2007-01-05 20:11:00 · 20 answers · asked by Joi J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you feel you can talk to him about it, do so. communication is number one in every relationship. the next time he does something manipulative, stop the moment and let him know you feel run over and frustrated by what he just did. however, if you feel you can not talk to him about it, again, i say you should try to. he may not be realizing it or he may just not know what to do. be open with him, let him how his actions make you feel. if he gets angry or is abusive, i would highly recommend not staying in the relationship. hopefully, him being angry or abusive is not the case, but either way, he should know that a healthy relationship involves three entities: you and him combined, himself, and yourself. both of you should be allowed to maintain your identity and desires while working together. most people aren't very keen to the idea of counseling, but it's always there if it would work. if you get him to talk with you, try your very best to be civil. if he's a guy who's willing to fix things, hearing your calm voice and knowing you care shouldn't put him on the offensive. hope you guys can work this out and he begins to understand he can't continue to work you over. be strong and good luck!
2007-01-05 20:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by glassjawgrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reread answer number 4.
There are as many perspectives on what defines manipulation as there are on just about any other topic. When you ask questions without providing background information you can hardly expect a thorough answer.
That being said: stick this in your mind a million times or more. You have the ability to change yourself. You have limited ability to influence others in this life. But you have very limited ability (next to none) of changing someone else - especially if they are already headed in the opposite direction.
I once had a girlfriend who had some emotional problems (baggage) from a childhood experience. Although it had been a good 10 years or more she was still very traumatized by this. I thought I could help her.
Bottom line: I was wrong.
2007-01-06 04:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be manupulative too. Fittest survive.
2007-01-06 04:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Carl R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you have been together and how he is manipulating you. Without knowing any details, I am inclined to agree with the other answerer who suggested you "dump his a**." But I don't know exactly what he is doing so that might not be the best option.
2007-01-06 04:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean by "manipulative". Many women define this word as meaning the guy will not do what she wants.
Try be honest with him, and explain what your needs are. Only when he is 100% clear can the issue be addressed.
2007-01-06 04:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you are considering manipulative if it's harmful emotionally or physically then yes dump him if you've been together for a while and the problem can be solved then try to talk to him and tell him what will happen if it can not be solved
2007-01-06 04:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in your car. Run him over. Back up. Repeat. Drive away.
2007-01-06 04:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bugz414 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it may hurt you, you are better off without some one like that. DUMP HIS A55!
2007-01-06 04:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend. He won't change.
2007-01-06 04:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to take a hike and find a new boyfriend
2007-01-06 04:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋