I don't think I can cope. There's been a lot of crap in my life thus far, but everything was better once he walked into my life. The more he loved me the more I loved myself, recently i've been self-harming again because it's been obvious he doesn't like me as much. Last night he ended it. I really don't think I can deal with life anymore - and where am I? ON YAHOO ANSWERS! becuase i none of my friends are available all of a sudden. I'm scared i'm going to do something stupid - i feel like killing myself...
help?
2007-01-05 20:18:43 · 15 answers · asked by tasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was the right guy for me. He was 'the one' for me. I've been in several relationships and nothing compares! I'm a 'survivor' of rape and have never really been able to open up to guys sexually before, this wasn't a problem with us, I also (because of past relationships believed I was unlovable and that as soon as I give up what i've been clinging onto (Sexually) they'll get bored or stop liking me, with all previous bfs i've been sure this would happen. It wasn't even a consideration with Alex, Iove him and trusted him more than anyone. Now i'm sure I was right all along. It's always gonna be like this. I can't do this life if i keep getting ****** over and left on my own.
2007-01-05 20:25:53 · update #1
Listen to me. What you are thinking is wrong. This is where the problem lies. You have to love yourself !! you have to find a way to let go and start with yourself. Hurting yourself is not going to make things better. Loving yourself first will make you feel better about everything. When you put yourself into the position of relying on someone else 2 love you to make you feel better about yourself all you are asking for is to be let down. Start with yourself. Be your best friend. You won't let you down. Love yourself first then other people will love you. It starts with you.
2007-01-05 20:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 38 years old and the same thing just happened to me.
We first lived in my house for about 3 monthes, then moved into his house for about 10 monthes, and then I moved out into my own place (YET ANTOHER HOUSE) and then he bought me a house right next door to his and once again I moved and I have alot of stuff only for him to decide right at christmas that he wanted a different girl. We were together for 4 years I loved him dearly until that night I caught him with her, of course they denied it so after a few days went by bamb I caught them hanging out together again and that's when I realized it was much more than that, I is killing me, because he put a restraining order on me and is mean while remodeling a house for her just on the other side of his house, so I'm on one side and she's on the other. I just got this house totaly redone and beautiful and now he's gonna evict me and just today he put me in Jail because I broke the restraing order and I didn't even say anything to him to make him do this, I was devestated and never had been to jail before I cryed the whole time I was in there I was a massive mess today and yet tonight I can look across the back yard and I can see them in her new house he's remodeling for her and there laughing and togetther Try that one on for size! It's really killing me to, exspecially since she is a hoebag and is totally ugly with a huge nose I am 10 time better than she ever will be even on her best day. But you know what! I walked out of that jail today holding my head up high noing I did nothing wrong got home took a shower and all of mine and his friends came over to see me and give me support. Knowing that someday he will realize what he has done but by then it will be to late, hell he's already to late, and the reason I say that is because she likes younger men and love the bar. Jim hates the bar and likes to control his women so that would mean she would have to stay home all the time. uh uh aint gonna happen with that one> Me i'm a homebody anyway and I don't care for the barseen tomuch anymore so it don't matter to me anyway, not that I would let him control me anyway and thats probly why I'm here and she's there. But it does get a little easier trust me, I totally freaked the first few nights, I don't even remember alot of things because I was in such a state. So you'll be O:K cause if I can do it so can u. Us girls need to stick together you know. And I'll lay money on it that thousands of other women would agree. So hand in there girlfriiend It will be allright, look at it this way! It's his lose not yours! and when he tryes to come crawling back to you you can tell him to kiss.... Well you know what! Hang in there Baby! sunnydays
2007-01-05 20:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love of your life walks out on you it doesn't mean your life is over, it doesn't mean the world will stop turning. You have to get used to the fact that these things happen. It can happen to anyone. But first I think you need to calm down. Talk to your friends when they can be available. I'm sure they will get you through this situation better than anyone on Yahoo Answers can. Just because a person doesn't love you isn't worth ending your life over. You just have move past it and move along. Enjoy life and try to be as happy as you can be.
2007-01-05 20:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hon, you need to get some help from someone in your life that cares. Find an adult..parent, teacher, pastor...someone you can really talk to so you can work on your issues. This might seem like the darkest day, but you can get through this. You need to reach out to someone and keep reaching out...over and over...until you can find the help you need. A good counselor and possibly medication might be the next step for you. Call the Boys and Girls Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000 and they can talk to you over the phone.
2007-01-05 20:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well don't! Not only does life move on eventually reagardless of what it throws at you but also you need to think about others you'd leave behind - including him!
It'd be over for you but everyone you know will carry it with them for the rest of their lives.
Wounds heal so let them, time will make things better even though you can't see it right now.
In addition after your comments.
It'd be better for you to look at him as the bad guy for a bit, turn your emotions around if you can and it'l make you stronger; even if just to get beyond this really dificult stage.
2007-01-05 20:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will all be ok, please do not do anything to hurt yourself. I always say that if it was meant to be it was meant to be, there's no reason to force yourself into making him the right one or vice-versa when your true soul mate is out there waiting somewhere. It will take some time, but you know it does take some wrong people to find the right one and when you do find the right one you will know it & they will love you as much as you love them and that is truly what you deserve. Life is precious, when a door closes another one opens. Best wishes to you.
2007-01-05 20:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Only_1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me last month.. i still live with my ex which sucks more because when he doesn't come home to sleep then i know he's sleeping with his new girl and it hurts that much more. life is ironic though because it will all work out in the end...things will work out. i mean i'm on yahoo answers for the same damn reason as you. but at least i'm not as sad as i was when it first happened and i've started talking to other people. it will get better as time passes don't worry.
2007-01-05 20:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lightn up some, your probably pretty young. Life will throw you some pretty interesting people. Don't just waste your life, don't look backwards. Only look up to the sky or forward. When god told Noah to build the ark he told him to only put a window in the top, and the front. So, he couldn't look back at the bad things behind him. If you need love just look up. Hope this helps you. It helped me. I'm 47 and loving it.
2007-01-05 20:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by LuckyChucky 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Self harm is never the answer, you can't let him control you...try to think to yourself, will he want to come back to me if he sees i can't cope without him, be strong and lift your head up and show him you are a strong women...he will come back to you knowing you don't give up on yourself and life.
Take care and be well always
2007-01-05 20:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no man is worth it,
who knows you end it today,and your luck he was going to come back to you the next day just needed time away to realize what he has.Really you need to call a church or hospital and let them know the thoughts you have and seek help for yourself,you have to love yourself first! Please get help i know how you feel i lost my dad cause my mom left him and he got sad and killed himself,who gained nobody who felt and still feels pain, ME.Just cause he couldnt live with out my mother how selfish.
i am sure you have a friend or familly member that loves you that they need you in their life please for me get help. thanks cause i do care about you and i feel your pain,ill be thinking all night about you God bless you and make your heart heal.
2007-01-05 20:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by bri n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋