Does he want to break up?

Question

My bf has been acting really distant these days i mean we talk but it just seems to cut and dry. We spend nights where I'm usually online in the living room and he's in the bedroom with the video game. He seems to be getting mad at me for stupid things lately but always seems friendly afterward like nothing ever happened I ask him if he feels bad for his outbursts and he said he usually does but then he will find something else to get mad at me about. he said something just this morning that hurt me and when I wanted to talk about it he told me he "didn't remember saying that" I talked to a mutual friend and she had said that another mutual friend said to her that she thought we had broken up I told the first friend No and she was mistaken and I confronted my bf and he said he never said that and he did talk to her a few weeks ago but didn't mention anything about our relationships. Her and I talk regularly and she has not mentioned anything about a break up to me. I just want to know

We have been together a year and almost four months. when I ask him he tells me if he didn't want me anymore he would leave and sometimes I get accused of being paranoid but when he talks to his mom and dad or my friends he says everything is fine. he denies telling anyone that I know anything about a break up. whenever he gets mad about something he always seems fine after a bit when he "calms down" I also tend to think if he did want to break up perhaps one or more of our mutal friends would say something because he does communicate well with friends. I just get sad when he gets mad at me and he doesn't like me to cry in front of him because he "doesn't like to feel responsible for it" and we do live together by the way. I want to know if he does want to end things but I feel like an idiot if I keep asking him but his usually response is always along the lines of "if he didn't want to be with me he wouldn't be" and if he did want to break up he would tell me. but I do wonder....

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear he's treating you like this. It sounds to me as if he's lost interest in your relationship. You don't say how long you've been together, but I'm guessing it's quite a while.
The exact same thing has just happened to me about a month ago. The only thing you can do is ask him straight up what he wants. This is hard for some guys as it puts them on the spot and they're not good at telling us their emotions. That's how I found out anyway, and now we've split up and I couldn't be happier.
Remember, if he makes you unhappy for just one minute, you've just wasted one minute of your life.

Good luck =)

Answer 2

Does he have any extra stresses in his life lately - work, faily etc - that might expalin his behaviour. It sounds like he wants some space alone, hiding away on the computer etc. Or maybe he has met somebody online? Just leave him along for a while, keep busy and do your own thing. Don't be needy and don't let him be disrespectful to you. I think he does wnt to break up wth you - that friend saying something about it is too much of a coincidence. You're probably also better off without him.

Answer 3

Yes he does want to end it, I did this gay routine once and well it worked. I got love back from one but thats what i was testing. however the other one was not the same situation, previous to the above mentioned. she was like why are u being like this and i hope i gave her the right impression that i was mad at her. so thats me being stupid. so he may feel the same or confused.

Answer 4

it sounds like your communication with him is awful. this may not be all your fault or his. something is wrong and my advice is for you to take care of yourself first. don't put him or the relationship with him before your own needs. we cannot predict the future or if he is going to break it off but i can tell you this. most relationships don't work out. don't let this discourage you. something will work out for you if this isn't the one. do you really want to be with this guy? it sounds like both of you probably have mixed feelings but sense that something is happening, or ending...

if it does end i suggest you take care of yourself and not let him decide how you feel about yourself. don't let him take your confidence or self-esteem away from you. just take care of yourself and if you both want to work it out start by addressing reality. reality is you both don't communicate too well. maybe therapy could help. maybe you need to dump him! good luck.

Answer 5

If he's not talking to you, he's not interested in you anymore. If he doesn't wan't to even be around you, he's not interested in you anymore. If he loved you and wanted things to work out, he would show it. He's telling you he's done with you without verbally saying it. Gather what's left of your pride, take a hint, and move on with your life. You're delaying the inevitable if you don't.

Answer 6

He could be getting confused about the relationship and he doesn't know what to do. or maybe he wants to end the relationship but doesn't know how so he is acting out to get you to end things

Answer 7

eek, i had a similar experience. when my bf started acting distant and moody, and then we broke up. it sounds like it...unless he's PMSing or something haha.

i would be very careful. once someone starts to deny their faults, and get away with it, they'll start to be controlling.