids with the tons of free porn on it!
2007-01-05 20:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by ERIC R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys watch porn. But guys with girlfriends usually don't watch porn everyday, especially when the gf is around.
Try not to blow up next time and just talk to him about how his porn viewing habits is hurting your feelings. He'll cut down some if he cares about you, but I doubt any guy would go totally abstinent.
2007-01-05 20:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by naus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just something boys do, they like porn it's in their nature or something. You're just going to have to accept this fact, but explain to him why you don't like it. If it makes you feel bad, like he doesn't think you're pretty enough or whatever and turns to porn, let him know thats how you feel. But the porn definately doesn't have to do with you not being good enough, it's just something extra that boys like to look at for fun at night when they want some action before bed. :P
2007-01-05 20:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know. It sucks. You are not alone in this one. Guys are going to do this. It's not you. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY or you'll drive yourself crazy. I've been in a similar situation and had the same type of reaction. It really does hurt at first, but once you realize it's not you you'll be so much better about it. You'll get over this eventually and then you can kind of joke about it.
2007-01-05 20:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy watching porn is no big deal. It doesn't mean he doesn't like/love you, it just means he likes to play with himself. I think most men do, and porn helps us. It's just part of life.
2007-01-05 20:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you "accidentally" looked at his past sites lol come on now, you sound like my wife, It's natural. And yes, a guy can look at that and still love you.
CHILL THE HELL OUT, LIFE'S SHORT
2007-01-05 20:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋