Why do many girls/women give "it" up on the first night and then expect the guy to fall for them? I've had a few girls who acted like they were in love after one encounter and it wasn't like I was leading them on. When I wouldn't be the love of their life, then I was suddenly a heartless so-and-so.
2007-01-05 20:25:31 · 12 answers · asked by Preston 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, let me clarify a few things to avoid any further confusion.
1. I am asking this question because I always wondered.
2. It doesn't mean a lot to me now; I'm happily married to someone who didn't "give it up" for a long time.
3. As I said, I didn't mislead. I always vocalized a disclosure before anything sexual happened, which included: "This isn't going to become anything more than what it is tonight. If you want to, then that's cool, and if not, that, too, is cool. I don't want a relationship." I had friends who misled all the time and I saw the trouble it caused, so I thought being up-front would minimize those issues in my sex/dating life.
2007-01-05 20:47:59 · update #1
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT YOUR THAT EASY!!!!!!GO HARD!!!
2007-01-05 20:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls with very low self-esteem give it up on the first night and then want you to love them because they can't find the love within themselves. Girls that wait and know that what they have to offer someone is worth a lot will never expect love to come at the price of their body. Beware! Girls that put out really quickly are like cups with holes in the bottom of them...you can never fill them up emotionally and eventually they will drain their cup and yours!
2007-01-06 04:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I assume "it" is referring to sex of some kind. And if you are asking them to give 'it' up on the first date then you are part of the problem.
Women (tho I suspect are dating girls and having sex with far too many of them) are hard wired by nature to become attached to those they have sex with. It's in the biology. They are driven by instinct to seek a protector for the life that sex usually creates.
If you don't understand women, I suggest you leave them to the men who do.
2007-01-06 04:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look for one never sleep with anybody if you don't love them at all.You are used them believe it or not.Haven sex is a very intimate thing that should happened between your partner and yourself when you are in love with each other.Girl try and give there all because they gust want someone to like them.Not for what the can do for but who they are.Buy the way if I was you explain to her and tell the truth that you gust wanted sex.
2007-01-06 04:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women get attached more emotionally after having sex, while men separate it better between sex and love. Few of the rest are either really likes you or they are just desperate for a man
2007-01-06 04:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have been mislead by other men. Or they have been mislead by the world or they just live in a world all their own. You're just having sex, They are making love. or so they think.
who knows, but if this happens often, then maybe it is you misleading them.???? to solve. say, this means nothing, we are just going to have one night stand, no strings no needs. How do you feel about that?
2007-01-06 04:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone in the life define the love, some of the people describe it like to make love it's mean love some people different, so maybe u have different meaning of love, and u are right.
2007-01-06 04:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt their feelings so now their trying to hurt you. Some may try to hurt you mentally by calling you names or financially by destroying your property or physically by causing bodily harm. You can prevent this by being upfront and telling them all you want is sex.
2007-01-06 04:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me, i get butterflies in my stomach and get that "warm" feeling when a girl doesn't give it up for the first few dates. hell even a month into the relationship. if a girl is willing to screw on the first date, she isn't dating material.
2007-01-06 04:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i guess that by sleeping with them you gave them the impression you liked them. maybe you shouldnt sleep with women that you dont like.
2007-01-06 04:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess because they're shallow and insecure. If that fails, try hard-up and desperate.......
2007-01-06 04:29:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋