is it normal for a guy to bring his girlfriend everywhere with him? Even to his best friends house, when it should just be a friends only thing. I'm getting so tired of him bringing his girlfriend over everytime when he comes to visit me and my brother. I wish it could jus be a friends night out. Ever since he first brang his girl around us, he thinks he could bring her around all the time now, when we want him to come chill. One night i was trying to have a get together between me him and my brother. He kept asking well whose all going to be there i kept puttin the hint out that it was only going to be me him and my brother. I though ok I hope for once he got that hint that he should leave his girl out of our get togethers. I am not useto her and I barely like her because of somethings. I don't want to be around somebody I barely know and don't plan on getting to know. I really don't like her because she treats him wrong and he should of left her because of that.
2007-01-05 20:15:26 · 13 answers · asked by Pretty Native Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea i know hes in love with her. Hes cried over her. I've seen it. So but still, he should know that it should jus be a friends thing. If I had a man, best friend wouldnt even be around, because next relationship I plan on getting into hopefully turns into long-term.
2007-01-05 20:30:16 · update #1
She's probably got a short leash on him. Be more direct, and tell him straight up next time that she's not welcome.
2007-01-05 20:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to get used to it. Perhaps your friend's gf has him on a short leash. Or else, he really likes this girl and they really enjoy being together as a couple. You'll prolly come across this when you have a great relationship with some bf.
Even if you don't like the gf, you just need to learn to be friends with the gf.. no point in getting worked up and eventuate in having a big ***** fight or something. Perhaps just suggest to your friend that once in a while it would be nice to just be you guys without the gf.. but he could turn around and be offended so you have to watch what you say.
Unless the gf is actually a genuinely horrible control freak gf and it's obvious she bosses him around, then you as a friend should have the right to advise your friend about getting his individuality back or something,
2007-01-06 04:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, ive recently dealt with something like this. My friend and I had a saturday morning bowling league and it was just us and his brother. And then we had a huge fight (we were dating...then split) and then when he got a girlfriend, even when we were trying to be friends and hang out with our friends, he would bring her too. Which is normal, but it shouldn't be a thing to do all the time. He started bringing her to the bowling league and it affected our friendship..so now we're not friends...
all you have to do is ask if there can be a time where he can break away from his girlfriend every once in a while to come hang with you and your brother. And if he decides he can't do that, he just cares about himself and his girlfriend. And you deserve better.
2007-01-06 04:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have relations with him where it would make sense to talk to him in private to express your concern, do it, but know you might risk offending him. He might even take off for a time. This stuff is somewhat common where one friend in a group finds a girlfriend or boyfriend and suddenly they feel the need to be attached at the hip. Unfortunately it tends to cause friction. Look at how the Beatles split up. If you do talk to your friend and he takes off for a while, hopefully he will come to his senses later and return when he realizes he must balance friendships and girlfriends. If he doesn't then that's his problem.
2007-01-06 04:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a new relationship for your friend then I would say yes this is normal when two people first get together, they like to spend most of there time together to get to know one another better. Also your friend may be trying to get approval of his new girlfriend which is also normal. He wants his friends to like her and be happy for him. My feelings is this! I feel that you should be honest with your friend! If you would like to spend time with just your friend then be honest to him.I would not ask for this all the time because he will get the idea that you do not want his girl friend around the two of you at all, which will keep him away from you more if he knows this. If this person is a true friend then you should be able to speak to this person about this problem and explain that you would like to have quality time with him alone. Let him know how important his friendship is to you! Let him know that you miss spending time just with him! I hear you say you do not like his new girl friend! I would not tell him that unless he ask you and then I feel you should not lie about it but I would be carefull what you say to him about her because he will react badley if you talk bad about her.Tell him that you do not like the way she treats him and that it makes you feel bad seeing your friend being mistreated by his girlfriend.If you tell your friend you do not like his girlfriend then he may stop coming around to see you! If he is a true friend then you should be able to talk to him about your feelings reguarding this matter also. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 04:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell ur friend nicely that its nice to have her gf around, but once in a while ull very appreciate it if he comes alone.
You should understand too that even though he is ur friend, he has a gf already now.
If he really likes her a lot, you should start open ur heart more & try to get along w her. thats what great friends do to each other
2007-01-06 04:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you dont like her. Or just stop inviting him over. Then when he breaks up with her, he'll start being friends with you again. That is always how friends act when they find a new bf/gf. They want to be around that person all the time. They are in looooove.
2007-01-06 04:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by kitttykitti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you like the guy. Am i right? i dont want to say you seem jealous, but Is OK and natural.
I think in your case you need to avoid any friction with the girl. It is not her fault. You need to make things clear with the guy.
I am sure that you wouldnt say the same things if he was married with her. so it seems that you dont see their relationship serious.
If you really like the guy and want him for you, dont start it with having problem with the girl. He will dislike you if you do so.
Continue being his friend and respect his circumstances and let him understand that you care for him.
2007-01-06 04:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely normal, I wouldn't want any of my closed friends to bring their gf out when its suppose to be a night that we all are suppose to chill. I usually, just tell it straight out, if your friend don't understand the way you feel, your friend not a true friend, but your friend should be able to understand how you feel. Thats how you get better relationship with your friend. By communitcating and listening.
2007-01-06 04:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so not normail but I think I knoww why. His girlfriend thinks that you and him are like gf and you like as a bf so beware and just maybe try and tell her that you aren't
2007-01-06 04:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sankiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋