I just lost my first love of 2 and a half years, he just up and left me all cold and for no reason simply because he like someone else and I was not his type he said. I feel sick, I can't eat, sleep or think and his face will not go away in my head. I try to cry but nothing will come out! He was my everything, even though he was a bad person he lied cheated and use me for my money but still I saw past all of that and was still able to love him to death. I feel like nothing without him. I never knew love felt like that. I met him a while back and I moved from SC to NYC to just be with him, I put everything on hold, my entire life for him and when I got here he changed on me and started to misstreat me but still I fell madly in love with him, and now he left me for good! I feel lost without him, Words can not explain how much he means to me, and it has not even been a month and he has this new guy on his myspace claiming him to be hs love and life, when i saw that i almost died help
2007-01-05 20:16:52 · 19 answers · asked by louis_vuitton_don864 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey when u say on ur own that he was a bad guy then y u miss him? look u got opportunity to recognize him that he is bad then y u feel bad just b,coz he has left u?
i know LOVE IS BLIND, but u should not b blind .
2007-01-05 20:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by kashish d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very natural to be depressed at this time. The pain might take sometime but life has to go on. There are reasons why this has to happend. You have to view things in a different angle now (and in a positive way). May be its time for you to see what is really happening in the relationship. Take time to seat back and evaluate.
To help yourself forget about it do something productive. When i lost my bf i exercise a lot and the more i take care of my beauty. Also i develop new skills like belly dancing, badminton, cooking, etc.
Be positive for the very first person who can help you is YOURSELF!
2007-01-05 20:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear i know how hard it is, but u just explain your case that u love him till death but what about him, maybe was love from one side, and u just thinking that from both side. be aware what is going on, don't lose your self because one man, i lost first love and its hard but i know the days will come and meet a new man and love me as i love him, and it come.
so first burn what is remember him, such as:gifts.. second try to find your life in other way, your life not with this man only, u must to know what to study and what u will be..
i know it's hard but i am sure u can...
don't let a man change your world to worse, and just thinking what he is doing NOW, that he is having fun with her, and he not care, so u must to be stronger don';t let him to effect to u negatively OK.. u are strong and u can do it.. u will love other man don't close your heart for someone never deserve u, if he have a heart he will never leave u, just imagine he is bad and evil that doing to angel like u did everything to him, and leave an angel... allot of men want that angel, so don't worry, be happy always, and said i am stronger than him and u can forget him..it's hard but u can make it easy OK, and u will find better and someone deserve u more.
2007-01-05 20:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it will get better. Don't let him ruin the rest of your life. Be a little selfish for a while, you deserve it after how he treated you. How about taking a trip back to SC? Visit your old friends and family. You're definitely better off without him, and you WILL find love again. Cut him out of your life completely and start over. This is your chance to re-invent yourself so make the most of it.
Good luck, and you will feel better soon. =)
2007-01-05 20:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erase all that, if you don't then it will hurt more. Block him from Myspace and erase the links to see that. I messed up and Myspace was of no help, though we met there. It made it worse. so just erase it and forget about it. why not get mad and this may help u forget. I tried that today but it was still there until a long time girl called me and made me forget, but no i came back online to see her face, now i can't sleep . I wasn't able to eat either so its whatever I think i will step up and seriously. Its hard but u will get over it. sorry
2007-01-05 20:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by chuckymafia2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to heal... sorry this has happened to you, this has happened to me and most other loving people in this world! Just take care of yourself and don't let this man stop you from being happy! If you want to make a difference, though, work on yourself to becoming more confident, looking good and learning more about yourself, show this man what he's missing!!!! xoxo
2007-01-05 20:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to move on. I know it hurts terribly right now, but to be quite honest...you're better off without him. He sounds like a real loser treating you the way he did and then just dumping you because he found someone new.Guys like that don't deserve second chances...
My advice to you is to forget him and find someone new who will treat you with respect and dignity. It's his loss that he lost someone as special as you....
2007-01-05 20:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have got to move on or else you will be left alone while he is now happy with his life. Make him realize that you are still better than his girl now and he will come back to you--if he really loves you.
2007-01-05 20:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by mimil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's completely normal to feel physically sick when you lose your first love. you feel as if life itself is surreal. i dont know what to tell you man. i feel your pain, only because i can tell through your writing how much you must have loved him. you have to push through the pain, because one day the sun will shine again. and you'll realize the experience has made you a stronger person. i know no words i can tell you will console you but i wish the best for you.
2007-01-07 15:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can just tell u one thing tell someone to pretend to become your bf and then in the front of your first boyfriend tell your fake bf to pretend that he could do anything crazy for u and make your first bf jealous and make him fell that he was not the one to dump you but you were the who dumped him. i m sure he will come back.this always works when i do. And the second thing i know one would want to be fake bf and to solve this problem u have to give something to the fake bf.well i do homework of that girl who pretend to be my fake gf but u can try something else.
2007-01-05 20:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by warblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋