pain is my past problems.i worry a lot for what had happened in my past years.i come from avery orthodox family from india.when i was 17yrs i had an affair wth a boy .i even had physcical relation wth him serveral times.like that years passed when i was 19yrs,(my parents or his parents was not aware of our relation),my boyfriend as me to come for a date outside so i went bunking my classes wth him in his car.he parked his car to a wall on remote roda side,which was unnoticebale.but unfortunately somone noticd and informed police about the car parked.actually in tht we had sex and i was also half dressed.when police came they also fiund that im not dressed properly ,but still i manged to wear my skirt and tshirt properly wthout my undergarment,it was lying inside the car.even my boyfriend tried to avoid the police interference but we where taken and parents whr called and it was an utter shock for parents and it took months to forget and now they forget all,but when ever i thnk i worry
2007-01-05 19:48:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that was a long time ago and it sounds to me like you are truly sorry to have made such a mistake so forgive yourself like others have long since forgiven you and when you have done that and only when you have done that will this problem stop bothering you.
2007-01-05 19:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone in that our past mistakes or misbehavior pops up in our memory and makes us feel guilty or apprehensive years down the track, forgive yourself and let it go you really did no wrong and it sounds as though it was forgiven by your parents also. Live your life for now and the future you sound as though you are happily married with a beautiful daughter and you will be able to draw on your past experiences as a guide for when she grows into a young woman.
2007-01-06 03:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was the past, and it happened years ago so you shouldn't worry. I think that if other people are still stigmatizing it and are thinking about it as if it happened yesterday and still looked down on you for it, it's not your problem. If you still feel guilty then you should forgive yourself because the present matters now. I don't really know what it's like in your culture but that is that advice I have to give you! There are worse things to worry about.
2007-01-06 03:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by purringout 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up a life experience. The real question is, "Are you going to do this again?"
If not, why worry about it. Since you have not discussed this with your husband, the stress is really that he will find out from someone. What if he screwed someone else too? How would you feel, forgiving?
Just be prepared to be mature and ask his fiorgivness if he finds oyut...but I doubt if he will care.
2007-01-06 03:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry about the past. Most of us have gone through this phase. the past has gone may be everyone would have forgotten. You need not worry about. Is it worrying because your husband may find it out. Then you need to find out what is your husband's reaction by telling him that it happened to one your friend. If he accepts this as a passing affair and then try to explain that you were the one. If you do not feel to tell your husband then you need not worry about. Live your happily married life.
2007-01-06 03:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of All, I wanna say that Indians are not orthodox........... Yes,. .. They are very much concerned abt their children...... But How can u use 'such words' .........
&& regarding ur problem...... I will say that Everyone has its past..... & If the past is ''painful''' so, the Better thing to do is........"""Forget that''''. If u r happy n well settled ........ than Be involved into that..... FORGET UR PAST............. Keep Busy Yourself in diff. diff. things...
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
&& U should be proud to be an Indian............ I hope u understand..........
2007-01-06 04:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
still ur question is incompleter wats the real prob r u worried ur hubby or your child woyuld some day dig out that era? clear your question so that a better answer could be given
2007-01-06 03:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all do silly mistakes and you were young at the time, try and put this behind you. your happy now and thats all the matters. i know its hard to forget about it but you really should try, or try talking to a good friend about this
2007-01-06 03:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so your big traumatic experience is you had sex and someone found out?
wow, you have issues. sex is a normal human function. the vast majority of people have sex by around age 18.
2007-01-06 03:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It looks your memory is sharp.
2007-01-06 03:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋